It’s spring! Well, perhaps not technically … and perhaps not meteorologically either … yet … but spring is a state of mind, after all. And in my mind, what comes after February is SPRING. Which means that I am happier than I have been since, oh, the end of August. Things are looking brighter again, and I can look back on the past month with a measure of indulgence – not that I have a lot to hold against it. February was ok. Nothing too exciting happened, but neither did anything too terrible. The new year is already 2 months old, which is a bit of a mind f*ck because, seriously, where is all the time going and why is it going so fast? Yes, we are talking about winter, which is the least fun kind of time to be had, but still. At this stage of my life, I am loathe to squander any time, even the most “blah” kind. Not to get too graphic with you, but if life were a bone, I’d be the person trying to crunch down to the marrow.

Oh: in case you were wondering, I am still having a mid-life crisis. It feels less critical, but it’s still simmering. Will this be the spring of my discontent? I hope not. Because as the above suggests, all I want to do is enjoy my life to the fullest; and part of that means getting over the fear that it’s all slipping away from me while I’m trying to figure out what it’s all about.

Anywaaaaaay. Clothes:

Not a particularly vibrant month but some colour did manage to sneak in. Lots of good silhouettes happening. I do feel like I’ll be in the mood for something more, umm, exuberant next month. Maybe not florals, but something equally (non) groundbreaking for spring. As I alluded to in a recent post, I’ve been thrifting up a storm; consequently, I have been editing my wardrobe like mad because, unlike the universe, closet space does not expand. [Don’t @ me, physicists. I’m trying to make a funny.] I have lots of new-to-me pieces to experiment with, which is fun and exciting, but I am having some trouble figuring out what needs to go, which is less fun. I always feel better when I know that my old favourites are going to good new homes (I know it’s silly to get emotionally attached to clothes, but nobody’s perfect, yeah?), so it may be time to look into another clothing sale event. This would loosely tie into some long-term plans that I’ve been mulling over lately, so it will be near the top of my agenda in March.

Hope your spring is off to a great start!

Sherry (SaverSpender on IG) posted this Guardian article to her stories the other week, and I have to admit, I was triggered by the title alone. I get all the reasons why buying mountains of (new) clothes is bad for the environment, and there are plenty of valid reasons for wanting/needing/having a small wardrobe, sustainability concerns aside. But … women with fewer clothes dress better? Really? I feel attacked, y’all.

Let’s dig in, shall we.

“A fabulous capsule wardrobe is the sustainable way”

I mean … ok? I’m not going to argue that this statement is entirely wrong but there are nuances here that are important to note. First, a capsule wardrobe is ONE way to be sustainable – and it comes with a caveat. I am aware of so called “capsule bloggers” whose purchasing habits are not all that different from the average person’s. If you’re buying a new “capsule” every season, or every year even, that’s not particularly sustainable. It’s just a trendy label on the same old wardrobe.

Second, a lot of discussions of capsule wardrobes tend to be very reductive. Not everyone lives in the same climate, not everyone has the same lifestyle. The idea, perpetuated in this article as well, that everyone can get by with a 4-piece core capsule (as presented here courtesy of Wardrobe NYC, that includes a blazer, shirt, t-shirt and leggings) is seriously flawed.
Side rant: I mean LEGGINGS, people! I’m not bagging on leggings, but even with my generous office dress code, leggings wouldn’t cut it as a core piece of my wardrobe. Did I mention these 4 pieces will set you back a cool $1,500USD? I’m not sure what you’re supposed to do when your fancy leggings are in the wash, but when money is no object, I assume these problems just resolve themselves.

Back to my point: discussions of capsules rarely seem to factor in weather, lifestyle requirements, or laundry into the equation. A big part of why my clothes last for years is that I rotate them regularly, thereby reducing the need to wash them as often. If I had only 2 or 3 blouses to wear, guess what: they’d be getting washed all the time and, no matter how much care I took of them, they would start showing wear in fairly short order.

The comeback to that is always “buy better quality” but here’s the thing: true good quality is hard to find. There is no reliable indicator like brand or price point; you have to know what you’re looking for and spend time finding it. A lot of people don’t have that luxury. And to say, “well, spend the equivalent of a mortgage payment on 4 pieces of clothing” is also not realistic to the vast majority of people.

