What I Watched & You Should Too!

I’m writing this post mostly because I just watched Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette special, and I felt the need to add my voice to the chorus of people telling you that you NEED to watch this, immediately. It’s rare that I feel such a visceral reaction to any show, much less a comedy special, but Nanette far transcends its genre. I’m giving it a few days to settle, then I plan on re-watching it because I am in awe of the way that Gadsby wrote and structured the show – it’s so brilliant, and it builds upon itself, layer by layer, to a perfect ending. It will devastate you, but in the best possible way. Seriously, “x” out of here and go watch it right now. Do it!

Did you watch it?

I hope so.

If you’re looking for more reccs, here are a few other things I read/watched recently.

This is not breaking news, but Hillbilly Elegy was a very interesting read. As a (white) immigrant from an “undesirable” European country, I’ve always felt like an outsider to the social class system here in the West, but reading Elegy re-framed my perspective on that to some extent. I have much less in common with the “hillbillies” that JD Vance writes about than I thought I did, largely because of education. I was poor growing up (particularly by Western standards) but everyone in my family, going back to both sets of grandparents, had post-secondary education and I grew up in an environment where academic success was highly valued (and, in fact, demanded). I don’t think I really understood before how much of a difference that makes, not necessarily in immediate economic terms, but in the mindset of a child and, ultimately, their long-term trajectory in life.

On a completely different note, I also really enjoyed browsing through The Cool Factor by Andrea Linnett, and was greatly inspired by it. I normally dislike style books that focus on “key pieces” (because everyone has different tastes, needs and lifestyles) but Linnett does so in a way that doesn’t feel prescriptive. For example, there is a chapter on how to incorporate leather into your wardrobe, and various options are included – from classic leather jackets, to skirts, pants, leggings, etc. Concepts are illustrated through outfits worn by different women (not models) with varying aesthetics, which I found very helpful. [I will say that, while there is some diversity among the women featured, there isn’t any real plus size representation in the book.] I wouldn’t say that there is anything particularly revolutionary about the book, but reading it sparked a renewed sense of excitement about exploring and expressing my own style – almost as if I had been busted out of a clothes rut I didn’t know I was in.

Lastly, I recently watched Thor: Ragnarok and was completely charmed by it. I attribute this 100% to the involvement of Taika Waititi; I have not seen any previous Thor movies, and Chris Hemsworth is not a Chris I get excited about. Ragnarok was just a lot of fun – and really funny! Afterwards, I promptly re-watched What We Do In the Shadows (a must if you haven’t seen it), and then checked out Hunt for the Wilderpeople, which I also enjoyed a lot. It’s funny and sweet (but not cloying in the least), and the performances are spot on. I was actually sad when the movie ended, because I wanted to watch more of Ricky and Hec’s bush adventures. It’s a good antidote if you’re feeling down – and, let’s face it, there are lots of reasons these days why you might be.

The Great Fragrance Search of 2018

I have been happily wearing Hanae Mori’s Butterfly for about three years. It’s a lovely perfume – floral but not too sweet, not very ubiquitous. The latter consideration is more than simple vanity; it feels weird to me to wear a perfume that I associate with someone else, so there are certain perfumes which I would have to avoid because they remind me of people I know. My relationship with scents is complicated all around. I find scents to be strongly linked to memories and moods, which means that they can have a huge impact on my day-to-day. On the other hand, I absolutely hate spending money on perfumes which is unfortunate because (a) see above, and (b) they are expensive. A search for a new fragrance is a very fraught exercise for me. Nevertheless, earlier this year, I embarked on precisely that quest. It felt like time for a change – not coincidentally, I’m sure, around the same time when my aesthetic preferences underwent their own evolution.

I have been a lover of floral scents for a long time, but this time around, I have noticed by preferences shifting away from the sweet end of the spectrum. One of the first scents that stood out to me was Jo Malone’s Earl Grey and Cucumber. The unexpected combination hooked me, but I also liked that it had a crispness to it. What didn’t hook me was the price; about $185CAD for a small bottle of eau de toilette. After switching to eau de parfum with Hanae Mori, I became cognizant of the better staying power of the latter, which means that one can use less (and get better value for money, typically). I couldn’t commit to Jo Malone, so I kept looking.

I’ll skip over some of the less inspiring options I tried, to jump straight to my most recent trials because this is where I’ve had the most success. After running into several articles on Le Labo and their hipster-beloved scents, I decided to take advantage of their sample option and see what the fuss was about. For a fairly reasonable $27CAD (including shipping), I got three 1.5 mL samples: Santal 33, Rose 31, and Iris 39. Santal 33 is the one that all the cool kids wear, it seems. I picked the other two based on the descriptions on the Le Labo website. (They arrived quickly, which is always a nice surprise with international shipping.) The samples are mini sprays, so they are easy to apply; I would estimate that there is enough perfume in each sample for at least a solid two-week trial.

