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Friday Feels #25

Well, it happened at last: snow. Ugh. I know it’s December in Edmonton, so I shouldn’t complain, but it somehow feels worse this year because we had such a nice, long fall for once. If I wasn’t already in hermit/hibernation mode before, I definitely am now. I feel like I’ve forgotten how to dress for winter and snow. I’m, like, what’s a coat? Can I not just add an extra thick sweater under my tweed jacket and call it a day? Life is so unfair sometimes.

I kid, I kid. Life’s been pretty good, albeit it very busy, this week. The algorithm is now convinced that my sole obsession (outside of Frankenstein) is astrology, so I have been inundated with deep dives about the planetary movements of the week and their supposed impact on my existence as a speck of dust on a giant rock hurtling through space. Honestly, I don’t know how people keep track of these things — there’s like a bazillion things happening constantly. And because my brain is wired to look for patterns in everything, it has seized on astrology as a fun little side quest. So far, I’m sad to report that I have seen very little correlation between what the astrology gurus tell me is happening in my life and what is actually happening in my life. But I am definitely convinced they’re correct and 2026 is gonna be my big year šŸ˜‰

Mostly because I really, really, really want it to be. I’ve got 4 books planned for publication next year, starting with A Party to Murder, so I have a lot riding on 2026 being a propitious year. The odds are ever against me (and all creatives) but I am choosing to be stupidly optimistic anyway. Here is a requisite shameless plug: if you haven’t done so already, please consider pre-ordering my book (on Amazon or from another retailer of your choice). It will be releasing on January 8, which is just about a month away — eeek!!

I heard back from my first ARC reader this week and they told me they loved the book! Ahhh, that’s the best feeling EVER!! Even better was the fact they said A Party to Murder doesn’t read like the first novel of an unknown author, which I took to mean that it doesn’t feel like amateur hour so … yay! When I decided to pursue publishing with this book, it was because I truly believed that it’s as good as the majority of books you can find in a bookstore. And, believe me, I’ve not felt that way about other things I’ve written in the past. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only person who thinks A Party to Murder is a pretty darn good (and fun) book.

Alright, alright, enough self-promotion. [For now. Sorry! Don’t hate me.] Now that I managed to drag myself over the finish line with my latest WIP, I have decided to take the rest of the month off from writing, bar for some editing on book #2, which goes to my editor in January. I am also taking 2 weeks off from work, and have been busy planning my days of leisure. The current plan is to binge watch a lot of comfort TV and movies, something I haven’t done in months.

To that end, I’ve been buying up DVDs from the thrift store. I hate what streaming has become, and how impossible it is to find what you want to watch (especially older stuff) on one or two platforms. I refuse to pay for half a dozen subscriptions at this point, so I’m building up my media library. I’ve got a few things lined up for the Christmas break, including Murder She Wrote and Colombo (I am SO excited!!), along with a few other ‘classics’ like Friends (planning to introduce my daughter to the show) and True Blood, and some of my older fave movies that I haven’t seen in years (just picked up a copy of Stardust, for example).

Have a great weekend!

Favourite Purchases of 2025

The end of 2025 is in sight (hallelujah!) so it’s time to roll out the retrospectives. I’ve decided to approach this year’s favourite purchases list in a slightly different way because, as I was going through my spreadsheet and jotting down items, I started to notice some patterns. You will see what I mean in a moment.

The other thing I noticed is that I bought about 30% fewer items this year compared to 2024, though my overall costs only went down by about 20%. I think that’s a function of a couple of factors, including the rising price at thrift stores and several ā€˜bigger ticket’ items I purchased this year (mostly on Poshmark). Initially, I also thought it had to do with having more retail purchases, but when I went back to check, it looks like there were only 2 additional ones compared to last year (and one of those was for underwear, which I buy once every 4 or 5 years, don’t judge me). I made 5 retail purchases this year, in case you’re curious.

OK, OK, but what were my fave purchases of the year? Read on.

Shoes

I bought quite a few pairs of shoes, but three in particular stand out. I adore my mary-jane Docs ($112) and my knee-high Docs ($144) and I expect I’ll be wearing them for years to come – hopefully, unless they fall apart sooner which would be a real shame. I’ve been hearing mixed reviews of Dr. Martens quality in recent years. So far, so good with my pairs. I also got a mid-calf pair of Docs boots, which is great, but I thought including a 3rd pair in this round-up would be overkill.

If you’ve been seeing my weekly outfit posts, the Le Chateau black slide sandals ($6) will have become obnoxiously familiar to you. I wore them almost every day this summer, literally. Not necessarily the most exciting shoe option, but so comfortable and easy to wear, and beyond versatile. I got a similar pair in gold as well, and it’s proven a good addition to my closet, but the black is far and above my most-worn shoe of the year.

Bags

I love vintage Coach bags and this is a category on which I’m willing to splurge a bit. I fell in love with the shape of the XL duffle bag ($275) and hunted one down in a colour (British tan) that I knew would be versatile in my closet. I also looked for a navy bag, which I didn’t have already, and eventually settled on this vintage style ($185) whose name I have regrettably forgotten now. Both of these were Poshmark purchases, which took me many months to find. Resale prices for 90s Coach bags has gone through the roof, so finding sub-$200 bags is becoming increasingly rare. I was willing to pay up a bit for the duffle bag because of its size and condition. I would love to add a couple of rarer colours to my collection, but those come up for resale infrequently and the price always reflects it.

