So, hey. Hi. It’s, um … been a little while, huh?
First of all, sorry for the radio silence. It was unintentional at first, and then it sorta became … a thing.
The last few months have been tough, for a variety of reasons that belong to those parts of my life that I don’t share on this blog. At times, writing here can be a bit tricky; without context, I am often in danger of sliding into the blogging equivalent of posting vaguely concerning Facebook updates, which are universally despised (and with good cause). The context is non-negotiably off-limits and at the same time, it is also an inextricable part of my day-to-day life. I’ve tried my best to keep the focus of this blog on what it’s supposed to be — personal style, not completely devoid of the personal — though it hasn’t always been easy. It seemed important to do it, however, if for no other reason than because this blog has always been my “fun” distraction from the “real world”. A hobby that has allowed me to connect with some truly wonderful women, online and in real life.
With everything going on recently, the thought that “something’s gotta give” came up more than once. I figured I might take a few days off; I had a few posts canned, and I could catch up on my chores, catch up on my book edits, catch up on life, and catch a breath.
And then, a couple of weeks ago, I stumbled upon a corner of the internet where (some) people who regularly read this blog gather to anonymously air their views on my (and the blog’s) various faults. Those include my being, among other things, a terribly dressed compulsive shopaholic with an undiscriminating penchant for outdated designer crap. I’m paraphrasing.
Oh boy.
I felt a lot of things in that moment, none of them good. I was surprised, above all, to find how unprepared I was to deal with those feelings. So I took a few more steps back from the blog, because it had suddenly become something worse than just another time-sucking hobby. Something more like, say, a radioactive garbage can.
These days, some might say that having “haters” is a sign that one has arrived on social media. I don’t care for that notion. I have been upfront about wanting to create a community through and on my blog, but I have never aspired to make it a business. I make exactly zero dollars from this blog, by choice. This is my hobby. This is a space where I share my love of clothes, books, and other “frivolous” topics close to my heart. Inevitably, it is a place where I share parts of my life; not all of it, or even most of it, but enough to make it a personal affair – to allow for that sense of community to develop. I have been careful about how much I share, but I’ve never had cause to regret the things I’ve shared here – bad outfits and all. Perhaps I was naive in thinking that would always be the case. Reading some of those anonymous comments was deeply hurtful, and they made me ashamed of my willingness to share any part of my life.
It is conventional wisdom that, as a blogger, I am willingly opening myself up to judgment and criticism. Implicit in that proposition is the notion that, as a blogger, one must “take the good with the bad”. I have tried to do that; to be open to criticism even when it was not requested. For something as subjective as style, it’s easy enough to do. It doesn’t bother me if someone hates my clothes or the way I wear them; style is in the eye of the beholder, and I’m confident enough in my own choices. It’s much harder to be open to comments that impute values and motivations to my actions that are (in your own eyes, at least) categorically untrue. And it’s hard to see the “constructiveness” in any of this when it leave no room for dialogue. It was obvious that the comments I saw were coming from people who are regular, long-time readers of this blog — people who, coincidentally, have never left a negative comment on my blog. I know, because I haven’t deleted a single comment in 6 years, and these were not things that anyone has been willing to write in the comment box. That puts me in a tough spot. Because my goal is to foster a community, I always thought it was incumbent on me to address readers’ concerns, no matter what their topic or merit. To engage. To have a dialogue. Those anonymous commenters don’t want that. They want to read my blog, and bitch about it/me without engaging in an actual conversation with the subject of their derision.
They are perfectly entitled to do that — such is the beauty of our internet age.
I get to decide how I feel about it, and how those feelings affect the cost-benefit analysis of my decision to blog.
The answer should be easy. I know that. But nailing down that answer has proven anything but easy. I have flip flopped more times than I care to count. In the meantime, life went on. As it does. Events of infinitely greater significance to the world happened. The more time passed, the fewer reasons I found to come back to the blog.
So, then, this post. Why?
One of my friends, who is very wise and very kind, shared her wisdom and her kindness with me this past weekend. Her words helped me a great deal in grappling with my complicated feelings on this very simple subject. In the end, they did something more besides that. They reminded me, once again, of why I blog. My friend, you see, is someone I met because of this blog. She is not the only amazing person who came into my life this way. She is a part of a community, and her friendship is one of the gifts of that community. I am so grateful for that, particularly at a time when kindness and understanding seems to be at a premium in our world. That’s why I blog. I hope that is also why some (if perhaps not all) of you visit this blog.
I started following your blog when I noticed that we share a name, one that is not very common. After reading it I became excited a bout the idea of thrift shopping and I have had a few small successes! Please take whatever time you need to do what is right for you, and remember all of us that you have inspired (many more than the haters)! Hope to hear updates from you soon.
So sorry that you had to experience this! I think your style is creative and beautiful, and I really enjoy reading your blog. I hope you continue writing and don’t let these mean-spirited comments affect your love of fashion!
So, I’m not a regular commenter, but I feel I must say something. I found your blog through gomi a few years ago, as a link of blogs people actually liked. And I’m so glad I did! While your style doesn’t always mesh exactly with mine, I love your take on it. I always look forward to your posts and I have been inspired to create some outfits based on yours. I know it’s easy to say ‘oh just ignore them’, but that never really works unless you are a robot, so I won’t insult you by suggesting it. All I can say is that for every ‘hater’ out there, you will find ten people who enjoy reading your blog and gain something positive from it. Try to focus on the positive aspect of the blog, the reason you started it and enjoyed it. Take care x
Adina,
I have been reading your blog for just over a year now. And all I have to say about this situation is – please don’t let it stop you from blogging!
I read your blog for several reasons.
A) having just entered the professional world as a 23-year-old, I like seeing your round ups of office outfits because it helps me with the guidelines I should be following as a classy business woman
B) I don’t really have the chance in my area to thrift the way you are able to… and it FASCINATES me! I get so excited when I see you post another thrift finds roundup it’s a little ridiculous
C) your perspective is so refreshing. I’m guilty of following at least ten blogs and when I scroll through them in the mornings I’m like “Wow. These girls are always so put together and now don’t I feel like a big sack of garbage.” Whereas reading your posts, where you aren’t afraid to say “Hey guys, this outfit is only okay because guess what I had a bad day” is such a relief to me. It’s okay to have fashion mistake days! #shithappens
So anyways, to the haters I say politely please f*** off. Adina’s blog is awesome and secretly holding councils of “How Can We Tear Apart This Blogger’s Confidence” is so incredibly sad. If you don’t like it… read something else.
Adina – keep rocking it girl! You’re doing just fine.
I just read your blog this morning and as wife, mother of 4 grown boys, busy career, volunteer, major lover of clothes my entire life and at least 15 years older than you (major run on sentence) you always have brightened my day. I have never, nor most likely will ever go thrifting. Your style is not my style. However, it is your exerberance, your disposition and your goodness that always shines through. I have never understood negative people and I know out of ten thousand compliments, we have a tendency to remember an unkind word. You are a delight Enjoy your children, your family (even though it is exhausting) because one day it will slow down and you can enjoy that pace too. The gift and it will always be, is that your children and family will know that because of who you are, their lives have been enriched. Happy Thanksgiving. I look forward to more of your happy posts. Mary
It’s ok to “break up” with people that bring you down or don’t know how to be loyal friends even when you may disagree. I don’t know you but I’m guessing you have a lot of good people in your life so focus on them and keep going ahead. There will always be “negatrons” around for all of us but we don’t have to let them be in control of how we feel about ourselves or what we do. I think you are a lovely woman just living and sharing your life and interests. Keep it up.
