Level Up: Updating Our Daughter’s Bedroom

It all started with a desk.

Our daughter is turning 7 next month and starting Grade 2, so we figured it was time for her to upgrade from a plastic playroom table to a proper desk. A desk and vanity combo, actually; it was the only way to get her to agree to let go of an old vanity toy set – another piece of plastic I was hoping to eliminate from her room. After a lot of online searching, I finally found something suitable: a small desk with a fold down mirror. As we were ordering it, my husband asked the fateful question.

“What about the rest of her room?”

At the time, my husband was in the throes of 3 other house projects, all in various stages of completion, so you know he was looking for a new distraction. That’s his MO. One thing naturally led to another, and suddenly we were in the thick of a full-on bedroom remodel. Oops.

Because this all happened so fast, I don’t have a good “before” to show you, but here is a peek at what the bedroom has looked like in the past.

The bedroom was originally my son’s nursery. Because it’s the smallest bedroom in our house, it remained the nursery for our second child. When we found out we were going to have a girl, we did add some pink accessories and cute decals on the walls, but the rest of the decor was hand-me-downs from our son.

The bedroom went through a few more iterations – briefly, both kids used it as a joint bedroom (it was fun for a bit, but mostly they just kept each other up at night) – and eventually ended up like this:

The black IKEA storage unit was a cheap solution at the time we installed it; it had belonged to my husband for almost 20 years – he lugged it from Edmonton to Vancouver and back, through 4 different residences during that time – and it did a decent job of holding a lot of our daughter’s toys and clothes. But it was big and bulky and the dark colour made the room look even smaller than it was. The opposite wall was mostly taken up my a large Barbie house, and assorted Barbie paraphernalia. All in all, there was precious little floor space.

Rather than go our usual route with kids’ bedrooms – by recycling furniture from elsewhere in the house – we decided to start with a fresh slate and create a bedroom that could grow with our daughter well into her teenage years. Between you and me, I also have a plan for this room once she vacates it; it’s going to be my walk-in closet and office. The redesign my husband created will make that future transition quite easy.

For me, the key to living in a small-ish house is maximizing the available space and getting creative about storage. My husband jokes that I have an obsession with built-in cabinetry, but it really does come in so handy (and, really, even if he likes to tease me, he agrees with me). For our daughter’s room, he IKEA-hacked pieces from the Pax system, which is part of their wardrobe collection. He was initially going to use the Billy system (bookcases) but the Pax shelves are a little deeper (can hold cloth bins which was key for me because it’s my secret for hiding toy messes) and more versatile. As our daughter grows, she can change the configuration, add drawers, shoe racks, etc. And later still, I can add more units for my dream closet.

Here is a look at the finished room:

The tall unit with a door is where most of her clothes are stored; the actual closet is for dresses, jackets and winter clothing. It’s organized so that the stuff she uses day to day is on the lower shelves she can reach on her own, while the higher shelves are for off-season clothing and other storage. The lower unit was designed specifically to hold her Barbie house and LOL Surprise camper van. When she is older, we can use the top shelf as a bench/reading nook by adding a cushion, and the bottom cubby as a shoe rack. On the wall above, we can add a mirror – which, if she’s a fashionista like her mom (and it seems likely that she is), she will definitely need.

Side note: we didn’t remove the decals from her room because there was a good chance they would rip paint off and we didn’t want to bother with it. At some point, we/she will want to re-paint the walls, and we will deal with that problem then. Probably whilst in the middle of some other major reno, hah.

As with all my bedroom designs for the kids over the years, I wanted this one to be practical. The shelves on the big unit are organized so they’re easy for our daughter to use, with bins on the bottom row where small toys and other messy items can be quickly swept up. There is even hidden storage in her desk stool – a vintage item I picked up (for myself) years ago at a local antique mall, which we spray-painted white to match the rest of her furniture.

We even added a little gallery wall (because of course we did):

And did I mention the star lights (which double as night lights)?

All in all, this is a room that I would have LOVED as a little girl – heck, I would have loved it as a 20-year old – and it will serve our little big girl well for many years. She’s over the moon about it, and it’s been a joy to see how much she enjoys it. Well worth the time we invested in the redesign … though, it’s easy for me to say that, since my husband did 95% of the work, hah.

One more house project done, only a (few) dozen left …

What I Wore: 40 and beyond

Hello, 40

Did I over-dress for my 40th birthday party? Is the sky blue? Of course I did, but in my defence, this wasn’t the party I was supposed to have. But in the age of pandemic, a backyard BBQ with immediate family (my husband, kids and my parents) feels like a luxury. All of my family knows me well at this point, so no one batted an eye at my outfit. I kicked off my shoes early and lounged on the deck with some pink moscato and a feast prepared by my dad.

