Month: March 2018

Style Musings: A Fresh Take

I’ve shared before that one of my fave subreddits is Female Fashion Advice. I’m older than what I think would be a typical subscriber, which makes some of the discussions less relevant to my interests, but I like the variety of backgrounds and aesthetic preferences because it exposes me to new ideas and new ways of looking at fashion all the time. Sometimes, even to a proverbial paradigm shift.

This comment proved to be something of the latter. The idea of identifying the different facets of my style as individual “characters” – each with their own defining characteristics – was immediately intriguing. The OP’s list of characters really spoke to me as well. I started thinking about what mine would be, and the exercise quickly proved to be extremely fruitful … and pretty effortless. Things just sort of came together – everything from my style preferences to my wardrobe palette.

Like the OP, I also ended up with 4 characters: two for work, two for off-duty (mostly). Each duo essentially represents a masculine and feminine take on a particular aesthetic. I am going to write a separate post about each one but, first, a few words about some other pertinent details.

Colour Palette

My palette has remained pretty constant over the last couple of years, but I did make a couple of small tweaks as part of this process of re-imagining my closet.

First, having recently acquired a cognac bag, I realized that it’s a nice, softer alternative to black as a core/outfit-grounding neutral. Black is always going to be a staple in my closet – at least one of my style personas leans heavily on black – but I have been drawn to softer, warmer, lower contrast colours lately. So my neutrals have mellowed to dove gray, ivory, and cognac (along with grey). I’m also moving away from navy; I like midnight blue (especially in velvet), but navy feels too drab.

Second, I have decided to swap out some of my core colours. I chose plum (and related shades of warm purple) over burgundy, and sage (muted green) over jasper (dark green). I also decided to forego the bright, almost-cobalt blue that was a long-standign favourite. I still adore the colour, but it’s too contrast-y for the rest of my wardrobe. I only had a couple of pieces in this shade left in my closet, and I said a (reluctant) goodbye to them recently.

The balance of my core colours stayed the same: mauve/blush, mustard yellow, olive, (muted) blue.

Kibbe Type

I think I’ve written about this before, but my face and my body are somewhat at odds when it comes to Kibbe Types (Classic, Dramatic, Romantic, etc.). I have an hourglass/slight pear shape body, which looks great in form-fitting, waist-accentuating, very femme clothing. (NB: Is it weird to talk about my body in the third person? Yes? No? Let’s pretend that didn’t just happen.) My face, however, is quite angular, with strong features that are not particularly feminine. Dramatic haircuts — blunt bobs, pixies, etc. — suit my face in a way that more traditionally femme ones (long hair, soft waves) don’t. So there is a definite disconnect there.

As I get older, I find that I want to focus more on my face, and less on my body. I am leaning away from things that might be seen as traditionally welcoming/inviting of the external (male) gaze, if that makes sense. That’s not intended as a critique of any particular style; I’m past the stage of giving a s**t if someone dresses for men, or for women, or for whomever. Everyone should do whatever makes them happy.

Anyway, as will become apparent as I go through my style characters in future posts, my aesthetic is now more closely aligned with my facial Kibbe type. As my current bob is also on the same page, I feel on top of my game.

Wardrobe Reset

After deciding on my style characters, I went through my clothing inventory and tagged each item as belonging to one or more character; there was actually a fair bit of overlap. I did this for everything in my closet, including shoes and bags. The results were very enlightening. Although I had already pared down my wardrobe a lot (down to about 150 items), I found quite a few things that didn’t belong. These were, by and large, items I had already “flagged” to myself as candidates for purging, but which I could not bring myself to part with before. This gave me the last, much-needed push to move them out of my closet. Some went into the basement closet purgatory, some just went straight out (donated, swapped, or listed on the ThriftRats sho).

April is the first month when I will be starting to implement my new approach, so stay tuned to see the outfits and my discussion of each style character.

What I Wore: March 22-28, 2018

Casual Friday Best

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This is one of my best casual Friday outfits in recent memory, and I wore it to see Michelle Obama speak at Rexall Centre. Living my best life, hashtag.

As far as the outfit goes, I am obsessed with this shade of green – I’m calling it “sage” – which has replaced jasper (dark/forest green) as my favourite green. My other favourite thing about this outfit is the bag; the cognac is a less expected choice than black, but it works really well as part of the colour story here. (Does “colour story” sound unbearably pretentious?) This is the second small MbMJ crossbody I thrifted in the last few months, and I am ever so thankful for it. It’s the perfect size for weekends and other occasions when I’m “traveling light” and don’t want to bother with a big bag. The style is so simple and so classic that it goes with anything. Really, these are great bags and you can sometimes find them on eBay for great prices so I guess what I’m saying is that you need to look into this, right now.

