What I Read: More Random Musings

It’s Friday, so you know the drill. This week’s edition of Random Musings, in lieu of anything vaguely book-related, is inspired by the Greatest Love of 2018 (So Far): Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson.

One

There have been a lot of think pieces in a very short time about BDE – what it is, who has it, who doesn’t. I’m down with this assessment of the Four Chrises; it’s gonna take me a while to digest the longer list here. (I most definitely do NOT have BDE — according to Buzzfeed, I’m at 50%, and that might as well be zero in this context.) But I have one question: if Rihanna has the most BDE ever – by popular consensus, it seems – what about Beyonce? The Rihanna vibe is very different from the Beyonce vibe. Does Beyonce have BDE?

Two

I think the public obsession with the Grande-Davidson pairing is baffling. Am I the only person who doesn’t think that it’s a big deal or unexpected that they got engaged approximately 6 minutes after meeting? They’re young, they’re in love, they’re rich, they’re not encumbered by regular people responsibilities. Why the hell not? I remember being in the throes of infatuation in my early 20s; had I had the wherewithal to act on my whims without thought of the consequences, I might have racked up a few post-haste engagements of my own. Do I think this is likely to last, to an actual marriage or beyond? Not really, but I’m not sure that’s the point; it’s certainly not my business to rain on these lovebirds’ parade. Seriously, though: can someone explain why the internet is losing its mind over this story? Is it simply because this particular couple has been pretty open about their feelings, and people are just getting irresistibly drawn into the whirlwind of their enthusiasm? Or am I missing something about Grande and/or Davidson that explains the obsession?

Three

Not to circle back to BDE, but I found it interesting that one of the more popular sub-topics in the Grande-Davidson genre is the “leagues of hotness” discussion. Grande is, again by popular consensus, several leagues of hotness above Davidson, and this is the kind of situation that apparently never not raises the question “how?” [insert obligatory eyeroll] In my experience, for men in Davidson’s position there are only two accepted answers: (i) money, and (ii) a big d**k. If the roles were reversed, the conventional answer would be … actually, I have no idea. I don’t think there is one, unless “he’s gay and it’s all just a fauxmance” counts as one. I get why people might not immediately jump to money being a, quote-unquote, explanation* for “non-conventionally attractive woman dates hot guy” scenarios; glass ceiling and all. But why does no one go, “she’s obviously just phenomenal in bed, duh”? Why is “he obviously has no sexual interest in her whatsoever” – in other words, the exact opposite – the go-to assumption?

[* No explanation is actually needed. What people find attractive is a long and infinitely varied list. Not sure why this is still noteworthy in the year 2018.]

What I Wore: June 18-25, 2018

The Artists

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Of all the things in my closet, this Sarah Pacini dress comes closest to encapsulating my Artist style avatar. It’s so good. I didn’t even know the designer until I took it home (from Value Village, y’all know how I roll), but the fabric and the details had me convinced that it was something special. It’s 100% linen, with a soft shimmer to it. The cut skims the body without being too revealing; the draping around the neckline and hem is genius. It’s going to be tricky to pair with toppers once the weather is cooler, but I am game for some experimenting and in the meantime, I am going to enjoy the heck out of wearing it on its own (and be thankful for the heatwave).

Honourable mention in this outfit goes to the bag, which was also thrifted. It’s the Marc by Marc Jacobs Ukita style in a lovely pewter metallic colour; I have been wearing it non-stop. I’ve been getting really lazy about switching bags from day to day, especially since I often end up using my backpack for lugging things to work and back; I like having a purse that’s relatively small and that goes with everything. This fits the bill, and it was a whopping $20. Team Thrift 4 lyfe.

And I almost forgot these earrings! Inexcusable!

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Old Timer

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This Deletta top one of the oldest items in my wardrobe, and one of the first Anthro pieces I ever thrifted. I am still very fond of it, even though the print is a little too sweet for my current aesthetic. For that reason, I paired it with trousers I would never had thought to wear 3 or 4 years ago — give the outfit a little bit of edge. These COS trousers have a strong menswear vibe (dare I say, a little grandpa-esque?) which I really dig. It’s a simple outfit, but one that doesn’t feel boring. That’s the sweet spot, as they say.