This year I also celebrated the achievement of a thrifting holy grail: finding my first vintage Coach bag. Amazingly, I had been looking for a cream/beige Coach bag for a while, so finding one at the thrifts was doubly exciting. More amazingly, and triply exciting: I only paid $8 for it.

Ralph Lauren

Even when I don’t need new clothes, I always make an exception for certain vintage Ralph Lauren pieces. At this point, I consider myself a collector, lol! But I am picky with what I buy even when it comes to RL. I want pieces that embody the RL style ethos, rather than stuff that’s more or less ā€œanonymousā€ (i.e. it looks like it could come from any brand). Because resale prices for vintage RL have also skyrocketed, I have not been able to add to my curated collection in a meaningful way this year. Which is OK! Patience is the keyword here.

I was lucky enough to find the dog sweater ($8) at the thrifts, along with the brown silk dress ($25). The latter is not necessarily a ā€œRalph collectionā€ piece for me, but it’s still a fave purchase because of the quality and because the style really suits my aesthetic. My only other intentional purchase was the tapestry blazer ($94), which was a Poshmark find. It was love at first sight, so I was willing to pay up for it … after doing a bit of research and seeing that similar ones were listed on eBay for several hundreds of dollars.

The H&M Cardigans

Do I need to talk about these again? I think not. I paid $7 and $30, respectively, for the black and the cream.

The Retail Dresses

These two dresses are both faves from an aesthetic perspective, and coincidentally represent the two ends of the retail purchase spectrum. The Anthropologie dress was $240, while the Sim & Sam dress (from Winners) was $25 – both at regular full price, I should add. I am not going to say that the quality is identical because it’s not; the construction of the Anthro dress is definitely better. But I think there is less difference than that price differential might suggest. It will be interested to see how they hold up over the years.

The Pants

One area of my closet that has been evolving this year is pants – specifically pants silhouettes. I struggled to find new styles that felt more ā€œme of nowā€, both in jeans and regular pants. This vintage Wrangler pair ($11) has been the clear winner so far. I love the fit. Almost every time I reach for a pair of jeans, it’s this one. The Uniqlo barrel pants ($60) were another retail purchase, and I’m glad I made it. The silhouette feels like an interesting update to the wide leg style that I had been favouring in recent years. I’ve been getting lots of wear out of this pair, and it’s very comfortable too.

One last fave: I got this vintage, reversible Orvis skirt at my clothing swap, and was immediately obsessed. I love everything about it, from the silhouette to the pattern to the colours to the length. And I love that it embodies my commitment to a circular economy and the connections I have made with others who share my values.

Friday Feels # 24

Where did this week go? No, seriously. I feel like I blinked and it was Friday again. I’m not complaining, by any means, because it was a productive week, but I’m a little stunned by how quickly these last few weeks of the year are going by. Maybe this is what it feels like to have ā€œflow stateā€ on a wholistic level (i.e. life as a whole is in a flow state). Time flies when you’re having fun, they say.

And, guys, I’m having fun. Not, like, every minute of every day but, again, wholistically. I’ve been focusing a lot lately on finding the right balance for my energy and time (between work, family, life, and creativity) and I think I’ve found a good groove. Finally! It’s so nice! These things are so fluid, and require constant adjustment, so I don’t expect this current groove remain groovy forever, but I’m enjoying it while I can.

I had another amazing therapy session last Friday and that really energized me. I feel like I’ve done some very solid and important self-work in the past 6 months or so, and I’m ending the year in a much more grounded and peaceful state than I started it. I might write a little more about this particular breakthrough/insight because I think it has the potential to resonate with other people. [Sidebar: when my therapist asked me if she could share the analogy/framing I developed through our conversation with some of her other clients, I felt like I was getting a gold star at therapy-ing. So I guess I’m not yet fully evolved past the gold star-hoarding stage, lol!]

I’m sure you’ve noticed that my writing here has been pivoting lately. It’s not intentional in the sense that I don’t have a specific plan or direction for overhauling the blog, but it is intentional in the sense that I am writing about what interests me. I have always done so, but my interests have been shifting – and dragging the blog along with them. From time to time, I worry about losing my ā€˜audience’ in the process; people that started following me to read about fashion and personal style might not be interested in what I have to say about other topics. Then I remember two things: (i) my blog owes nobody anything (that’s the beauty of not being monetized), and (ii) many of my OG followers stopped following me for fashion stuff a long time ago.

That being said, I also see this as a community space, so I invite you to share your thoughts about what you enjoy reading and/or hope to read here.

I’m slowly wrapping up my Christmas shopping – that is to say, the buying not the actual wrapping – but I’m feeling stuck on my own presents. Yes, I pick my own presents. It just makes everyone else’s life easier and makes me happier too. Because I’m picky, duh. And I hate the idea of (anyone) wasting money on things that aren’t useful/meaningful. I’ve found a few smaller items that I want/need, and that my kids can buy for me, but nothing for the ā€˜main’ gift (aka the one my husband would get for me). I’d had my eye on a vintage Coach bag on Poshmark for a while, but I dithered too long and it sold – and for a great price too, which made me regret it extra hard, lol! So now I’m back to square one. I don’t like buying something that isn’t a ā€œLOVEā€ for me just because an occasion calls for a present, so this may be one of those situations where I’ll get my Christmas present in, like, January or February or something.

Anyway, just for fun, I’d love to hear what’s on your Xmas wishlist.

Have a great weekend!