Starry Starry Shirt

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It’s a shirt … with stars on it. Your mind has been blown, I’m sure. It’s actually more complicated than that, because the shirt also has very detailed cut-outs. Just Anthro, throwing everything at the wall (creatively speaking) to see what sticks. I feel like I would like the shirt more if it just had the stars, but oh well. It will probably end up in the ThriftRats store at some point. Paired with this old Zara skirt, the result is cute – a little more “girly” than I would like, but cute. Next time, to switch things up, I think I will pair this skirt with something more voluminous on top – not cropped, not tucked in. If the result is more Shapeless Blob than Unexpected But Interesting Silhouette, the skirt might be on the chopping block as well. I am ruthless, I tell you.

Edited to add: The shirt, oy vey. The quality turned out to be hot garbage. The sleeve cut-outs got caught on things and started unraveling on the first wear. The material is super cheap poly, and the cut-out are not reinforced in any way so you can imagine that disaster waiting to happen. What the hell, Anthro? Not cool. Needless to say, don’t buy this (on eBay or whatever).

Obi Chic

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This is an old outfit EXCEPT … new belt. It goes really well with this top, doesn’t it? I like the easy adjustability of an obi-style belt because, let’s face it, my waistline after lunch is not the same as before. Comfort above all, my friends.

Unapologetic Mom Jeans

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Gosh, I love this so much, I don’t know where to begin. The jacket is a perfect embodiment of my style essence – butterflies on a leather jacket. It was thrifted in brand new condition by my friend Jenn (Life Preloved in IG), and you better believe that I snapped it up from her as soon as she posted it for sale. No regrets. Jenn also runs a consignment biz, which is how I ended up with these amazing Holding Horses mom jeans. Y’all know I have a thing for patched denim. Also, that lightweight wash is great. I knew these two pieces would be great together, and while this might not be “the” (I.e. only) perfect outfit in my books, it’s a perfect outfit for sure.

What I Read: Deep Thoughts Edition

Lately, most of my leisure time has been divided between my new hobby (embroidery, holla!) and rediscovered old ones (blogging, holla!), so reading has taken a backseat. For comfort, I’ve been reading some of the usual suspects (Anne Perry, the Maisie Dobbs mysteries, some previously read historical non-fiction), which probably do not warrant a post. I’ve got a few promising books coming my way – and a couple of vacations coming up as well – so I will have more to report later, but for now I only have one to talk about: 12 Rules for Life by Jordan B. Peterson.

If you’re Canadian, the name may be familiar to you; in addition to being a well-respected clinical psychologist and tenured professor at the University of Toronto, Peterson is something of a media sensation at the moment, following his public critique of the federal government’s Bill C-16 (which proposed to add “gender identity or expression” as a prohibited ground of discrimination under Canadian human rights legislation). He has been characterized by many in the media as an alt-right supporter, which would have probably been sufficient to deter me from picking up his book, had that been my first introduction to him. However, I heard about the book from my BFF – who is about as far from alt-right as you can get, and is also not a self-help book type of person – and she told me that she was looking forward to reading 12 Rules. Out of curiosity, I picked up the book on Amazon.

Whoo, boy.

I have a lot of thoughts about it. Probably too many to fit into a post like this. My TL;DR take? 12 Rules is definitely worth a read because, even if you vehemently disagree with Peterson on some or all of his theses, there are a lot of interesting ideas in there that are worth debating.

As a “self help book” – which, in all fairness, 12 Rules probably isn’t, not really – it has a strong flavour of “pull yourself up by the bootstraps”; Rule 6 is “Set Your House in Order Before You Criticize the World”. Peterson’s approach to this will irk a lot of people, and not without reason. On one hand, I think it has a lot of merit; I strongly believe in taking personal responsibility for one’s actions and their consequences, and I agree with Peterson that we cannot change people – the way to change the world is by living/acting the values that we believe are right. On the other hand, I also think that some of Peterson’s thoughts on this (and mine as well, no doubt) are products of the perspective of someone who probably never experienced significant systemic disadvantages. This might be a dealbreaker for some, and I wanted to acknowledge that.

However, if you are willing to give Peterson a chance, he does make some points which are worth thinking about. Parenthetically, I want to add that there are points I agree with, points I disagree with, and points that I need to ponder further before making up my mind. What I liked about the book was that it challenged me to think critically with every chapter – something I haven’t done in my personal reading, on a consistent basis, since my 20s. (I call my books “comfort reading” for a reason.) Some of the things I found particularly interesting? Peterson’s discussion of dominance hierarchies (Rule 1); his views on chaos & order being the duality that underlies nature and, in turn, shapes human existence (recurring theme throughout the book); and his discussion of Rule 7, “Pursue What Is Meaningful (Not What Is Expedient) and Rule 8, “Tell The Truth – Or, At Least, Don’t Lie”. It’s apparent that Peterson was influenced by philosophies that I also, at one time or another, have studied – including Christian existentialism, Taoism, and Jungian psychology; no doubt, this made me more receptive to his arguments. It was interesting to me to see where our analysis or conclusions (based on those influences) converged and where they diverged.

In the interest of keeping this post at a manageable length, I will end here, but if you have read 12 Rules, I would love to hear your thoughts.