What I Wore: November 2023, part two

Details: Ralph Lauren sweater (gift), Ralph Lauren skirt (ebay), Jil Sander coat, Asos boots, Esprit belt (all thrifted), Echo scarf (consignment)

Thoughts: This was my favourite outfit of the season, and that is no overstatement. It all just came together so beautifully, I was chuffed. The skirt was an accidental eBay find; I was looking for a different vintage Ralph Lauren skirt (and the only listing I found was outside my budget, sadly) when I came across this one and instantly fell in love. And the best part? It was just inside my budget. I took a bit of a risk with the sizing, because the measurements given in the listing looked sus, but it paid off because it fits just right. It’s also a lovely, cozy, cotton flannel which makes it a good choice for fall/spring. The colours, patterns, and patchwork design are so me. I also loved how cohesive the accessories look in this outfit. Just 10/10, no notes.

Details: Ines de la Fressange x Unqilo shirt, Lord & Taylor sweater, Mondi skirt (all thrifted), Rafael Alfandary necklace (eBay), J. Crew shoes (retail)

Thoughts: It’s no secret that I love plaids, and I especially love unusual plaids. This red/chartreuse combo is rather unique, isn’t it? Mondi is an underrated vintage brand, and I was pumped to find this beautiful wool skirt in perfect condition. I decided to play up the unusual colour palette by adding the lemon yellow cashmere sweater, and red shoes for extra oomph.

Details: Alfred Sung top, Club Monaco belt (both thrifted), Paul Smith pants (Poshmark)

Thoughts: I adore this vintage silk top — the mix of plaid and floral patterns is fantastic — but I find the cut a bit of a struggle. The length, in particular, is not my favourite and the style is a bit, well, old-fashioned. Adding a belt helps to change up the proportions and vibe, making it feel more current. I doubled down on the plaid with the pants, making it a tonal outfit head to toe.

Details: Talbots sweater, Gap skirt, no brand belt (all thrifted)

Thoughts: If this doesn’t look like fall, I don’t know what does. Loving the texture contrast here between the chunky wool sweater and the leather skirt; it adds depth and richness to the outfit. Burgundy is not one of my go-to colours but it’s my favourite autumnal shade (apart from whiskey brown). Still, head to toe burgundy isn’t something I would normally get excited about, so it’s a sign of how much I love these pieces that I went for this outfit at all.

Details: F21 top, Joie cardigan, Nine West shoes (all thrifted), Giambattista Valli x H&M dress (Poshmark)

Thoughts: I got this iridescent green mesh top because I thought it had good layering potential, but so far, I’m not really sold. The sheen doesn’t come through as well as I had hoped, either in person or in photos. Still, it does work well with this dress, mostly because the black trim around the neckline nicely mirrors the black waistband on the dress. Is it a one-hit wonder? Time will tell.

Details: Pendleton sweater, Twik pants, Modern Vintage shoes (all thrifted), Pendleton coat (FB Marketplace), Ralph Lauren belt (Poshmark), Coach bag (swap)

Thoughts: This outfit was meant to simply be a backdrop for this amazing Pendleton coat, but I was surprised by how much I loved this brown/turquoise combo. It’s so vibrant! I will have to try it again soon. I told you these corduroy pants would make (many) more appearances on the blog, and I was not exaggerating. They really do go with everything!

Thrift Your Way To Personal Style

Thrifting has been good to me over the years. It has given me an amazing closet, plus helped me to minimize my environmental footprint and keep my budget under control. It has brought me many learning moments; I’ve discovered new brands, re-discovered old ones, and learned a lot about quality and design. But maybe most important of all, thrifting has played a key role in the development of my personal style – and even my understanding of personal style.

Thrifting is vastly different from the typical retail experience and people who don’t realize that upfront are more likely to be disappointed and/or frustrated and decide that thrifting isn’t “their thing”. Retail is organized and prescriptive; it directs you to certain items and even offers helpful suggestions for how you might wear those items (via mannequins and in-store displays and media). Each store has its identity and point of view, and it tends to impose a sort of tunnel vision so that customers see the clothing through the lens of that store’s brand vision.

Thrifting offers zero help. It is chaotic and non-prescriptive. It doesn’t tell you what’s good and what’s trash – in fact, prices are a useless metric in that regard; it’s up to you to decide what’s worth buying, and how to wear it.