I noticed you’ve been gone a while but you’ve been posting on Instagram so I assumed work was hella busy.
I know you said it wasn’t on GOMI so I guess someone from wherever it was linked to your blog and it came up in your stats. I’ve only ever seen you mentioned positively on GOMI and it’s probably because you don’t make money from the blog and it isn’t a business that you’re not on their snark radar. Anything mentioned is kind, and re: people looking for real workwear blogs, not people who quit their office jobs but pretend they haven’t…. (I can think of a few!)
As I said before, I’m so sorry that you’ve stumbled upon this and bloody surprised to be honest. I know people have their gripes in life but when it’s just a hobby and people aren’t making money shilling new stuff left, right and centre I always think it’s worth just giving that blogger a break.
Anyway big British hugs to you and cups of tea. We do that quite well over here, I’ll pop the kettle on 😉 x
Adina, I LOVE reading your blog. It’s the first thing I do when I get to my classroom in the morning. I’m not a regular commenter because often the firewall at school blocks me. 🙁 Anyway, as others have said I’m fascinated by what you find thrifting and by the amazing outfits you put together. You look gorgeous in everything you wear, and I love your style. I’m especially envious of your handbag collection!
I hope your break does you well. I’m so glad you have such a supportive friend.
xoxo Ann (TeacherAnnie on IG)
I have never commented, but have enjoyed your blog enormously. You have helped me focus on identifying my style and my recommitment to thrifting. Thanks
Oh Adina,
I wondered why my daily fix of your outfits, humour and lovely writing had been missing- I am so sorry for the reason. I have been reading your blog, and your new book posts for the last 6 months or so, and find so much to enjoy and interest me in them. Lately I have found the silhouettes on your monthly round up particularly fab, and eagerly await more chapters!
I never normally write on blogs but reading your post changed that, I hope a little more positive feedback might melt some of that criticism away, all the best (and I always find clothes shopping is great tonic at times of emotional upheaval!) J xx
Adina, I wanted to say thank you for what you add to the blogiverse! You always come off as authentic and genuine, two things I really appreciate in the new norm of fashion blogs with posts that are sponsored (and make me wonder if the blogger is being true to themselves). So, thanks for keeping it real! I always enjoy reading your thoughts and musings, as well as seeing your mad thrifting skills and awesome outfits. Thanks for sharing your hobby!
I have to say, I don’t always love every outfit you post, but I love your posts! I really enjoy reading your blog and how honest you are. I hope you continue blogging because you’re one of the few that isn’t writing just to make money. Places like GOMI or other websites always have something negative to say. Sometimes what they say has truth to it; but most of the time it’s just really mean. Just keep being you and listen to what your friends and family say, that’s the only thing that matters.
I have to say that I am a regular lurker of your blog and I love your style and your writing. I just wanted to put something positive out there. I also want to thank you for taking the time to share your style, your words, and a bit of yourself. I always look forward to a new post from you.
I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s disappointing that people get enjoyment from criticizing others. I enjoy your blog, I know it’s your choice, but I hope you can keep your joy and continue.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this right now. For what it’s worth, I love reading your blog and even though I completely understand why you might decide to give it up; I would miss your writing very much. In a time when many blogs have become little more than a stream of sponsored posts (I do understand and support the need for bloggers to make money), it’s refreshing to read your take on things. I love your posts where you think through what’s in your closet and why, and you’ve sparked me to do a lot of thinking on the same subject. I’ve sat down and written up lists of my core colors and accents all thanks to the inspiration you’ve provided. I guess what I’m trying to convey is that even though I don’t know you – reading your thoughtful, warm and funny writing has had a positive impact on many of my days, and I appreciate the effort you put into it all.
Long-time reader, first-time commenter. Your style inspires me, but the main reason I like your blog so much is because of your unique perspective. You are thoughtful about topics like consumption, defining one’s style, and the evolution of blogging. And you write beautifully. The fashion bloggers who can do that are few and far between.
I always leave your blog feeling inspired and wondering how you do it all– successful career, adorable family, impeccable style AND a novelist to boot?!
Just wanted to let you know that I suspect there are many more out there like me who lurk appreciatively but never comment. Well, I am a lurker no more. Please continue to make this space whatever you want it to be, and know that your readers will support you. Thanks for making this blog a bright spot in my day.
I found your blog several months ago and I am so glad I did, because your style IS my style. I also love thrift shopping and finding the hidden gem, though I don’t get the chance to do it as often as I might like. I love that you even came up with a name for your style because I had not been able to pinpoint it before. Honestly, it never occurred to me that people might think I am “a terribly dressed compulsive shopaholic with an undiscriminating penchant for outdated designer crap.” Oh, well. I think you are great and I hope to see more posts from you in the future. Your take on style and fashion is real and refreshing. Much needed!
I never comment but have been checking in several times a week for over a year. I admire you and am so impressed by all the plates you keep spinning. Wife, mother, working professional, writer, blogger. I’m sorry some people feel the need to be so mean and critical.
I’m sorry that you are going through this. Internet anonymity can evoke incredible malice.
I love your blog (and your Insta). You write very well and your posts come across as thoughtful, not materialistic. You have inspired me to think about my style instead of simply buying whatever is “in style”. You have also given me hope that my wardrobe can be both professional and affordable. You have inspired me to try. 🙂 Please keep blogging!
I started reading your blog because I also live in Edmonton and started thrifting after my second baby. Yours and the Spirited Thrifter’s have inpisred me to thrift more and with more purpose. I really hope to make it out to one of your thrifting adventures one day!!
I occasionally comment, but have read the entire year of 2016 blogs in 3 days ( I’m bored at work). I love your blog and your blazer collection. I have read a couple of your older posts and like seeing how your style has evolved and aspire to feel as effortless as you look. I also like reading about some your organization and workout planning outfits.
Please keep blogging, I was checking daily for updated posts!!!
I’ve read your blog for years and have never commented, but your post broke my heart and I felt I needed to speak up. One of my favorite quotes is “One of the secrets of a happy life is continuous small treats.” This blog is one of my continuous small treats. I usually wait until 3 p.m. or so to check in, when I really need a break from work, and this blog is such a fun little break. Your blog brings joy to so many people, myself included. Don’t let the people who choose to spend their time putting others down rather than building something of value in the world discourage you.
P.S. I never went to a consignment store before reading this blog. Because of you, I am now the owner of several previously-loved gems, including the most beautiful sunflower-yellow Hugo Boss shirt dress ($20!!) you’ve ever seen. So thank you for my favorite dress, and thank you for providing a little afternoon treat to look forward to every day.
