What I Wore: October 2023, part two

Details: Reitmans sweater (thrifted), DKNY skirt (Poshmark)

Thoughts: This is the kind of outfit I could wear forever. The sweater is a nothingburger brand (as they say) but the design makes it a perfect statement piece for me. It’s relatively minimalist, but with a wow factor. The skirt … well, we’ve already talked about how much I love it. I’m wearing it here at its full length, and it’s still sexy without being too in-your-face about it.

Details: Revello top (retail), cashmere cardigan, Zara blazer, Danier skirt (all thrifted), Dooney bag (Poshmark), Mia shoes (retail)

Thoughts: How’s this for a fall outfit? This (real) suede skirt is a showstopper and I’m chuffed to have found it at the thrift store for $25 rather than have to pay retail prices. The colour is *chef’s kiss*. I decided to stick with an autumnal palette of browns and yellows, inspired by this mystery cashmere cardigan I thrifted. It’s a mystery because the brand label is missing, but it’s made in Perugia so it must be a little bit fancy, right? Hah! My platform loafers are still going strong in their second year, and I am forever congratulating myself on having had the foresight to pick a pair with brown soles because it makes them so easy to wear with both brown and black. Super versatile!

Details: Gap tank, UO pants, Zara duster, Josef belt (all thrifted), selfmade necklace

Thoughts: This was inspired by a Ralph Lauren SS 2024 runway look. I love Papa Ralph’s use of accessories; it’s always so thoughtful and intentional. Here, if you ignore the fringey duster, you have a pretty simple outfit, made special by accessories. There were been a few RL collections with a similar aesthetic — all black (or black and white) clothes with statement accessories. As someone who love bold jewelry and belts, I find it endlessly inspiring.

Details: Club Monaco turtleneck, Gap blazer (both thrifted), Margiela skirt (swap), Paloma Picasso bag (Poshmark)

Thoughts: My obsession with the 90s has introduced a strong minimalist streak into my outfits this season. The challenge of minimalism for me is making something very simple still look visually impactful — to myself, whose eye has been conditioned by maximalism for years. Here, one bold (but simple) pattern, textural contrast (leather), and interesting proportions do the heavy lifting.

Details: handmade hoodie, Chicwish skirt (both thrifted), Laredo boots (consignment)

Thoughts: I couldn’t resist the flair of this homemade patchwork hoodie at the thrift store, just like I could not resist the exuberance of this outfit at home. I’m calling it Patchwork Grunge Princess, and it’s one of the more obscure corners of my 90s obsession. Someone on Instagram recently brought up the Romantic Grunge aesthetic of the 90s, and it sparked something in me. I loved that back then, and it has so many possibilities now — it has lots of synergy with my Bohemian avatar. I feel like this outfit is part of my exploration of that aesthetic.

Details: COS sweater, BDG jeans, Brave belt, Stuart Weitzman shoes (all thrifted)

Thoughts: More 90s stuff. I love these baggy jeans so much, after resisting the style for so long. It’s a different look from the wide-leg denim I’ve adopted over the last couple of years, but it definitely has a place in my current outfit rotation given the 90s influence. When I wear them, it’s the trendiest I ever feel which, surprisingly, does make me feel a little bit self-conscious at times. I never want to feel like a trend is wearing me, rather than vice versa, so I have to be more intentional with the styling to make it feel like “me”.

Practical Sustainability: Caring For Our Clothes

One of the most accessible ways to be sustainable when engaging with fashion is by taking care of what we already own. Clothes that are well cared for last longer, which allows them to remain in use longer – and in circulation on the secondhand market if necessary – and, thus, out of landfills. Unfortunately, clothes care isn’t as familiar a topic these days as it used to be, or ought to be. Speaking for myself, it took me years to realize what I was doing wrong and figure out how to do better. I blame washing machines — they make you think you know what you’re doing when, in reality, it’s not quite as simple as it seems. I’m by no means an expert now, but I have a good enough handle on it to allow me to keep my clothes in “good nick” (as the English say). And, good enough is good enough; even small tweaks can help a lot.

Washing Clothes – How Often is Too Often?

Listen, I know; this is a hot button topic for people. Just like there are people who wash their hair every day and refuse to believe that a person can be clean otherwise, there are people who believe that every item of clothing must be washed after every wear. Experts (and I’m not talking about myself here) all agree this is not correct, but I expect that will not convince some of you. It’s fine; if you’re in that category, there are other ways to increase the longevity of your clothes, but know that your clothes will wear out comparatively faster (no matter what else you do) due to washing frequency.

For everyone else: what should we be doing?

The answer, as always, is “it depends”. It will depend on everything from the type of item in question, to fabric content, to lifestyle, to personal factors such as proneness to sweat. This Vogue article provides some general guidelines. You will see, for example, that Levi’s recommends that jeans be washed after every 10 wears. Other experts suggest that wool sweaters can be washed at the end of the season. Whether you follow these guidelines to the letter or come up with your own (shorter or longer ones) is up to you and your own comfort level.

