It’s Friday, so you know the drill. This week’s edition of Random Musings, in lieu of anything vaguely book-related, is inspired by the Greatest Love of 2018 (So Far): Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson.
One
There have been a lot of think pieces in a very short time about BDE – what it is, who has it, who doesn’t. I’m down with this assessment of the Four Chrises; it’s gonna take me a while to digest the longer list here. (I most definitely do NOT have BDE — according to Buzzfeed, I’m at 50%, and that might as well be zero in this context.) But I have one question: if Rihanna has the most BDE ever – by popular consensus, it seems – what about Beyonce? The Rihanna vibe is very different from the Beyonce vibe. Does Beyonce have BDE?
Two
I think the public obsession with the Grande-Davidson pairing is baffling. Am I the only person who doesn’t think that it’s a big deal or unexpected that they got engaged approximately 6 minutes after meeting? They’re young, they’re in love, they’re rich, they’re not encumbered by regular people responsibilities. Why the hell not? I remember being in the throes of infatuation in my early 20s; had I had the wherewithal to act on my whims without thought of the consequences, I might have racked up a few post-haste engagements of my own. Do I think this is likely to last, to an actual marriage or beyond? Not really, but I’m not sure that’s the point; it’s certainly not my business to rain on these lovebirds’ parade. Seriously, though: can someone explain why the internet is losing its mind over this story? Is it simply because this particular couple has been pretty open about their feelings, and people are just getting irresistibly drawn into the whirlwind of their enthusiasm? Or am I missing something about Grande and/or Davidson that explains the obsession?
Three
Not to circle back to BDE, but I found it interesting that one of the more popular sub-topics in the Grande-Davidson genre is the “leagues of hotness” discussion. Grande is, again by popular consensus, several leagues of hotness above Davidson, and this is the kind of situation that apparently never not raises the question “how?” [insert obligatory eyeroll] In my experience, for men in Davidson’s position there are only two accepted answers: (i) money, and (ii) a big d**k. If the roles were reversed, the conventional answer would be … actually, I have no idea. I don’t think there is one, unless “he’s gay and it’s all just a fauxmance” counts as one. I get why people might not immediately jump to money being a, quote-unquote, explanation* for “non-conventionally attractive woman dates hot guy” scenarios; glass ceiling and all. But why does no one go, “she’s obviously just phenomenal in bed, duh”? Why is “he obviously has no sexual interest in her whatsoever” – in other words, the exact opposite – the go-to assumption?
[* No explanation is actually needed. What people find attractive is a long and infinitely varied list. Not sure why this is still noteworthy in the year 2018.]