I wish saying I’m sorry for the ‘hater’ comments of others would take the hurt away. I don’t think there is much I can do to bring a smile back. But I will miss you if you decide to stop blogging. Your style has been relate-able to me and I’ve enjoyed seeing how ‘thrifting’ can be upscale.
That sucks! I missed your posts this week, because I appreciate your genuine comfort with who you are and figuring out your style on the internet.
I have clicked through bloggers’ recommendations for the new! must-have! it! items, and have been sometimes elated, sometimes disappointed, as is everything in life. Your blog has reined in my spending and shown me that treasures await in the thrifting world, once I start looking.
Your high recommendation of your gray Cartonnier blazer came at a blazer dilemma time this season, and after some eBay stalking and negotiating, I was thrilled to find it as comfortable as you said.
You showed me that whether or not I feel happy about an outfit I’m wearing, the sun rises another day and I get another chance to wear what I want and see how it goes.
All this to say – I feel your sadness and hope you continue your outfit posts, but no matter what you choose to do, I am far better for reading your blog!
Sending you love. I’ve never commented before (actually, now that I’m thinking about it, I think I posted once or twice?), but seeing your posts always cheers me up. I love your style, which is so different than mine, but I like to see the different ways we would style the same piece. People can be shitty, and if stepping back from the blog is what you need to do, you gotta take care of you. But just know that the haters aren’t the only ones not commenting, and some of us quiet ones love you!
I’m sorry to hear what has been behind the hiatus. How very frustrating when you’re trying to be genuine to have people talk crap behind your back. I enjoy your style a lot and you inspired me to start thrifting. If you don’t want to deal with their crap I understand, but I will miss your blog.
I concur with every comment here, my friend. It is refreshing to see a well-written fashion blog and your thoughtfulness about everything is a pleasure to read. I have no doubt that if you ever wanted to be a professional blogger you would be as successful as all the big name bloggers, but you have so many other gifts that the world (and your family and your friends!!) needs, keeping it as a pleasing hobby is understandable. I encourage you to guard your gate (as Sarah Bessey says) and to allow yourself to NOT take in those mean-spirited critical comments. They skew reality – in reality, women are supportive to each other, we edify one another, we serve ourselves and our communities best when call each other up instead of calling each other out. In reality, your blog and writing is inspiring and entertaining. Fill your mind and wonderful heart with the truths that you find in these comments and from trusted friends and family. THIS is the community that you have built and it is awesome. xoxoxo
Oh, Adina. I’m not a regular commenter, but like so many people, I felt I needed to (and wanted to) speak up.
I am so sorry about the anonymous group of haters. Please know that in spite of the darkness of that particular corner of the internet, there are hundreds, if not thousands, readers like me who may not be frequent commenters, but whose days are made brighter by every single blog post you’ve put up. No, I don’t love every single outfit you put up, but I love—and deeply appreciate—the thought that goes into each one, and the history of each item, and your whimsical musings on all of the above. You’ve inspired me to haunt more consignment/thrift stores, to pay more attention to accessories, to fall in love with brooches all over again, and never to underestimate the power of an awesome purse. My style is now more polished thanks to BCRL, and each day with a BCRL post is that much more interesting and cheerful.
As you know, we’re dealing with our own dark times in the US, with incivility and hate and twisted facts (or outright lies) seemingly taking over both the internet and the world. In the aftermath of the election, I think it’s more important than ever to speak up for what you believe, to be kind, and to connect with others. And yeah, clothes are not as earthshaking as politics, but they’re one of the threads that weave civilization together, and if I can do my small part in piping up to say I love your blog, and that reading it and following you along on your fashion and writing adventures is one of the highlights of my day, then, in some small part, I will have also fulfilled a civic duty. Keep writing—please!
Another mostly-lurker here; I think I’ve commented once or twice before. I love this blog! Yours is the ONLY fashion blog I follow – because your clothes are gorgeous yet affordable, and you come across as very honest, relatable and smart. Your blog inspired me to wear bright red lipstick for the first time in my life, and now I wear it at least once a week! Please keep blogging, I bet there are loads of other non-commenters out there who are missing your posts xxx
I have been a silent reader of your blog for some time now and have missed you this past month. I love your style, your openness and sense of adventure. Plus the fact that you are not “partnering” with suppliers. And you are a Canadian! I am “mature” lady old enough to be your mother – grandmother? – and what you show us is inspiring for all ages. Take heart and do what you love.
It never ceases to amaze me how anyone can devote energy to being malicious and spiteful toward a fellow human being. Life is hard enough without adding to the pile. The anonymity of the internet leads to some truly cowardly behavior, and it is sad to hear that you have fallen victim. I would like to echo the comments of everyone above, your blog is wonderfully refreshing to read and I look forward to it every day. I appreciate the honesty, humor, and wit in your posts. It is obvious that you devote a lot of time and energy to this blog, and I want to thank you for focusing on quality content. It is very much appreciated when many fashion bloggers only focus on perfectly manicured photos. Photos that cannot possibly representative of their real lives. Again, thank you for your thoughtful insight into personal fashion. I will continue to read your blog for a long as you are willing to post.
I’m so sorry you stumbled on a nasty corner of the internet. It amazes me what people will say anonymously.
I’m a fairly new reader of your blog. And as a professional working mom of 3 with a limited budget (who also lives in Alberta) I love how real your posts and outfits are so real. They aren’t sponsored. They aren’t full of items you paid outrageous amounts for. They show how you can have style, on a budget, and with a little (or a lot) of thrifting luck. I love how you are exploring your own personal style and you are not a slave to current trends. That is what I’m trying to do too. So basically, everything those mean people said about you are things I like!
Please keep posting. Your outfits inspire me and make me smile. And have got me thrifting again, hoping I can stumble upon something amazing.
I’ve missed you!
And also… WHAAAT?? Why do people go to such lengths to be so NEGATIVE? I am so sorry! What a sad age we live in.
I love your blog and have enjoyed reading it since I found it several months ago. I think you have some of the best style on the blogosphere. I have major closet-envy. And like me, you love dresses! I can never see enough dresses.
I am so sorry that people are so cruel and I hope that cruel people will not stop you from being a light and a joy to myself and other readers.
I echo everything everyone else says here. I adore your posts and love seeing your unique sense of style. Plus, your thrifting scores impress the hell out of me!
The internet can be such an ugly place. One thing that helps me have perspective is to remember that snark is a direct reflection of how people feel about themselves and often has very little to do with you. The internet has made it easier for people to criticize others without the consequence of having their own faults picked apart. How sad for them that they devote energy to being mean rather than working on themselves.
Keep your chin up. You’re great.
People are so much more likely to lodge a complaint than a compliment. Looking at reviews for anything will verify that. I wonder why complaining comes easier for some? Maybe that is THEIR hobby – LOL!
I read yours and Ephemera, while sharing nothing in style or lifestyle with either of you. Each of your “voices” are a pleasant moment for myself and I learn some fun info about designers and fashion.
