The Community Trading Post, April 2018

It`s the last Friday of the month, so it`s time to talk shop. Or swap. or trade. If there is something you`re looking to buy, or something you`d like to sell or trade, here is your chance to reach out to your fellow BCRL readers.

A reminder of the disclaimers/ground rules for Community Trading:

One, while I believe in the BCRL community, I do not know each of you personally, so I cannot vouch for any person or item. Please use your best discretion, both when buying and trading. While I think this idea has great potential, its success is premised on trust and the honour system – please be fair and respectful of others. If anyone becomes aware of concerns over another poster/reader’s actions, please let me know. I do not have time to police people, but I also don’t want anyone to be using my site to rip others off, so should something of that nature happen, I will shut down these posts immediately.

Two, I would ask that people at least consider international shipping, provided the other party is willing to assume the costs. I say this as a Canadian who often feels shut out of trading sites where the members are predominantly from the US. Of course, I can’t and wouldn’t force anyone to do something they feel comfortable with, but I know there are BCRL readers all over North America (and the world), and I think it would be nice if everyone had the option to participate.

Three, please feel free to include links to specific items you are selling/seeking as long as they are not affiliate ones.

Four, please be clear about the specifics of what you are looking for and/or are offering, including payment, shipping, etc. Alternately, you can include an email address for inquiries, but please note that this would be visible to the public/anyone visiting the blog.

See you in the comments!

What I Wore: April 12-25

Wild Thing

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You guys might be wondering why I’m still posting outfits like it’s the middle of winter and that’s because, well, it still is in my neck of the woods. We have had something like 170 consecutive days of below 0 Celsius weather since last October. It snowed 2 days after I took this photo. I am so DONE. Ahem. On the plus side, my coat game has never been stronger thanks to thrifting, so I’ll take every opportunity to bust out my pieces. This Zara leopard print number always gets a ton of compliments. I don’t generally like to wear leopard print, but this is a muted version (if there is such a thing) so I like it a lot. It’s a boxy cut, which helps somehow. When the Adventurer is feeling Sassy, this coat comes out to play. I paired it with the usual – chunky knit, my everyday Madewell boyfriend jeans. In this case, even the bag and boots are thrifted, which means I was wearing head-to-toe thrift to go … where else … thrifting.

That Weird Capelet Thing

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… is that I call this, um, weird capelet thing I’m wearing here. It’s a cropped cardigan version of a capelet. Parts of it look like they’ve been spray-painted gold. It’s weird and amazing. Since that was my starting point, I figured I may as well go for broke, so I added some more gold into the mix. Nobody wanted to buy this Madewell shimmer tee on the ThriftRats shop, so I decided to keep it for myself. I like the – wait for it – boxy cut though the material is a bit stiffer/rougher than I would like (even with the lining). I still think it’s a keeper because the aesthetics of it are intriguing. I would say this fits the Prince pretty well; there is a kind of knight-ish edge to this outfit. It’s that weird capelet thing, I’m telling you.

Culottes, Again

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I bought these culottes because they challenged me; I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with them, which normally would be a reason to NOT buy them except we live in a brave new world now, baby. And by “we” I mean “me”, and by “brave” I mean … well, “trying to be different and cool”. I’m all about the non-conventional, yo! Anywhoo, I did what they also say you shouldn’t do, which is pair voluminous culottes with a voluminous sweater. (Eileen Fisher, of course. I am fully committed to this Eileen phase of my life.) Did I look a bit like a potato sack? Maybe. I think this is an outfit that looks better in person/in motion, but it’s definitely not figure-flattering in any traditional sense, any way you look at it. And that’s okay! I really enjoyed it.

(It’s an Artist kind of outfit, I think, in case you were wondering.)

Style Avatars, Part Four: The Bohemian

For background/context, please read this post.

The Bohemian (casual/fancy)

Key words: bold, assertive, idiosyncratic, DGAF

Vibe: boho, quirky, comfortable, dramatic

Style notes: sack dresses, chunky knits, bold colours/prints, bold accessories

Favourite colours: all of them

I struggled the most with the name of this avatar (more so than even the Artist), and I am still not entirely satisfied with my choice. Old Lady Who Doesn’t Give a F***k doesn’t quite trip off the tongue, though it captures the spirit better. The “old” is most certainly not a pejorative here, and it’s intentional. First, we have discussed at length my stereotypically grandma-ish hobbies and interests. Second, I find that age is a bestower of confidence, especially for women; it’s the trade-off for all those dewy perks of youth. And there is nothing more powerful than a woman with experience, who is not afraid to stand her ground.

The Bohemian is my inner badass. She doesn’t care what people think; she doesn’t cater to the male gaze. She will wear whatever she damn well pleases. She is a little bit ornery, maybe, but also has a great sense of humour. Experience has made her more generous – to herself and others. Everyone should feel happy in their own skin!

My icon? The legendary Iris Apfel of course.

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And here is some of my inspo:

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And some past outfits that kinda fit here (it’s a work in progress):

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This concludes my series detailing my new perspective on personal style. I have been working within the parameters of my 4 characters for about a month now, and I am starting to see progress – in my closet, in how I feel in my clothes day-to-day, in my overall attitude. I feel like my wardrobe is much better aligned with my inner sense of my current self. I have re-discovered the joy of getting dressed, and feeling like I’m coming out of a rut I didn’t even know I was in.

What I like about this approach is that it avoids the pitfalls of trying to define your style within certain pre-determined aesthetics. Like “preppy chic” or “boho” or “classic” or whatever. What does that mean? Those categories are so generic and amorphous. Meanwhile, really specific aesthetics (“corporate witch going on a space journey”, or whatever) are too constrictive and one-dimensional, at least to me. Style is dynamic and reactive; my avatars are the embodiment of that. Some days, the Prince might be feeling a bit dark; other days, he might feel sassy – leopard print pumps, anyone? But the spirit, the inner core is consistent and it establishes guidelines that are clear yet flexible. I can ask myself: would the Prince (or the Artist, or the Adventurer, or the Bohemian) wear this? And I instantly know. Sometimes, I wish I didn’t because it means having to leave behind cute pieces. But I have also been having fewer purchase regrets.

If you have been following along, I would love to hear your thoughts. Have you considered what your style characters or avatars might be? Are you interested in this kind of experiment? And if you have tried it or are trying it, how did/is it coming along?

Quick programming note: a new Community Trading Post will be going up on the blog on Friday, so if there are things you are looking to buy or sell, this will be a chance to get your stuff out there.