Graphic Summer

I don’t do huge prints like this often anymore, but this one is special. I love the abstract graffiti paired with the contrast stripe — so good. With such a statement piece, I kept the rest of the outfit very simple. This is a classic silhouette, and while I don’t wear fit-and-flare skirts a lot, I love the drama of a midi version.

90s Throwback Baby

I don’t feel a lot of nostalgia for my teens years, but I do enjoy some of the 90s fashion that’s coming back. Like this illusion choker – remember those? And skinny barrettes. And, of course, the classic: Baz Luhrman’s Romeo + Juliet. Gosh, how amazing was the costuming in that movie? I had a love/hate relationship with Claire Danes back in the day. I loved her because of My So Called Life and also because she was the same age and kinda looked like me (mostly when she dyed her hair red in MSCL), but I also sorta hated her because she had a much cooler life than I had. I mean – she kissed Leo! Back in the day when Leo was, like, the Timothee Chalamet of our generation, not the Jack Nicholson of Gen Z. I guess there’s a reason why 90s fashion is considered vintage now. Sigh.

A Brief Retrospective At 40

So, this is 40.

To say that this wasn’t how I envisioned my 40th birthday to pass is, well, an understatement. But then again, 2020 took all of us by surprise. At the beginning of the year, it looked like I would be spending some time on self-introspection, thinking about what this milestone represents and how I feel about it. I even had the inklings of a little mid-life crisis hatching. Scratch that. Since March, my entire mental and emotional bandwidth has been devoted to adapting to and managing the impacts of the pandemic – at work, at home, and in my personal relationships. I have no energy to spare on thinking about what turning 40 means. All I know is that I am awfully lucky to have all my loved ones close to me and safe, to have financial security, to be healthy. From that perspective, I’ve made it. This is as good as 40 gets.

I am not yet ready to look ahead of me. The immediate future is still filled with so much uncertainty and anxiety; beyond that, I still need to think about what the next 30 or 40 years of my life looks like. In some ways, 40 does feel like a frontier of sorts. Growing up, it was the outer boundary for all my personal life plans; I knew what my life up to 40 was supposed to look like, what the milestones would be. The ages of 15 to 40 are well-depicted in our popular culture so they feel, well, familiar even as you are living them. I suppose after 65 or so, things again come into focus – retirement and/or grandparenthood are also common enough themes in popular culture. But the period between 40 and 65, for a woman especially, is like … a sort of black box. Obviously, those of us who work, continue to work; those of us who have kids, continue to parent. Relationship status changes or stays the same. But what does life look like, day to day? What are the goals that fuel the forward movement? For me, that remains to be decided.

So instead of looking forward, let’s look back. And because this blog is, after all, meant to be frivolous, let’s kick it back to the last decade and some important style questions.

Favourite brands
2000: Gap (LOL!)
2010: Diane von Furstenberg, BCBG, Anthropologie
2020: Dries van Noten, Issey Miyake, Rick Owens, Marni

Aspirational brands
2000: Coach (although this was more mid-2000s)
2010: Marc Jacobs, Chanel, Louis Vuitton
2020: Iris van Herpen

Favourite accessory
2000: shoes
2010: bags
2020: jewelry

Favourite colour/print to wear
2000: aqua/stripes (probably)
2010: purple/florals
2020: black/rainbow

Favourite places to shop
2000: Forever 21, H&M
2010: Winners (TJ Maxx), consignment
2020: thrift, consignment

Favourite silhouette
2000: low-rise jeans (sigh)
2010: pencil skirts & sheath dresses
2020: potato sack dresses; midi/maxi lengths everything

Favourite styling tip
2000: Hah!
2010: colour blocking/clashing
2020: layering

Favourite style icon
2000: I can’t remember – maybe Claire Danes?
2010: Audrey Hepburn
2020: Tilda Swinton

Favourite Splurge
2000: Something from the Gap, I am sure
2010: Louis Vuitton bag
2020: Issey Miyake dress

So much has changed, yet much … actually, no. Almost nothing has stayed the same. It’s as if, I dunno, I was a whole different person. Isn’t that funny? Day to day, I never feel like I’m changing. Even now, if you were to ask me if I feel as if I’ve changed over the past decade, I would hesitate. But when I start listing stuff like this, it’s so easy to see how much has changed. And if my sartorial preferences have changed so much, I can only assume the same is true in other areas as well.

Where am I going to be at 50? Stay tuned.