Work Weekend

3Last weekend, I had a work retreat thing which meant a short trip to the mountains and a very loosely-goosey dress code. Just exactly what does one wear when “hanging out” with work colleagues in the middle of nowhere? Thankfully, no camping was involved, and I further simplified my dilemma by carefully avoiding the outdoors as much as possible. (Which was, in retrospect, a rather prescient move on my part, since a couple of my colleagues had a closer-than-recommended encounter with a bear on a hike near our resort. Luckily, it was not a Leo-going-for-the-Oscar type of situation, but scary nonetheless.) In the end, I went with a simple, business casual capsule, heavy on black and warm layers. Conference rooms are always cold as freezers, no matter the season or location.

Here’s what I wore:

Friday a.m.
Friday a.m.

I wore this at the office in the morning, then on the bus to Kananaskis. Comfort level: one step down from sweatpants.

Friday p.m.
Friday p.m.

Once we got to the hotel, a night of pub trivia and collegial mingling awaited us, so I changed into the mom version of my old “going out” uniform. Comfort level: half a step down from sweatpants.

Sunday a.m.
Saturday a.m.
Saturday p.m.
Saturday p.m.

Saturday went something like this: meetings, lunch, meetings, massage, nap, brief consideration of going outdoors, nap, dinner. I wore my new-to-me Cartonnier blazer (part of a swap with Jen/Life Preloved) during the day, and my Club Monaco dress at dinner. It was all pretty low key, but I blended in well and I count that as a success.

Saturday a.m.
Sunday a.m.

There were more meetings on Sunday, then a long drive home, so I went with my sweatpants-like non-sweatpants for comfort, and threw on a blazer for respectability. I think I accomplished … some of my goals, at least.

In all seriousness, Kananaskis Country is gorgeous and you should go visit if you get a chance. Here’s proof:

Kananaskis Lodge
Kananaskis Lodge
foggy morning
foggy morning
mountain-scape
mountain-scape
bye, bye Kananaskis
bye, bye Kananaskis

Note: Chapter 8 of A Temporary Engagement is now up on my other blog. Check it out here.

Orchid Power

Dress, Maggy London (thrifted); cardigan, J. Crew Factory; shoes, J.Crew; bag, Rebecca Minkoff
Dress, Maggy London (thrifted); cardigan, J. Crew Factory; shoes, J.Crew; bag, Rebecca Minkoff

Nothing new to see here today, folks. I mean that quite literally … although, of course, all these old pieces are re-mixed in a new and exciting way, for your viewing pleasure. Hah! Winking and nudging aside, let’s talk outfit. This dress is an odd duck, in that it’s not a dress I should love — too, too much going on with the colours, and the florals, and the lace, oof — but I’m oddly attached to it.

For some reason, I decided to add to its too-muchness by pairing with yet another print in the form of this woven leather Rebecca Minkoff bag. Why? Who knows. I do know that it’s the roomiest non-tote bag I own; awfully handy for the office.

And that leaves the shoes, which are those very versatile dusty purple pumps I’ve worn a half dozen times already. I keep stalking J. Crew to see if I can find another good sale again, and snap them up in other colours. No dice yet, but I can be patient when a good pair of shoes is at stake.

big bag, don't care
big bag, don’t care
black & florals
black & florals

The Dark Side of Thrift

Ooh, that sounds ominous, doesn’t it? Click bait title aside, I thought it would be fun to write a post about some of the downsides of thrifting (perceived and real), along with some thoughts about ways to tackle them. I amuse myself in odd ways, OK? If you like to amuse yourself by reading the odd things I enjoy writing, well … read on, my friend.

Thrifting Takes a Lot of Patience & Time

Yes and no. Patience, yes — definitely. I consider myself a pretty seasoned thrifter, and there is only so much I can do simply by eye-balling a rack. Once in a blue moon, a Burberry trench will basically jump out at you among a sea of indifferent coats, but most of the time, you are going to have to get hands-on. And you will most likely have to sort through an endless array of Walmart and Forever21 rejects before you come across a true gem. Patience is also required to learn the ways of the thrifting Jedis — the hand-feel of quality materials, the who’s who of designer labels. There really isn’t a shortcut. Sorry.

Time is another thing. It’s true that thrifting success increases the more time you spend thrifting, but that has more to do with the frequency of your visits, rather than their duration. The actual process doesn’t have to take long. If you’re pressed for time, you don’t need to scour the store from top to bottom; just focus on whatever areas are most interesting or useful to you. My advice is go often, and take it one (or two) sections at a time. Patience will pay off here too, because with practice you will find that it takes you less time to go through racks, which means that you can use your time even more efficiently.