Right off the bat, I was intrigued by Santal. It is extremely different than any other perfume I’ve ever worn, but I quickly became obsessed with its smokiness. To me, it feels like a bit of an enigma, a mood that is hard to pin down. (I hasten to add that, as popular as it may be in other parts of the world, I’ve never smelled this on anyone locally, and it’s not worn by anyone in my immediate circle. No scent associations!) In contrast, I found Iris to be almost too clean and crisp; still pleasant but not as memorable. Rose was lovely, but too straightforwardly sweet, though I kinda liked the result of layering it over Santal.

After about a week, I was more or less ready to pull the trigger on Santal, but as soon as I went back to the Le Labo website, I started having second thoughts. The price is $205CAD for 50 mL. I just couldn’t talk myself into it, but I also didn’t want to give up the scent (no pun intended). I started researching “dupes” and made a list of possible contenders. These included Commodity’s Book, Sarah Jessica Parker’s Splash SPJ, and Maison Louis Marie No. 4 Bois de Balincourt. In the process, I also discovered that one of my old favourite perfumes, Stella McCartney In Two Peony, which was discontinued years ago, was recently reissued. Armed with my list, I decided to head to Sephora.

After a headache-inducing hour of smelling approximately a bazillion fragrances, I walked out with 2 Commodity mini perfumes: the aforementioned Book as well as Velvet, each $30CAD plus tax (10 mL). First, the good: I love both a lot. Book has similar sandalwood notes to Santal 33, but smells fresher/less smoky to me. Velvet, in my opinion, is also something of a dupe for Santal 33, though it hits different notes than Book; it has the same smokiness as Santal, with a slightly sweeter edge. I preferred it over Maison Margiela Replica By the Fireplace, which is also similar but, frankly, a bit too close to the fire, as it were.

Both Book and Velvet are perfect scents for the more androgynous side of my aesthetic. With that said, the bad: neither of these has huge lasting power, even compared to Santal 33 (which itself has less than Butterfly). One spray on the wrist is initially quite strong, but it fades within 3-4 hours to the point that I can only get a faint whiff if I vigorously sniff my wrist. In particular, with Velvet, the smoky notes fade first, leaving behind a lovely (but more bland) floral scent. As a result, I’m in two minds about whether I would re-purchase either, or keep looking for other alternatives.

At Sephora, I also tried Stella Peony, and found it to be very similar if not identical to the way I remember the original perfume. However, whereas in the past, I recall thinking it was a spicier fragrance than my usual florals (it has notes of pepper in it), this time I thought it was definitely on the sweet side as compared to something like Santal 33. I think it would be a good match for the more femme side of my aesthetic; like my Artist style avatar, Peony is soft but not without its edges. It’s going on my short-list as a possible buy. I have typically only had one “signature” perfume at a time, but with the way my style has evolved, it would make sense for my perfume library to expand a bit.

So that is where my search has currently brought me. If you’ve been experimenting with fragrances recently, tell me all about it – especially if you have the inside track on other possible dupes for Santal 33.

What I Wore: July 9-15, 2018

The Dress Jackpot

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I’ve been really hitting that dress jackpot lately, haven’t I? First that Sarah Pacini linen dress, and now this Iris Setlakwe number. I am generally not a huge fan of brown-black combos, but there is something about this print that drew me to it regardless of that fact. The dress fits like a dream, which always helps, and it’s feminine without being girly. The fabric feels lovely; it has the shape-retaining quality of scuba material, but it feels silky to the touch. I love the illusion neckline. There’s not much I don’t love about the dress, come to think of it. I kept things simple for the outfit, just adding a blue necklace for a small pop of colour.

Caped Crusader

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Not really, but I could not resist the title. This is one of the more bizzaro combinations I have put together lately, but I really like how it came together. I’m also digging the greenish-grey-black colour palette; there is a sort of moldy metallic thing happening. The fit of these pants is slightly off, but in an intriguing way. I think they would be more flattering if they were a slimmer cut, but their boxiness emphasizes the menswear vibe, further amplified by these Louise et Cie loafers as opposed to a daintier flat or heels.

Pleats, Please

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I was super pumped to find this Tibi skirt at my local consignment store; it’s right up my alley. So much so that it’s actually quite similar to a piece I already have – a Vanessa Bruno dress that has a similar, apron-style pleat section in the front. (This Tibi skirt has a pleated back as well, though it’s plain black not patterned like the front.) I’ve struggled with how to wear that dress for reasons too mundane to detail here, so this now gives me the choice of replacing it with something more wearable. Will I? I was all set … aaaand then started to have second thoughts almost immediately. The VB dress has a cool black-and-white contrast thing going on; isn’t there room in my closet for two cool, pleated pieces? Counterpoint: is there room in my closet for two very similar pieces? I don’t know, friends. I just don’t know. In the meantime, let’s leave aside the difficult questions and just enjoy this stress-free outfit.

European Vacation

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Another bonus photo this week. I wish I was going on a European vacation but since I am not, this outfit will have to do. It makes me think of something my European relatives might wear as a casual look. I thrifted the jeans and scarf on the same day at different stores, but they feel like a meant-to-be-together combo. The lightweight Eileen Fisher sweater is an older find, but very of the moment what with the whole menocore thing. Easy breezy.