It’s good to take a break, even if you enjoy it for the most part. I love my kids, but look forward to a kid-free evening or weekend! Taking time off from your hobby to gain some perspective is a good thing. I’m glad that you’re able to see how much people appreciate the time you put into your blog, from the comments on this post and the friendships you’ve gained from it.
I am so sorry you had to experience that. The internet truly brings out the worst in people (I know it brings out the good too but reading comment sections on CBC or YouTube seriously makes me lose faith in humanity). I’m sure you already know this but let me just say: whatever those people were saying…it says so much more about themselves than you. I truly mean that. It is so easy to create a million different disparaging scenarios about someone you don’t know and, because of that, it reflects their views of themselves more than anything else.
Anyway, your blog is a dying breed and I really hope you continue but totally understand if you need to take it back a notch! xo
Adina, I can not help but echo thoughts of previous commenters: your blog posts have been a bright spot in my days for at least the past year, and I will really miss you if you decide to hang it up. What I appreciate most is how thoughtfully you approach constructing outfits and personal style- this is something that is lacking from many style blogs, not just thoughts on why an outfit looks good or doesn’t, but why/how our clothes can truly express what we want to tell the world about ourselves. What you have to say is unique. This is so uncommon in a time when anyone with access to the internet can have a style blog. I admire you so much because of your authenticity and singularity amidst a plethora of sponsored posts. Whatever you decide to do, I will be wishing you all the best, and I am grateful for what you have shared because it has helped me hone my thinking about my own style.
Adina, loved your blog from the beginning. From far far away
I really enjoy your blog! It is part of my daily work routine, i.e., arrive at the office, and enjoy some light me-time before I start tackling my work tasks for the day. For selfish reasons, I hope you keep posting 🙂
Yuck.
You know what? I AM “a terribly dressed compulsive shopaholic with an undiscriminating penchant for outdated designer crap.” I read your blog because I find your approach really refreshing, and some of your methods have really helped me manage my own evolving style better.
Many previous commenters already said it well, but to echo their sentiments, I appreciate your thoughtful, down-to-earth, and above all, pragmatic shopping and fashion habits. I don’t read many other blogs these days, and I hope you can continue to find worth in this outlet.
I am so sorry to hear about this. I found your blog a few months ago and believe I have gulped up all your posts since you started blogging. I enjoy your blog immensely since your style and love of thrifting is like mine! Thank you for all you do. I hope to enjoy many more posts should you decide to continue. And if not, please know your blog made others very happy and engaged! Take care!
I’m very sorry to hear about the nasty comments you found online. It’s amazing how people who can’t or don’t create anything themselves find it so easy to criticize and tear down those who do. I’ve been reading your blog for a while and always enjoy your posts, and it has very little to do with what you’re wearing (but I usually like that, too!). Although our styles differ, I appreciate your thoughtful approach to your wardrobe and your own style, which in turn makes me think differently about my own–that’s much more valuable than yet another blogger who wears whatever the latest comped trend is just as an excuse to post a million links. I really hope the negativity lurking in one dark corner of the internet isn’t enough to discourage you from continuing with this blog, both because I selfishly want to keep reading it, and because it would be terrible if that negativity robbed you of the joy you’ve found it in.
More important, I sincerely hope that all goes well with whatever troubles you’re facing IRL away from the blog. I know words of encouragement from strangers on the internet can do little to help, but you seem like a strong, capable woman who can weather any storm–I just hope it passes quickly. Stay strong, take care of yourself, and we’ll be waiting for you when you’re ready to come back.
I’m so sorry that you had to deal with that. Please try to remember that their mean comments are probably not completely motivated by you, but probably by something going on in their lives that they are not happy with. Anyway, I love your blog, love your style, and am forever grateful that you turned me on to Value Village! I’m glad you’re back. 🙂
I missed your posts lately and I hope you return soon! I don’t even like fashion, but I read every one of your posts because I like your writing style and I love, love, love that you thrift most of your wardrobe! Most fashion blogs are overly salesy but yours is genuine and very real.
Adina, long time reader first time commenter here. I love your playful taste. Thank you so much for the effort to share your taste with us.
Hello Adina…I’ve been a lurker for the past year and enjoy you blog so much. Though our styles are different, your thoughtful entries have challenged me to “consume” less and to be unconventional in my view of “proper” style. Your blog and your style is creative, because you create your own guidelines and continually assess your perspective. As a result, your entries inspire me to be less passive about my fashion choices. For instance, i have become a thrift store and garage sale shopper who knows her style enough to spot them in the highest and widest of piles. This confidence is inspired by your own “try things out” mentality and has, not only saved me money, but allowed shopping to become a serendipitous experience AND a lesson in restraint.
While this may seem like such a frivolous enterprise for some, taking a thoughtful and truly individual approach to fashion can become a lesson in life as well. There are no important or less important issues when it comes to wisdom. Thank you for sharing this part of your life to your anonymous community. We’re still here for you.
Dear Adina, I am SO sorry to hear that you have been the target of negative folks, due to your so enjoyable blog.
I have missed you the last couple of weeks, but thought that perhaps a bug was going through the family, and you were otherwise occupied
In other words, I thoroughly enjoy your blog, and I missed it. I read it because I DO like your taste, and how you combine things, and your writing style. I find inspiration, and often a chuckle.
I have the sense that the internet has made more people feel empowered to share negativity. This saddens me. If folks don’t share your interests or taste (or mine!) there are thousands of other websites and blogs they can visit. I hope they remember that.
Thank you for creating this cheerful, wry, style-minded community, Adina! I am delighted to hear that there may be more posts in the offing!
Best wishes, Teresa xo
Another US reader here- I think I may have posted once, if that. So glad to know you are OK, I.e. , not in a hospital somewhere but really saddened by why you’ve been absent. I just don’t understand why some people take pleasure in plain old meanness. Whatever- you do you, whether it’s to blog or not- and don’t give a second thought to cowards hiding behind a keyboard. My style is not yours- I never wear a dress- but my thrifting bug jives nicely. The world would be truly full if we all looked alike… Take care, big hugs from the US
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Danged phone
And this is why I am a dedicated reader of your blog. Because you are smart and thoughtful. You come across also as kind and fair and fun. That you have amazing personal style is a sideline. I am grateful that you share this space with us and hope that you continue to find value in doing so.
Yes to all of the above!! You can’t please all of the people all of the time, but you have a wonderful following of people who enjoy your blog, writing, and style. Keep your chin up!!
Hi Adina, I’ve been a daily reader of your blog since I found you a few months ago. I love your blog because it is so uniquely you. I have read all your posts. I laughed out loud at your coined term “mutton arms.” I think your blog is about so much more than fashion. I see it as the evolution and evaluation of your style, and it inspires me and many others to undergo a similar process. Thanks for all your work.
Many years ago I read a research report from Harvard University. Unfortunately I failed to keep the reference but it has guided my life and those of many people I have spoken with over the years. It is even more pertinent in the era of ‘trolls’. The findings were that 50% of people will dislike you and will continue to do so even if you saved their life. Some days I only meet people from that 50%, I have worked in offices where the 50% seem to all be employed and I have met really nasty specimens on escalators and in lifts.I have found that classifying them leaves me totally unaffected by their views. In your particular case your 50% seem to be jealous and envious. If their views were genuinely held why are they wasting their time following your site.