“Fancy, limelight-hogging showpieces are a distraction best avoided. Jazziness is good, but keep it subtle.”

So, the article pays lip service to the idea that a capsule wardrobe has to be practical and serve the person’s needs … and then it immediately proceeds to tell people what they need. The answer is a blazer, apparently. I like blazers as much as the next person (who likes blazers) but the idea that everyone MUST own one needs to die. Apart from being unhelpful to a lot of people, it’s an idea that connects up with a phenomenon that other, smarter, more eloquent people have described better elsewhere: the flattening of personal aesthetic. It’s why we have Instagram Face and AirSpace – everything and everyone is starting to look the same. There is nothing wrong with Instagram Face, per se; it’s a perfectly fine aesthetic, if that’s your thing. The problem starts, as far as I’m concerned, when Instagram Face becomes so ubiquitous that it stops being an aesthetic and becomes a value standard. To go back to clothing: neutrals are good. I LOVE black. Like, a lot. White, and cream, and grey, and camel – all fine. But elevating them to be the universal standard of “good style”? No. You can dress like a rainbow and have good style.

Give me “fancy, limelight-hogging showpieces”. I adore them. They’re not for everyone. But they are for some people, and to suggest that those people are “worse dressers” because of it is not ok. There is something about the phrase “jazziness is good, but keep it subtle” that sets my teeth on edge. I am a white, middle-class, cis woman and far from being especially woke, but there is an undertone to statements like this that makes me uncomfortable. The aesthetic touted in this article and throughout modern history as the epitome of “elegant” and “stylish” is a very particular one: it’s Audrey Hepburn; it’s Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy, it’s Francoise Hardy (all women cited at the very beginning of this article). What do they all have in common?

Look, I am not bagging on the neutrals-heavy minimalist aesthetic; like leggings, it has its attractions and I am not immune to them. But let me repeat: I am not inherently a better dresser when I wear head-to-toe monochrome than when I am wearing bold prints or loud colours. And why can’t a person have a capsule – yes, even a small one – of “fancy” showpieces? Sure, people might be able to more easily tell that the person is re-wearing the same clothes but so what? On one hand, this article is touting the merits of outfit-repeating, while on the other, it suggests that one ought to find ways to disguise that fact (by wearing clothing that is as homogenous as possible). I don’t get it.

Here’s my take on capsule wardrobes. They won’t make you a better dresser. Sorry, but there is no shortcut for that. Personal style is as much an art as any other creative endeavour. There is no formula for sprezzatura. It’s not effortless; don’t believe the lies. The secret to style is not to be unlocked by buying the “right” clothes.

That’s the bad news.

And the good news? First, you don’t need to be a good dresser or particularly stylish in order to be well-dressed. And by well-dressed, I mean dressed appropriately for the occasion, whatever it may be. That is all that social convenience requires. Just as not everyone can or wants to be a concert pianist, not everyone can or wants to be a style icon. (If you want to be, you will dedicate time to it, just like the concert pianist. But it’s okay to not want that, even if you enjoy listening to classical music.)

Second, a capsule wardrobe can definitely simplify the process of getting dressed. That’s obvious. Fewer choices mean fewer decisions to be made. For some people, this is a very worthwhile goal. (For people like me, the decision-making process IS the fun part.) But convenience is an entirely separate issue from style. You can be obsessed with style but wear the same thing every day because you have a very narrow aesthetic. Or you can wear the same thing every day because you don’t care about style. Conflating the two might make for a click-baity headline but it’s not very helpful.

“A streamlined wardrobe frees a little more of your time, your sanity – and the world’s resources”

Where do I begin. One, this article has apparently never heard of a circular economy, or secondhand clothing. Ok, fine. Let’s keep it basic: buying fewer clothes is better for the environment. But sanity? Holy whopper of an assumption, Batman. My sanity is just fine, thanks for the concern. I’ll say it again: I. Enjoy. Choosing. What. To. Wear. Every. Day. I like painting with my full box of colours – literally and figuratively. And, yes, not everyone does. Some people don’t want to paint, period. And while you might think that this type of article empowers them, I think it does the opposite. Go back to the premise: having a capsule wardrobe makes you a better dresser. Why would someone who doesn’t care about style – who feels overwhelmed (their sanity!) by the idea of having to choose something to wear every day – care about being a good dresser? They don’t. What they care about, presumably, is being appropriately dressed and getting on with things they actually enjoy doing. But, implicitly, this article is telling them that they should care. And that there is a solution to this problem they didn’t know they had.