Updating A Favourite

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New trousers, new outfit and another excuse to show this Marni top on the blog. The colour of the pants is not quite the same shade of red as the top, but it’s close enough. I like to wear bright colours like these on a Monday because it *feels* like I’m making an effort and being optimistic, whereas my internal morning monologue goes something like this: Noooooooooooo! (Picture me clinging to my bed like Rose clung to that raft after the Titanic went down. Ain’t no room for Monday up in here, sorry!)

 

Recent (Non-Fashion) Purchases

Hey, wanna hear about stuff I bought recently? If so, it’s your lucky day. If not, well … it’s not your lucky day, but it could be worse. I could be talking about knitting again. Ba-dum-tish! (Although, in the interests of full disclosure, there is a post on that very topic waiting in my draft folder. You have been warned.)

Amope Pedi Perfect Foot File

I loathe feet. Have I ever mentioned that before? I’m sure I have, because my loathing is strong and of long-standing. I include my own feet in that statement, so summers are a trial for me from that perspective. I do what I can with salon pedicures, but it never seems to be enough. Being too easily grossed out to try that whole Baby Foot business, I decided to go a more modest route with this Amope foot file [non-affiliate link]. It’s cheaper on Amazon than at Shoppers Drugmart, which is the extent of my consumer research into this product. It’s okay. It doesn’t work as well on heels as that blade thingie they use at the salon, but if used consistently, it does seem to keep my feet looking somewhat presentable between pedicures.

I thought I would be ingenious and use some of my (skincare) acids on my feet – skin is skin, and a little chemical exfoliation wouldn’t hurt, right? Well, it turns out that, no: the skin on my feet probably needs a more nuclear option (like the aforementioned Baby Foot) in order to see any results, because a little glycolic acid made no difference whatsoever. So now I just use Aquafor to try to keep my hooves as soft as reasonably possible.

L’Oreal Mythic Oil Huile Originale

This is basically fancy leave-in conditioner. I bought it at Shoppers on a whim, after remembering that my old hair stylist used it once on my hair, years ago. This would have been around the time of my second or third perm – remember those days? – when my hair was very dry; the oil, I seem to recall, made a big difference. Considering the current length of my hair and the fact that I don’t colour it (and barely style it), the Mythic Oil is probably overkill. But it’s nice and it does wonders as a detangler for my daughter’s waist-length, naturally wavy hair. I’ve also started using it as a leave-in conditioner for my son’s hair, which is very thick and wiry. A little goes a long way, so my current bottle (which was around $28CAD) should last the family a while.

Castor oil

I bought this after a bout of pink-eye forced me to ditch all my existing eye products, including my beloved EyEnvy serum. A friend told me that castor oil is good for stimulating hair growth and, well, it’s a lot cheaper than EyEnvy. I did use it on my eyelashes for a few days with no adverse effects, but then I chickened out and went back to the EyEnvy. Now, I’m using the castor oil mostly on my eyebrows and my hairline, in spots where I have some hair thinning. It’s only been about a month, so it’s too early to have a good sense of results (or lack thereof), but I think I’ve seen a little bit of improvement in my (patchy) eyebrows. Will keep you guys posted.

Stila Color Balm Lipstick

I found a couple of shades of this lip stuff at Winners for $8.99 and … well, I’m weak, you guys. After Rimmel discontinued my favourite lip crayons, I still haven’t found my replacement Holy Grail lip product. So I keep looking and succumbing to various temptations. The good news is that this Stila stuff in Raisin is the bomb. It’s a great reddish brown that nails the whole “my lips but better” thing. The finish is somewhere between shiny and matte, which is great for everyday, and it doesn’t dry out my lips. I am less fond of the Avery colour; it’s a sort of coral that doesn’t really work for my complexion, and it has that minty smell I dislike in lip products (which, oddly, the Raisin does not have). I’m not sure if these are still carried by Stila, but I like Raisin enough that I will probably investigate further once my current tube runs out; the regular retail price is likely to be too high for me, but we’ll see.