I am newer to your blog and upon discovering it, I love it so much, I went back and read every post you have ever written. Do you know how long that takes? Your blog is amazing! You are upbeat, real, and interact with your commenters. I love your style and like many others have said, you help me put together my work outfits so I don’t look like I just rolled out of bed. Also like others have said, for every negative person who writes something mean, there are a ton of us reading daily, giving you a silent fist bump because your blog is great.
I am so sorry you had to read crappy things. I am SO glad your friend helped you realize why you blog. Screw the haters, you are helping me plan my outfits and feel better about myself daily!
Being an Israel working in a start-up company – I think I’m as far from you style-and-weather-wise as possible and yet, your entries are the first one I look for every day on my reader for the past few years.
I enjoy your outfit posts, love your thrifting posts and your musings on fashion.
I really hope you ignore the haters and keep writing for the people our there who really enjoy reading your blog.
Oh, Adina 🙁
I wish catty gossip didn’t exist (which is exactly what it seems like you stumbled upon). How ugly of them. How terrible of them. How completely unnecessary of them.
I had hoped you were absent because of other life responsibilities. But this…this just makes my heart ache.
I’ve followed for years and you’ve always been my favorite in the blog world. I have nothing but praise for all of your posts.
I’m glad you took some time for self preservation. If you need to leave the blog permanently, I can’t say I wouldn’t miss checking in on BCRL everyday, but you have to do what’s right for YOU.
Adina, count me as another of your silent readers who is compelled to step forward with support. I never blog-comment but it feels like time.
I found your blog through some random instagram scrolling. I had lost my hair during chemotherapy, and chose a wig of gorgeous long auburn red (nothing like my own). Suddenly on instagram, there was someone with my “new” hair. I followed over to your blog, and have been following along ever since. That random connection has been a gift.
Your blog was a welcome distraction during a long year of treatment. It also become an inspiration. As I slowly re-entered life, I realized that my closet had come to reflect the years of feeling shitty prior to diagnosis…just dark and dull and shapeless. You rekindled my love of thrifting; I added colors and patterns and shapes and random quirky stuff; I started to feel like myself again. I felt better and dressed better; I dressed better and felt better. Your blog has always reflected this connection between how we feel and how we present ourselves to the world.
I appreciate the intelligence and warmth and gentle humor that you bring to your posts, and always look forward to seeing what new angles you’ll ponder (and of course all of your cool thrift finds 🙂 ). I’m sorry the negative stuff found you…particularly now, when it just seems everywhere. Please know that no matter what, you’ve brightened the world for at least one person out there. I’m glad you’re back.
Adina,
Add me to the list of commenters who truly appreciates you, and the work that you put into this blog to share your style and life with us. You are an inspiration, and a role model. I always enjoy reading your well-written, witty posts, and I admire your style as well! I especially appreciate the fact that you are clearly an intelligent, accomplished woman whose life does not revolve entirely around clothes, but who still enjoys the hobby without justification – that has been an inspiration to me! Seeing the way you structure outfits also inspires me to flex my own creativity muscles when it comes to getting dressed for work, and for that I am thankful. As an aside, I also have loved reading the chapters of your book (and am dying to find out the ending to the story ;).
Please don’t let anonymous internet trolls stop you from posting! I’m new to your blog, but what I like is your focus on thrifting, which is one of my favorite hobbies. Clothes are fun, and useful, since we have to wear them everyday. I no longer connect with many big bloggers who suddenly became “big time” and no longer post realistic outfits they actually purchased and wore in real life, but hugely expensive items they’ve been gifted and are getting paid to help sell. I’m working on adding thrifting posts to my blog. It’s fun to share your thrifted finds with others, and hear about their finds, even if it’s via the internet! Also, you’re adorable. 🙂
First time poster, but I have been following your blog for about a year. I really enjoy it and your writing as well as your style. Some people just have negativity and hate to spew into the world, as opposed to positive spirit and creativity which you embody so well. I imagine none of these bashers has the bravery to put themselves out there either, just sit anonymously in dark rooms tearing into others which is really sad. I hope you get the healing you need and take care of yourself. I’d be thrilled if the blog continues but understand if you need to move on. Best of luck.
Adina, yours is the only style blog that I read. I’ll have no source of fashion if you stop so I hope you don’t 🙂
Oh, eft off with the haters. Eff off.
I found you through GOMI because so many sang your praises, and I’m so glad I clicked on the link that took me here. You are gem. No secret that you have led me to overhaul my closet and ways in which I purchase items (almost two years now of only buying secondhand). Keep going because we love you!
Another mostly lurker, infrequent commenter wanting to assure you that your blog is a beloved destination for many.
I fell into a GOMI spiral trying to find background info on a blogger’s past life (alluded to in her post) and it felt bizarre reading snarky comments from daily readers. What’s the point? I’m sorry you read anything less than stellar. I can’t imagine how anyone could say anything rude as you are the epitome of poise, intelligence, and self-awareness. As always, it’s probably jealousy in action. That doesn’t make it any better, but there it is.
I’m following you on Instagram and enjoying the closet clean out and outfits. Take time for yourself and know we’re all excited for your return.
Dear Adina,
I am so sorry that you have been going through this hurtful experience. I will never understand why the haters don’t just stop reading–if they really feel so strongly.
I follow a few blogs, and yours is always the first one I read every morning. I love thrifting, but live on an island with terrible thrifting–so I experience vicarious thrills from your thrift finds and rejects. After seeing the amazing things that you thrift, I now make it a top priority to thrift whenever I travel. (Value Village has been very rewarding.)
I love your style and have gone back to read your blog from the beginning. I have learned so much from your writing over the years. I now pay more attention to: developing a personal style, fit, color and accessories (because of you, I now have a thrifted rhinestone brooch collection).
I want you to know that my daily life has been made richer because of your blog. I felt a definite void during your break. Take care, and please return to blogging when you are ready. A heartfelt thank you, Adina.
Didn’t you use to post on GOMI and talk about other bloggers?
She did indeed.
You can comment on that site without being outright nasty, and to my recollection, this is what Adina did. Of course, very few can comment there at all now, due to the unbelievably bad state of that site – between the re-directs, blaring ads and the viruses….
I read the thread she’s referring to and would argue that it is not outright nasty, either. Seems it caught Adina at a bad time, but the majority of it is praise and constructive criticism.
So you don’t have an issue with her not mentioning that she contributed to GOMI – a site that other bloggers have said the same things like this post?
Additionally, do you know the comment that was said about her on Blogsnark or are you taking her word for it? Because I’m very sure that some of her comments on GOMI were taken like she took the reddit comments.
Your blog is one of my favourites. Like you, I thrift much of my wardrobe, and I have always enjoyed your thoughtful dialogue about style, what works (or doesn’t), and the economics of fashion.
It takes a great deal of courage to share your life (or part of it) on the internet. I very much appreciate the effort you put into every post, however I have mostly lurked and taken what you share without contributing to the conversation. I’m sorry for that and will make more effort to give back. I think we become complacent when we are happy with what we see and that can make the negative voices that much louder.