I’ll share my general approach, not because I’m suggesting it’s what you should do, but because you might find my thought process helpful.

A few things you need to know about me: I don’t sweat a lot (unless in a highly stressful situation); I live in a cold climate and spend most of my time in climate-controlled environments; I don’t do a lot of highly physical and/or outdoors activities; I am 100% WFH. All of these things factor into my decision-making about clothes-washing frequency – your mileage may vary.

Perhaps the most important consideration for me is: am I wearing the item directly against the skin, particularly in areas prone to sweat? Wearing base layers – which I tend to do for both practical (weather-related) and style reasons – helps to minimize how often I have to wash certain items. So, for example, if I’m wearing a cotton sleeved tee underneath a blazer, I am going to need to launder that blazer less often than if I wore it with a sleeveless tank. A piece that’s more tight-fitting and more likely to rub against my skin will get more frequent washing than something that fits loosely.

It’s basically the same principle that people in Ye Olde Days applied. They used wool, linen, and cotton underclothing – from chemises to petticoats and assorted other things, which were all regularly laundered – to protect their nice, expensive (and hard to clean) silk and velvet outer garments from contact with the body, which in those days was subject to a LOT less cleaning itself.

There are certain things I wash very infrequently, unless they become stained or impregnated with smells like smoke, etc. Jeans, most sweaters, coats, and skirts fall into this category for me. In contrast, I wash base layers frequently, every 1-3 wears depending on the item and fabric. Dresses, tops and blazers are a case-by-case situation. Because blazers usually require dry cleaning, which I like to avoid for both financial and environmental reasons, I usually try to wear a (sleeved) base layer under them to defer the need for cleaning as long as possible.

Something else I do to extend the time between laundering is to steam my clothes and air them out after wearing them and before putting them back in the closet. Steam is a very efficient sanitizer (though, obviously, it won’t work on stains), especially for pieces that are hard to clean via regular laundry. It takes very little time, doesn’t put extra stress on the clothing, and it really makes a difference. I also steam clothes before wearing them if I need to get wrinkles out, but mostly because I find it more convenient than ironing.

Washing Clothes – The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

By now, I hope we all know that the dryer is the main culprit in shortening the lifecycle of our clothes. I use it sparingly for things that aren’t (a) underclothing, (b) athleisure, or (c) loungewear (aka “house clothes”). Using a drying rack can be annoying at times, especially in a small house, but once you’re not washing everything constantly, it’s manageable.

I know some folks are “throw everything in the washing machine” people, but I am not quite that adventurous. My rule of thumb is: cotton, linen, polyester, acrylic, and blends of any of the above can go in the washing machine. Wool, silk, and embellished materials are handwash only. I will also make exceptions for items that are super valuable to me, and handwash those just to be on the safe side.

The only things I regularly dry-clean are blazers and heavy coats.

Leather care is a whole other topic, which I’m still learning about, tbh. Currently, what I do is gently wipe down leather items as needed, and steam clean the interior lining. (I also do this with fully-sequined pieces – turn them inside out and steam clean the hell out of the lining.) I’ve been lucky to avoid staining my leather clothing but if I did, I would seek out specialized help.

One thing I recently started to pay more attention to is the spin cycle. Basically, the higher the speed, the higher the agitation and cleaning power. Agitation can be bad for certain materials like wool. Higher spin cycles are best for cleaning heavily soiled items on durable fabrics like cotton, linen, and polyester. If I’m washing a lot of knits or more “delicate” items (like dresses and tops that aren’t very dirty), I’ll use a lower spin cycle (and the delicate cycle). This Laundress article touches on this and other useful tips for washing machine use.

I don’t use bleach in my washing machine cycles. My family doesn’t wear a lot of pure white clothing, but if I need to get stains or yellowing out of a white item, I will pre-treat it with Oxyclean then throw it in a regular cycle with other light-coloured clothing (or hand-wash as the case may be). I also pre-treat heavy stains on all types of clothing, but that is a topic that could take up a whole other post. My advice is always: if in doubt, Google will tell you what you need to do to treat a particular type of stain.

Mending Clothes

I know my way around with an embroidery needle, but I am not handy at all when it comes to sewing. Still, I am able to do the basics, including sewing on buttons and fixing small holes in most fabrics (silk excepted). And if I can do that, anybody can! Anything more elaborate, like hemming or replacing zippers, I will usually outsource because it’s something I simply don’t have the mental bandwidth to tackle. And that’s okay! Know and respect your own boundaries. Of course, if you have the time and inclination, learning as many simple mending techniques as possible can save you money. But if you don’t, don’t beat yourself up. Just recognize that clothing that needs a little bit of work can still have a lot of life left in it and treat it accordingly. It’s more sustainable to pay a little bit to fix an old garment than to buy it new again.

