What I Wore: March 22-28, 2018

Casual Friday Best

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This is one of my best casual Friday outfits in recent memory, and I wore it to see Michelle Obama speak at Rexall Centre. Living my best life, hashtag.

As far as the outfit goes, I am obsessed with this shade of green – I’m calling it “sage” – which has replaced jasper (dark/forest green) as my favourite green. My other favourite thing about this outfit is the bag; the cognac is a less expected choice than black, but it works really well as part of the colour story here. (Does “colour story” sound unbearably pretentious?) This is the second small MbMJ crossbody I thrifted in the last few months, and I am ever so thankful for it. It’s the perfect size for weekends and other occasions when I’m “traveling light” and don’t want to bother with a big bag. The style is so simple and so classic that it goes with anything. Really, these are great bags and you can sometimes find them on eBay for great prices so I guess what I’m saying is that you need to look into this, right now.

Starry Starry Shirt

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It’s a shirt … with stars on it. Your mind has been blown, I’m sure. It’s actually more complicated than that, because the shirt also has very detailed cut-outs. Just Anthro, throwing everything at the wall (creatively speaking) to see what sticks. I feel like I would like the shirt more if it just had the stars, but oh well. It will probably end up in the ThriftRats store at some point. Paired with this old Zara skirt, the result is cute – a little more “girly” than I would like, but cute. Next time, to switch things up, I think I will pair this skirt with something more voluminous on top – not cropped, not tucked in. If the result is more Shapeless Blob than Unexpected But Interesting Silhouette, the skirt might be on the chopping block as well. I am ruthless, I tell you.

Edited to add: The shirt, oy vey. The quality turned out to be hot garbage. The sleeve cut-outs got caught on things and started unraveling on the first wear. The material is super cheap poly, and the cut-out are not reinforced in any way so you can imagine that disaster waiting to happen. What the hell, Anthro? Not cool. Needless to say, don’t buy this (on eBay or whatever).

Obi Chic

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This is an old outfit EXCEPT … new belt. It goes really well with this top, doesn’t it? I like the easy adjustability of an obi-style belt because, let’s face it, my waistline after lunch is not the same as before. Comfort above all, my friends.

Unapologetic Mom Jeans

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Gosh, I love this so much, I don’t know where to begin. The jacket is a perfect embodiment of my style essence – butterflies on a leather jacket. It was thrifted in brand new condition by my friend Jenn (Life Preloved in IG), and you better believe that I snapped it up from her as soon as she posted it for sale. No regrets. Jenn also runs a consignment biz, which is how I ended up with these amazing Holding Horses mom jeans. Y’all know I have a thing for patched denim. Also, that lightweight wash is great. I knew these two pieces would be great together, and while this might not be “the” (I.e. only) perfect outfit in my books, it’s a perfect outfit for sure.

What I Read: Deep Thoughts Edition

Lately, most of my leisure time has been divided between my new hobby (embroidery, holla!) and rediscovered old ones (blogging, holla!), so reading has taken a backseat. For comfort, I’ve been reading some of the usual suspects (Anne Perry, the Maisie Dobbs mysteries, some previously read historical non-fiction), which probably do not warrant a post. I’ve got a few promising books coming my way – and a couple of vacations coming up as well – so I will have more to report later, but for now I only have one to talk about: 12 Rules for Life by Jordan B. Peterson.

If you’re Canadian, the name may be familiar to you; in addition to being a well-respected clinical psychologist and tenured professor at the University of Toronto, Peterson is something of a media sensation at the moment, following his public critique of the federal government’s Bill C-16 (which proposed to add “gender identity or expression” as a prohibited ground of discrimination under Canadian human rights legislation). He has been characterized by many in the media as an alt-right supporter, which would have probably been sufficient to deter me from picking up his book, had that been my first introduction to him. However, I heard about the book from my BFF – who is about as far from alt-right as you can get, and is also not a self-help book type of person – and she told me that she was looking forward to reading 12 Rules. Out of curiosity, I picked up the book on Amazon.

Whoo, boy.

I have a lot of thoughts about it. Probably too many to fit into a post like this. My TL;DR take? 12 Rules is definitely worth a read because, even if you vehemently disagree with Peterson on some or all of his theses, there are a lot of interesting ideas in there that are worth debating.