Thanks for all you’ve shared and I hope you continue to share :).
don’t think I’ve ever commented before, but just wanted you to know that I really missed your posts. Within a few days of finding your blog it became the first one I check when I log into feedly. The internet sucks sometimes and I’m really sorry that you had to see that.
Adina, I love your blog! Our styles are not very similar and we live thousands of miles apart but I love your perspective and your writing. You have a way with words and the world needs these words. I have looked at many fashion blogs. Many are closer to my style but only yours is down to earth and from the heart. I don’t need to see what the latest trend from fashion week is. I want to see what works for a real woman who works and has a family. I hope you get what you need from this break and I hope you keep blogging! Btw, you are so much more civilized than me. I would have had some foul language for those bullies. Thank you for all the posts you’ve done and I hope for more!
I have never posted a comment on your blog before, but I really enjoy it! I am also a lawyer and it is inspiring to see how you can thrift great-looking, professional clothes. You have forced me to get out of my comfort zone and actually go to a thrift store with an open mind instead of just going to the usual suspects online.
I also greatly enjoy your writing, bought your first book, and have been reading the free chapters of A Temporary Engagement since you started posting them.
You have to do what is right for you and your peace of mind, but just a reminder from us readers that we appreciate what you do!
Oh honey I’m sorry about the crap days and the comments you mentioned you’ve got (and shocked TBH coz who can not love your blog). Honestly I find most blogs a big yawn but adore yours. You are unique and have a fresh perspective. I love that you are a professional mom and dress for it which I can relate to. I hope that you continue blogging for a long time 🙂 i even screen shoot some of your outfits for inspiration.
I actually found you through the SOMI thread on GOMI when I was looking for blogs of women who actually worked in a professional setting. So I’m grateful to GOMI for introducing me to this blog. I do read them and find the ladies entertaining. Most blogs I see getting snarked on are the ones where legit cc get deleted.
Adina,
I often struggle to build concise sentences that utilize all the right words AND accurately express all my thoughts and feelings fully – despite feeling confident in those thoughts and feelings!
So, I will just say; along with your style, I also admire your writing, and I want you to know that I am another one of your MANY “quiet & supportive” readers versus the few “stealthy & snarky” ones.
– xo
Haters gonna hate. When you think of how miserable a person must be to lie in bed awake at night to plan the next nasty thing they want to say about someone, realize that it says much more about their own sad state than it does about you. They probably have many mean things to say about a whole lot of people on the internet because they ran out of people to hate in their real lives. I look forward to your blog daily and I think it’s inspirational and often thought provoking.
This totally sucks, I really like reading your blog. Although it’s not easy you just can’t take hater comments to heart, there’s no point. You can’t put yourself out there in a blog and not expect some mean ppl to do what they do, be mean b/c they are bitter ppl who hate themselves or their lives, and have nothing better to do. As you mentioned, you stumbled up on these comments when you are already feeling down, so that certainly didn’t help. Since you are confident in your own style (and you should be), the main criticisms you take offense to shouldn’t matter. Terrible dresser (that’s subjective to say the least), also I think most bloggers/blog readers are generally shopaholics (myself included), and you do like designer stuff. So get over it 🙂 I’m writing that in a motivational way.
You are one of my favorite blogs and Instagram accounts. Your style is so unique and fabulous. People can be so snarky and petty. That’s their problem, not yours!
Just wanted to say I think your blog is great and I look forward to your posts. I grew up and spent my early 20’s in Edmonton and am so inspired by what you find at the thrift stores there! I’m now in another Canadian city with pretty decent thrifting options but not like what you find in Edmonton! Your thrift finds and style are very inspiring for me. As another busy working mom, I appreciate the time your blog takes and wanted to pass on the it is appreciated! 🙂
I’m a newer reader of your blog and a first time commenter, but I’ve actually been meaning to leave a comment to say that you inspired me to snag the Cartonnier dashes blazer on ebay! Which is the first time in the history of ever I’ve been inspired to buy the exact item I saw on a blog. And as you said, it’s incredibly comfortable and versatile, so thank you for that!
I really appreciate all the time and effort you put into this blog and the little community you’ve created. Going through your archives and reading all your posts was such fun and now I look forward to seeing what you’ve put together each day! You’ve inspired me to take a little bit of time for myself, no matter how tired and stressed I may be, to try to dress myself in a way that will make me feel put together as I navigate each day. I’m also trying to get some brooch party action going for the holidays 🙂
Adina: I have seen a lot of negative comments recently on every blog I read that features women dressing for a corporate environment rather than for the random whims of fashion. Don’t let the comments of people who are dressing for a different purpose drive you off course. It is still really helpful to see how other professional women have blended their own style in with the demands of their workplaces. Cat
I’m sorry to hear what happened to you. I just recently discovered your blog and it’s my favourite reading on feedly. I love your classic style and it’s amazing that you find so many of your gorgeous items at thrift stores. Your style seems very “Charlotte York” which is fabulous! I hope that you continue to share your outfits.
*hug*
Coffee sometime?
It’s so hard when positivity is met with pettiness and negativity. I don’t read many fashion blogs, but yours is one I don’t miss. I love that most of your purchases are thrifted, that you focus on work wear, and that the point of the blog is not to make money. Your down-to-earth attitude is refreshing and your posts are thoughtful and well written.
I hope that you will continue to post. You make the Internet a better place. Thank you!
I recently discovered your blog and have been visiting it daily. It has quickly become one of my favorites. It is practical, asperational, and inspiring all there same time. I am so sorry these haters took the joy out of something that was a hobby. I do hope you continue with your blog because your style inspires me to thrift and to dress better!
I’m in the older cohort like a couple of other readers, but your writing just jibes with me. My mother was a fashion artist, not a well-paying field, and my sister and I hardly ever could afford retail growing up. Sample sales and visits to the garment district were our little adventures. I never did much thrifting before but am hooked now. Please know how much I enjoy your postings!
What utter assholes. I’m so sorry. You are always so honest, likable, and smart. Plus you have great clothes. I’m so sorry those shitheads ran their mouths off like that.
Hi Adina – I’m sorry for how you’re feeling. Those haters out there probably have some insecurities and therefore feel the need to put down others to feel better about themselves.
I’ve mentioned before that I really enjoy reading your blog. You seem genuine in your sense of style and I like that you wear what you like and don’t necessarily follow trends. Before you went onto your minimalistic approach, I liked how your personal style spanned a variety of styles as that’s how my closet tends to be too…a smattering of different things that I like. I do love your new minimalist approach as well as I gravitate towards some of the neutral and simpler looks too.
I love how you do your professional looks as well as your casual looks. You exude a sense of realness in your blog posts, and even though I don’t know you, you seem like the type of person I’d like to have as a friend.
I also love how you look so professional and classy with your thrifted outfits. Your blog and a few others actually inspired me to try thrifting.
I hope you’ll continue to write in this blog space of yours, but understand if you need a break. Your blog is one of the first ones I read in the morning. I haven’t been commenting much lately as I’ve been tending to a new baby. Take care.