Shoes deserve a special mention here. I am not as diligent about water-proofing and moisturizing my leather shoes as I should be, although I am careful about what shoes I wear in wet conditions to minimize wear and tear. What I am very strict about is replacing heel tips and re-soling. Doing so proactively, before the heel or sole is fully destroyed, is really important and can extend the life of leather shoes indefinitely. Good, comfortable shoes are worth their weight in gold, so this is an expense I will happily incur.  

I hope you’ll find some useful information in this post (and the links are even better, I promise) and feel free to share your tips in the comments.

What I Wore: 90s Week!!

Details: H&M top (retail), Everlane sweater (thrifted), DKNY skirt (Poshmark)

Thoughts: Ahhh, the saga of this outfit! It all started when I saw the H&M ad on the right in their store a few months back. It immediately triggered my deeply rooted 90s nostalgia. Doesn’t it look like all those cool CK ads from the 90s? I was never cool enough to be a CK girl back then. Kate Moss, c’est pas moi. But my 40s are all about boldly going where my teenage self feared to tread, so I set about trying to recreate that ad photo with a vengeance. The first step was breaking my no-retail rule to buy the extra long sleeved white cotton shirt from H&M. It’s not the worst thing; it’s a versatile base layer, and I know I’ll get lots of use out of it. The next step was acquiring a sheer panel skirt. Sheer is a big trend these days (oop!) but, outside of high end designers, finding a similar skirt proved difficult at first. Oh, I forgot to mention: the H&M version was long sold out by the time I started looking. But then! I lucked out BIG TIME. This amazing, vintage DKNY skirt popped up in my Poshmark searches and you better believe I smashed that buy button hard. Well, actually I made an offer and had it accepted but you know. I got it for a great price, and it’s far better quality than the H&M one, I’m sure. Love that for me, haha! It’s also a more wearable skirt because the opaque part actually comes down to just above the knees; I folded over the elastic waistband here so I could make it appear shorter. I love the extra versatility (and being able to control the sexiness quotient).

Details: White + Warren sweater, Nanette Lepore jacket (both thrifted), Contemporaine skirt (swap), Mia shoes (retail)

Thoughts: This was, of course, an homage to Clueless. I did substitute in a (p)leather skirt for a little extra edge. I also decided to give sheer black tights another try. It’s been years since I’ve worn them, but I feel like they were a 90s thing. I always wear some kind of tights with short skirts, because I don’t love the bare-legs look on myself. I still think I prefer opaque tights, but I might also just need more time to adjust to this version.

Details: Obey hoodie (thrifted), BlankNYC jacket (retail), Chicwish skirt (thrifted), Laredo boots (consignment)

Thoughts: This outfit was all about the juxtaposition and contrast — mixing girly with grunge. I loved wearing this outfit so much! I know Chicwish is basically a small step up from Shein, but I have to say this skirt is great for what it is; they didn’t skimp on the tulle layers, and they give the skirt a lot of volume and depth. I’m actively looking to find it in black as well. I must also give a shoutout to these boots. I was a bit unsure when I bought them because I had been looking for a pair of granny boots and these seemed more masc. But they’re perfect! I love that they have a bit of a combat boot vibe, without being full-on. They work well with skirts and dresses in that 90s kind of way. They’re also great with jeans, of course. And they’re super comfortable!

Details: Ralph Lauren sweater (gift), Gap skirt (thrifted)

Thoughts: The 90s loved their leather — leather blazers, leather trenches, leather skirts. This skirt is from 2000 — that was a GREAT year for Gap. I have a few other pieces from that year, and I love them. Similar skirts are all over the stores right now, and they’re selling for $500 and up. I paid $7 for mine. The burgundy colour is so good for fall. Here, I went really simple — the 90s loved their minimalism too — and focused on the textural contrast between the smooth leather and the chunky cable knit.

Details: Revello top (retail), Mexx cardigan, Vince dress, Fluevog shoes (all thrifted)

Thoughts: Is there anything more quintessentially 90s than this outfit? This takes me ALL the way back. Black and brown is one of my fave “under the radar” colour combos, and I think it has a minimalist vibe that works well in this context. The white provides the bit of high contrast that makes the other colours look sharper.

Details: Re/Done tee, Gap blazer, Gap belt, Oak & Fort jeans, Modern Vice shoes (all thrifted)

Thoughts: Last but not least, this outfit was inspired by the one and only Winona Ryder. Her street style, to be exact. Was there anything cooler in the early 90s? Anyway, speaking of leather and 2000 Gap things, this blazer: it’s so good. Just the right amount of oversized, a classic cut. I don’t even remember how much I paid for it anymore, but it was under $30. Good luck finding anything like that in stores now … well, unless you’re hitting up the thrift stores. Which you should 🙂