And, yeah, there you have it.

Capsule wardrobes are a f*cking marketing gimmick. What, did the “subtle” (can’t make it too jazzy, after all) advertising for the $1,500 4-piece wardrobes not tip things off?

Sigh.

I know, I know: this whole post could have been condensed into: “Late stage capitalism, man.” But then I would not have had the opportunity to rant for nearly 1,500 words which is, surely, almost as pleasurable as spending $1,500 on a pair of luxury leggings. Thanks for indulging me.

Judging from many of the blogs and social media accounts I follow, 2020 seems to be the year of the No Buy. So many people are talking about cutting back their consumption, paring down their closets, embracing minimalism.

I … am not.

I am not intentionally bucking the trend, I swear. Well, OK, there is a little part of me that enjoys being contrary. Mostly, I’m just going with the thrifting flow. And the thrift gods have brought me a steady trickle of little treasures since January. I try to be selective, I really do. But I am also an acquisitive magpie at heart; there are limits to my restraint.

I’ll be writing more about this in a future post, but I’ve been on the opposite of a no-buy so far this year. With the exception of the some of the items I’ll be showing you in this post, all of my purchases so far have been thrifted (or otherwise secondhand). And a lot of what I’ve been buying has been accessories and books. So many books. I am in book heaven right now (and working on plans to expand my home library).

But that’s not what I want to talk about today. Today, let’s look at some pretty jewelry pieces I’ve picked up in the last couple of months.

This cultured pearl necklace was a Winners impulse buy, but I loved the unusual, modern design – especially the paper clip-like links. I plan to wear this in the summer with some of my more, ahem, plunging necklines.

I love Warren Scott Steven earrings. They are fun and distinctive, and they elevate every outfit instantly. I also love being able to support independent, Indigenous artists so this is one retail purchase I don’t mind making.

Labradorite is my favourite stone, so I tend to pick up reasonably-priced pieces whenever I can. I found this Argento Vivo ring (on the left) at Nordstrom Rack and was impressed by its size and apparent quality relative to the price. It’s large enough to make a statement, but classic and minimalist enough to be quite versatile for everyday wear. It’s become one of my go-to right-hand rings.

Speaking of daily wears, this ring stack is my favourite engagement ring/wedding ring alternative. I still adore my original set, but 10 years later, I want some variety. I also don’t want to invest a lot of money into the alternatives, at least not immediately. I’ve been “testing” a few combinations using inexpensive rings from Amazon over the years, and this is my hands-down fave so far. Both rings were under $25 but have been holding up well over the last month or so. The band is gold-filled, and the ring is sterling silver – at least according to the product listing. I’ve had no adverse reactions to either piece, and they haven’t turned my fingers green. I really like the style and dimensions of each ring (the band could be a little bit thicker) and the colour of the centre stone. If I were to upgrade, I’d be looking for something similar in a lab-created gemstone, with real gold.

At the other end of the ring spectrum, there is this humongous agate slice ring. It looks handmade, and I thrifted it for something like $4. I’ve been looking for something like this for a while, mostly on eBay, but hadn’t found something I liked until I saw this. I wish the stone was a different colour, as I don’t wear brown a lot, but it’s still a fabulous piece and thrifters can’t be choosers, I suppose.

I’ve been finding a lot of Stella & Dot pieces at the thrift store lately, which is just fine by me. I don’t believe in supporting MLMs directly, but I will pick up Stella & Dot pieces secondhand because, in my experience, they are quite well-made for (non-high end) costume jewelry. This necklace is a good example – the centerpieces are stone, not plastic, and the gold tone finish is intact (even though this is an older piece).

Initially, I thought this might also be a Stella & Dot piece, but it doesn’t have the usual tag nor any other markings. It looks and feels like department-store quality costume jewelry – comparable to J. Crew and the like. Mostly, I bought it for the style – it has that modernist vibe I really like, and I love the swampy green colour of the stones.

And that’s it for fun new (to me) jewelry. Stay tuned for a post on some of my favourite recent thrifted clothing finds. Yes, there are a couple of thrifting Hall of Famers in there 😉