Dear Adina, I’m a french reader living close to Paris and just love your blog. Recently I have checked your blog a bit worried by the fact I din’t see any new post and afraid something hard was happening.Most of the time I don’t comment on blogs I love to read because writing in english makes me very self conscious about the mistakes I might do but I feel you need to know how much your blog and what we get from your personality mean to all the silent readers. I checked on your blog last night at one a.m. still worried and I felt deeply wounded that some mean people hurt someone I love without even knowing the totality of what your are. This morning I woke up wondering what I could do and before writing mine I read all the nice comments, all the support of this thread to check what I could add or say. I feel all the other ladies wrote it very nicely and I what I read is the nicest attempt to make you an Armor of love versus all that crap you fell upon. So take my comment just as one more coat or scale of this armor. If kind words could make a skin stronger to resist the hateful words, take all these thoughts of your loving readers, as a flood of love. Amour and armor are such close words for a french speaking person that at first I wrote Armour. That’s what you get. Hope it will help you heal and rise stronger because I can cope with the idea you might not write anymore on this lovely blog if it’s what you need, but I would be so sad if that crap was enough to wound you deeply in your life and lower your self esteem. It must not.
You shine, Adina, and we love you.
I too am a lurker and rarely ever comment, but I really enjoy your little corner of the internet. Not only are you very photgenic, but your color choices really inspire me, even though our styles or figures couldn’t be any more different. Where I live, there are no real thrifting options, but envy and applaude your good luck and keen eye. Please don’t let anonymous people drag you down – you can’t please everyone, nor should you try to do so. Your thoughtful posts are both interesting to read and inspiring at the same time, which is quite seldom when it comes to outfit blogging. Much love and appreciation from the other side of the world! 🙂
Just chiming in to say, Ignore the haters! I live your sartorial style and your writing. Your thrifting is inspirational. I love the occasional glimpses into your homelife, too.
I rarely read GOMI as it spirals into such nit picking, even though occasionally there was worthwhile feedback. Like others, I found you on a list of SOMI and since then have read everything you’ve posted.
While we might not always be on the same page style-wise, I’ve learned much more about reducing waste, not buying fast fashion, and cost management. I also so closely identify with you since you describe yourself as shortlegged 5’7″ pale red head – exactly who I am!
Please don’t ever water down your message. Your educated voice and smart commentary are exactly what we need. There are enough not-very-bright bloggers draped in borrowed and comped luxury items to last us a lifetime.
The internet is a strange place. I used to post a little on GOMI, which is how I found you. When I was on there it was during one of the darkest, deepest depressions of my life. I would get up, sit on the couch, and allow myself to lose hours to reading how people criticized others. Now I’ve weaned myself off GOMI (and the deep depression, mostly) but I still check in here. Your style is different from mine (I can no longer do ballet flats or heels) but I read enviously because I LOVE to thrift and I have champagne taste on a beer budget. I teach middle school and here is what I’ve learned: some people never, ever rise above that middle school instinct to be hurtful, cliquish, and selfish. All you can do is feel sorry for them. I think the tendency lurks in all of us to greater or lesser degrees. Working with children has really driven home to me how hard life can be, on so many different levels. All you can try to do is be consistent and kind. I also think that people online (like middle schoolers) forget that other people are real and have feelings just like them. Generally speaking, when people are hurtful it is because they themselves are hurting. I hope you will continue to share your thrift store finds so I can live vicariously through you – thrifting here is bleak. I live in a small outdoorsy tourist town where I find that I never have to dress up, and as an art teacher there is no way I want to get paint all over my cute dresses. So I never try to look nice any more and it’s definitely impacting my mental state. I think I check in here as a reminder that I could and should try harder. I’m glad you have your community and I hope you’ll stay!
Hi Adina,
I found your blog this summer and have been looking forward to your new posts every day! They have given me a ton of inspiration for my work wardrobe as a 29 year old private school teacher – especially how to rock a blazer and not feel like I’m wearing my mom’s clothes. I’m sorry because it sounds like you have been having a rough year – hope things start looking up soon!
Take care <3
Yours is only 1 of 2 blogs I ALWAYS read! I find your confidence inspiring and love YOUR love of thrifting (I can’t get the hang of it). Those people choose to read your blog and CHOOSE to be mean humans because of it. And cowardly since they don’t do it within your own universe. If you stop blogging, do it on your own terms… don’t give those meanies any power over your joy! Those of us who enjoy you will continue to support you and share in your spirit…. and love of clothes 😉
Thanks for all the time you put into this! I know I enjoy my time with you.
So sorry to hear this. Life is tough enough without rudeness from others. I appreciate your style and you’ve inspired me to keep thrifting.
Like so many others, I found you through GOMI and even PM’d you at that time to say I loved your blog. Ironic, huh?
I, too, saw that little sub-reddit you did and was surprised to find that people had anything negative to say about you or your blog. I find you genuine & decent…and I do believe you can detect that through a person’s writing.
Hope you’ll keep sharing here.
I so enjoy your style, your love for thrifting, your witty point of view, and your joie de vivre. Please don’t stop blogging! As the above 90+ comments show, you are very loved and appreciated! 🙂
Love to read your blog because you’re a good writer, have an interesting perspective on style, are also a working mom, and are Canadian. I was an avid thrifter for years and you’ve been tempting me back to VV boutique. Keep your chin up 😉
I love your blog– everything from your beautiful writing, unique and professional outfits, thoughtful analysis on the meaning of style and how it evolves, photos (esp the monthly roundup) is wonderful. Reading your blog is a great visual treat and your writing is always thoughtful and your wry sense of humor shines through. I’m sorry that there were mean comments. Not sure what their problem is, as it’s clear that you have a loyal audience! I found your blog last year and read your entire back catalog and I probably know your closet as well as my own :). It is especially fun seeing your style evolve and seeing how a wardrobe develops (as long time readers, we recognize pieces and how they get remixed) vs a lot of more mercenary blogs focusing on the latest greatest free/promo items. Also, your professional outfits are more inspirational to me, as most fashion blogs are very casual.
I’ll feel the void in the internet if you leave, and sincerely hope that you won’t, but respect your decision. Sending positive vibes and many thanks for the months and months of fine reading you’ve shared with us. As an American feeling terrible about the outcome of the election, I have to say, this situation makes me think “this is why we can’t have nice things”— good, kind people striving for excellence in all they do, appreciated by many, but ultimately a bitter jerk ruins it for everyone.
Hehe, after posting, I got the picture of trump as one of the internet trolls typing a negative blog comment. Please don’t let the trolls win!
I’ve been an admirer and a lurker of your blog for a little over a year. Your personable-tinged-with-sarcasm writing style, positive attitude, professional and put-together style, and, above all, realism and relatability are what draw me in. Your site is a breath of fresh air from all those who are just trying to get people to click stuff and make money. Although I’m not a thrifter, I admire your ability to find hidden gems and beautifully incorporate them into your wardrobe, and you’ve given me many ideas for how to remix my own closet items. I appreciate that you share a bit of yourself with the world, and I’m sorry there are those who seek out ways to cut others down. Thank you for all you do. I hope you are able to move past the negativity and find joy in posting again because your kind of style and personality is a positive contribution to our world.