As a “self help book” – which, in all fairness, 12 Rules probably isn’t, not really – it has a strong flavour of “pull yourself up by the bootstraps”; Rule 6 is “Set Your House in Order Before You Criticize the World”. Peterson’s approach to this will irk a lot of people, and not without reason. On one hand, I think it has a lot of merit; I strongly believe in taking personal responsibility for one’s actions and their consequences, and I agree with Peterson that we cannot change people – the way to change the world is by living/acting the values that we believe are right. On the other hand, I also think that some of Peterson’s thoughts on this (and mine as well, no doubt) are products of the perspective of someone who probably never experienced significant systemic disadvantages. This might be a dealbreaker for some, and I wanted to acknowledge that.

However, if you are willing to give Peterson a chance, he does make some points which are worth thinking about. Parenthetically, I want to add that there are points I agree with, points I disagree with, and points that I need to ponder further before making up my mind. What I liked about the book was that it challenged me to think critically with every chapter – something I haven’t done in my personal reading, on a consistent basis, since my 20s. (I call my books “comfort reading” for a reason.) Some of the things I found particularly interesting? Peterson’s discussion of dominance hierarchies (Rule 1); his views on chaos & order being the duality that underlies nature and, in turn, shapes human existence (recurring theme throughout the book); and his discussion of Rule 7, “Pursue What Is Meaningful (Not What Is Expedient) and Rule 8, “Tell The Truth – Or, At Least, Don’t Lie”. It’s apparent that Peterson was influenced by philosophies that I also, at one time or another, have studied – including Christian existentialism, Taoism, and Jungian psychology; no doubt, this made me more receptive to his arguments. It was interesting to me to see where our analysis or conclusions (based on those influences) converged and where they diverged.

In the interest of keeping this post at a manageable length, I will end here, but if you have read 12 Rules, I would love to hear your thoughts.

What I Wore: March 12-21, 2018

The Tweaked Formula

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This is a very similar silhouette to an outfit I posted last week, which I suppose is a testament to its versatility. Or to my laziness. The cropped jacket is, as last time, by Rebecca Taylor but it fits much better which is why it’s a keeper. (For now. That ominous caveat is necessary given the purge upheaval currently happening in my closet. I was going to make a Stalin joke here but, um, maybe not.) I would love to find some more high-waisted pants – of the non-culottes variety – but they are tricky, tricky things. I like the look of the ones I’ve spotted on ASOS, but I have concerns. One, quality – there is nothing worse than polyester pants that make you feel like you’re wearing a garbage bag that might burst into flames if your thighs rub together for too long. Two, the danger of polterwang. I recently learned that delightful term thanks to FFA on Reddit, and it perfectly captures the awfulness that is an unintentionally baggy crotch.

So.

I have to actually go out there and try high-waisted pants if I want to find a decent pair, and I’ll be honest: unless I find these magical unicorns at the thrift store, it ain’t happening. The thought of going to the mall is exhausting even before I lift a digit off the couch.

The Tweaked Formula, Part 2

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This sweater+dress combo is one of my faves, and my thought process in putting together this outfit was simple: how can I wear this combo to work? Add a blazer, duh. Boom. Done. Did I mention how much I love working in a business-casual office? Before you @ me, please note that the dress is lined to the knee, so the devoré overlay does not actually reveal anything scandalous unless you are a time-travelling Victorian, in which case – welcome to the 21st century, but also, why are you wasting time reading this blog? There are far more exciting things of which to partake these days, like Tinder, sky-diving, and watching Black Panther in 3D.

Rust-ic Casual

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Yeah, ok. There is nothing rustic about this outfit, per se, but it was the only pun that came to mind. Sorry. The outfit is A-OK, though; 10 out of 10, will wear again. A few years ago, I wouldn’t have been caught dead wearing a shade even remotely close to my hair colour, but times change (see above). This rust/brick red is growing on me. I also dig the deconstructed look of this blazer, so it has that going for it as well. This is almost head-to-toe Anthro, but without a heavy dose of twee which I take as a kind of personal triumph.

The loafers/bag combo is also great, though possibly a little too matchy. But wait! Have we gone all the way back around to the point where matching your shoes to your bag is a cool thing or nah? I guess, sometimes, the more things change (in fashion), the more they stay the same.