Thrifting Is Location-Specific

True. Some cities have better thrift scenes than others. I have no scientific proof, but I think the best places to thrift are mid-sized towns as opposed to large metropolises; they tend to have the best balance of good selection and reasonable prices. (By contrast, smaller towns might have better prices, but worse selection; large cities, the opposite.) Suburbs or exurbs of large cities are also good bets, in my experience. Location is also important within a particular town. No two thrift stores will have the same selection, so you will need to suss out the ones that consistently get the best donations. Keep in mind that this can be a function of both (a) the habits of donors in the area, and (b) thrift store management decisions. In some places, chain thrift stores with more than one location in a town may move donations around from one location to another. However, for the most part, you can probably safely assume that a thrift store located adjacent to an affluent neighbourhood will get lots of good stuff.

But what if your local thrift scene is not so good … or is non-existent? Unfortunately, if you live in Canada, your options are limited. I suggest checking out Facebook swapping or selling groups in your area, consignment stores, and Kijiji. Etsy and eBay are, of course, also options, but the exchange rate and shipping costs are going to work against you unless you find a local seller. If you live in the US, you’re luckier — there are tons of online alternatives to thrifting available, such as Poshmark, ThredUp, Twice, and so on. And let’s not forget Instagram; there are lots of thrifters who sell online through dedicated IG accounts, and the prices are usually better or at least comparable to eBay and other reselling sites.

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Thrifting Encourages a Buy Buy Buy Mentality

This, in my experience, is all too true as well. Inexpensive clothes beget more consumption, in most people’s cases. After all, entire fast fashion empires have been built on that trend. Of course, the net impact of thrifting (on the environment, and one’s wallet) is typically much lower than buying retail, but it can still add up over time. Worse, thrifting can lead to a terrible case of “overflowing closet, nothing to wear” syndrome. How can one build a well-functioning closet while resisting the lure of cute-but-unnecessary clothes that cost less than a latte?

Let me start by mentioning two approaches that people often suggest in the context of (retail) bargain shopping which I don’t find very workable in the context of thrifting. First, “pressing pause”. The idea there is to stop yourself from acting on impulse, by not immediately buying whatever item caught your eye and instead “pressing pause” for 24 or 48 hours (or some other period of time). If you still want the item at the end of that period, you can then proceed to buy it — or you may realize that you didn’t want the item that badly after all.

I don’t find this approach useful when it comes to thrifting because, at least 80% of the time, you won’t find an item at the thrift store when you go back to get it … even a few hours later. Good finds are scooped up fast, you guys. This one of my personal struggles with thrifting, because it creates a pressure-chamber shopping environment – I need to make decisions (to buy or not to buy) NOW, double quick time. I’ve gotten better at making reliable snap decisions (more on that below), but I still miss from time to time. I tend to look at those “misses” as essentially charitable donations (which is what they actually are in the case of stores like Goodwill), but I still work on reducing poor decision-making.

Second, there is the test favoured in a lot of articles on this subject: would you buy the item at full price? I find this a useless approach because my answer is, 99% of the time, “duh, no.” The truth is that even if I had zero blazers in my closet, and had a super important interview coming up, I wouldn’t pay $400 for a Theory blazer. In reality, I certainly have more than zero blazers in my closet, so paying $400 for a Theory blazer is not even a question. But paying $4 for a Theory blazer? That’s a whole ‘nother story.

OK, so how do I keep my thrifting in check? Well, if you’ve read my recaps then you know that I don’t. Ba-dum-tish! Just kidding – I really do try. Here are some of the things I try to keep in mind at decision time:

– Is this something I truly need? (The answer, for me, is usually no.)
– Is this something that could replace or upgrade an existing piece, especially something that is a wardrobe staple for me?
– Would I pick this item to wear at least as often (or more often) as similar items currently in my closet?
– Does it fit my style vision? (This is a work in progress, but I’ve been getting better at saying “no” to ruffles, skater dresses, and Anthropologie.)
– Does the item feature any of your style deal-breakers? (This is a different way of getting at the same thing as the previous question. If you’re not sure you have a handle on your style, I would echo Into Mind’s suggestion of developing a list of things you know you don’t like – like ruffles, flares, the colour green, etc. It’s very easy to rule out pieces when you’re comparing them against this sort of list.)
– Does the item require costly alterations?
– Does the item require costly upkeep? (Since discovering home dry-cleaning, this has become less of an issue for me, but YMMV.)
– Would I buy this piece if it didn’t have the particular designer label attached? (This is often a big one for beginner thrifters – the thrill of a designer find is hard to resist. I find it gets easier with time to leave behind designers I could only dream of owning in the past.)

I think these types of question can be useful regardless of the shopping paradigm at play (thrift, consignment, retail, etc.) in terms of encouraging more mindful consumption, which is never anything but a good thing.

Ok, your turn now. I would love to hear your thoughts on the “dark side(s) of thrifting — what you struggle with and how you deal with it. And if you’ve got any thrift-related questions, let them fly in the comments!