Thank you for coming back! I read your blog every day and i love your sense of fashion and envy every one of your designer bags. You make my day,your blog is a breath of fresh air!
I have been reading your blog for about a year. As many have said, I love your writing style and the fact that you are not trying to sell us something. It is obvious that you write for your own enjoyment and ours too. Take good care of yourself whatever you decide to do!
Adina, I am so glad you’re back! I missed you lots!
Haters hate, and it hurts. I’m sorry that you went through what amounted to a personal attack (not constructive criticism). That’s BS, and has no place here. If people don’t like your style, they can just move on…
You have helped me so much. I cannot always embrace your styles, but only because I work in a factory. I LOVE your style. You have helped me put clothing together, to shop carefully, and economically,
and be a little more Earth-friendly by thrifting. And the ultimate joy is that I get quality clothes I love!
You helped me so much, please stay with us. I find your writing (books, too) refreshing, witty, and kind-hearted.
I really missed you Girlfriend!
So sorry to hear about this Adina; how it must have hurt!…I hope you find away to get around and over the negative things these ‘people’ have said. I enjoy your blog and love your style.
I have found in life, that people are often negative and hurtful when they are jealous and likely this is one of the reasons….try to ‘rise above it’ and don’t let them win!
Igh, I remember you mentioning this on Twitter and feeling my heart sink that you’d encountered yet another one of those cesspits that smallminded and meanhearted people populate. I know you superficially through Sherry, but in this moment, it doesn’t matter that I don’t know you well, I just know that you don’t deserve THAT kind of attention. It doesn’t matter that you’ve chosen to share some part of you, that doesn’t reduce you to a target!
I don’t believe in the “haters mean you’ve made it” school of thought, either, it just means that there are far too many people out there who relish being jerks instead of spending that energy learning how to be awesome on their own.
I am so glad you are continuing to post. I find you very inspirational, both by your clothing choices and the way you work hard and accomplish so much in your work, personal and family ‘life’. I feel that all those negative commenters-no constructive, helpful criticism-are jealous, envious people who find it easier to tear down a successful, hard working person as opposed to working on achieving their own dreams. As an American, I am shocked at all the negativity, hateful comments displayed throughout our Presidential campaign…some by one of the candidates them self. Continue to rock on as yourself, please!?
I like your style a lot! Just wanted to let you know that.
Before I read all the comments, I will share my thoughts.
I really enjoy reading your blog and look forward to your posts. I was a lurker mostly, due to time constraints. Your body shape is not the same as mine. You style, most of the time is not the same as mine. I enjoy your posts because there’s so much of your personality shining through your posts. And it’s very positive. I read your posts to see how YOU styled it. Your tips on thrifting, esp how not be caught in the idea of super-low prices and carefully choose what you really want was very helpful.
I simply enjoy your blog. What I learnt from your blog post is that I need to comment more so that my voice as a reader is heard clearly to the writer of the blog, so she knows how the majority of readers feel and also be a part of this community.
I used to follow several fasion bloggers but you’re the only one I continue to follow regularly. As a 30 year old with a toddler and baby on the way, you embody a mantra I have been trying to adapt for myself. Dress for the life you have not the life you want. I love that you have a strong sense of personal style and yet you’re extremely practical in your choices. The old fashion bloggers I followed wore the most ridiculous inspiration outfits and you knew they were only dressing for the shoot and non day to day life. I’ve also always been interested in the concept of thrifting but have no idea where to begin so you are very much an inspiration and good influence. Just last week I walked away from a beautiful thick grey cable chasmere blend sweater because grubby fingers and spit up don’t go with dry clean only. Thank you for your perspective! Please keep it up!
Leave the negative Nelly’s in the dark corner where they chose to lurk and keep sharing your ideas. Personal style is an evolving creature, influenced by many things and luckily everyone can have their own take on that. I love your quirky style because it’s much like my own (plus I identify with a fellow redhead living in a cold climate and the struggles that sometimes creates since I’m in Alaska), and although there are sometimes outfits that I wouldn’t choose this is YOUR blog and if it works for you that’s great. Most people make negative comments to make themselves feel better – as Taylor Swift points out – People throw rocks at things that shine. But keep on shining. Shine so bright that you blind them and they can’t even aim those rocks. 🙂
Hi Adina.
I have never commented before, but feel compelled to do so now. Ignore those horrible comments and concentrate on all the people like myself who love your blog.
You bring a unique refreshing style to your blogging and even though I live in Australia, different seasons, I really enjoy reading your blog. I know you have the strength and resilience to overcome this ‘black period’.
Hi Adina,
I just wanted to say how much I love your blog and your style. I discovered it over the past year, after going ‘off’ fashion blogs for a couple of years, and it’s really the only blog I read now, consistently. Your emphasis on thrifting has really inspired me, and also made me think and change my own behavior when it comes to shopping–thinking about my own style, the environment, costs (to me but also to all the others who are part of sourcing and manufacturing clothes), and where I want my money to go. I’m not the best commenter, and sometimes it’s hard for me to put my thoughts into words that go beyond “that looks great!” but like a reader said above, I find reading your blog to be a great treat, and it’s something I appreciate. I also hope, that in this world that has been feeling increasingly cruel to me, that things turn out well and reassuringly for you, including some of the ‘real-life’ challenges you alluded to.
Hi Adina,
I just recently discovered your blog and really like it! I found your style to be sassy, fun, stylish and I am in awe of the stuff you find. After I read your blog post of the negative comments you found I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. I am dismayed by the negativity out there and by how hard it must have been to read that. So much that, although I never comment on sites, I am taking the time to do it now. Here are some thoughts to consider: 1) people are terribly jealous of others who are putting themselves out there, 2) unlike other bloggers who encourage people to consume! consume! you, on the other hand, encourage people to go thrift! we need more like YOU!, 3) when Monet and the other Impressionists came out, the general art community panned them and hated the work. At the end, they had the last laugh. Love trumps hate. Keep your head up and keep doing what you do, your followers will give you the last laugh.
Hi Adina,
I discovered your blog when I went to work in an office after wearing scrubs for many years. (I’m an RN) The dress code was/is business casual, and I was at a loss as to what exactly that meant. I did my research though, (fashion blogs of course) and showed up on my first day in 2013 wearing a dress with a belted cardigan. To me, that outfit was pure perfection, and my daughter told me I looked like, “Someone in a magazine.” (I considered that high praise coming from a teenager.)
Your blog helped me learn how to dress like a professional without giving up the dresses I love. You convinced me to start thrifting again, and I now purchase nearly all of my clothes second hand. I look forward to your posts so much that I don’t read them every day. Instead, I wait a week or two so I can sit down and have a nice little BCRL marathon. Now that I think about it, I am going to go back and read all of your previous posts this weekend. Since I’m stuck in bed with a back injury, might as well enjoy the total BCRL experience. (For the second time, I might add.)
Thanks for coming back.
Your friend in fashion,
Karen