Now, given those considerations, you might think that already having a strong sense of personal style is a key requirement for being a successful thrifter. But that isn’t necessarily the case. Certainly, going into a thrift store with a clear vision of how you want to dress will make that trip a much faster, more efficient one. More akin, perhaps, to a regular retail experience. You can go in, home in on pieces that suit your personal style, purchase, and leave.

But that isn’t the only definition of successful thrifting, in my opinion.

Instead of looking at a thrift shop as simply just another kind of clothing store, think of it as a giant style laboratory. It is a place to acquire clothes, yes, but your real goal is to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. You don’t have to go in with a complete vision; you can go in to figure out what your vision might be.

Viewed from that perspective, the greater and more random – aka chaotic – a thrift store’s inventory is, the better. It gives you so much more material to experiment with! Don’t be stressed about finding the perfect thing. The key is to just look. See all the different colours, patterns, styles, fabrics, design elements. The more, the better – your eye will get trained all the faster. Touch things. Find out what feels nice and what doesn’t. Figure out which colours and patterns you like, and which ones makes you want to hurl. Maybe you’ll see some things that intrigue you and tempt you to buy. Do it … even if you’re not sure those things are “you”. Especially if you’re not sure. Thrifting offers a low cost, low risk opportunity to experiment.

If you still feel overwhelmed by the idea of being left to your own devices to sift through a thrift store, you can take a 2-pronged approach. First, visit the mall and take notes about clothing that catches your eye. Not the brand, but the specifics: colours, patterns, lengths, cuts, sleeve details, necklines, etc. Then, go to the thrift store and look for similar things. You don’t need to find something identical; you’re just testing different things.

That being said, even if you go into the thrift store with an idea about what you’re looking for, stay open to other possibilities. The beauty of thrifting is that it exposes you to a much greater number of ideas and trends all at once – today’s trends, yesterday’s trends, trends from 5 years ago, and trends from 20 years ago. All that exposure … it’s the best kind of style education you can get.  

Getting a handle on what you enjoy and don’t enjoy wearing is Step One in developing your own sense of style. Individual pieces are the building blocks of style, but we don’t all need to use the same building blocks. For example, I prefer skirts over pants, and long skirts over short ones. My version of a “preppy” aesthetic will be informed by that and will look different compared to the aesthetic of someone who prefers short skirts and jeans. Knowing what buildings blocks are out there, then knowing what building blocks work best for you is the starting place for developing a personal style point of view. Personal style is not about echoing what someone else is saying; it’s about figuring out what you want to say. Fashion provides the communication tools; your style is your message.

Thrifting lets you try out all kinds of tools to find out which ones serve your message the best; it doesn’t tell you which tool you need but gives you the space to figure that out on your own. Success in thrifting can be measured by metrics other than “I bought the thing and the thing was exactly what I needed right at that moment.” Success might look like the exact opposite of that: I bought a thing and it was TERRIBLE! Because, you know what? You probably learned something from that “fail” – about how a certain thing makes you feel, about how you like to feel, about what to never buy again, etc. In science, an experiment isn’t successful only when it proves a particular hypothesis; it’s successful if it helps to advance our understanding of the world. Or, in this case, our personal style.

The downside of fashion experimentation is, of course, waste. In an ideal world, there would only be as much clothing as people actually wear. If 50 people loved a fuchsia dress with chartreuse butterflies, 50 fuchsia dresses with chartreuse butterflies would exist, and no more. Obviously, the real world doesn’t work like that. But thrifting can reduce the impact of style experimentation. If one person buys a pair of wide leg jeans, realizes the style doesn’t work for them, and donates it … this can mean that the next person who wants to try out wide leg jeans doesn’t have to consume a brand new pair, they can just thrift one. And if they don’t like the jeans either, no harm done – there is still one less pair of jeans in circulation, and the existing pair (if re-donated) still has the chance to find an owner who will love it.

I can speak from experience: thrifting has reduced my retail shopping to almost zero. Multiply that across a larger population and the scale of the impact will make itself felt. Thrifting will never replace retail shopping entirely, if for no other reason that at some point, new clothes will need to be brought into circulation. But, in my view, that isn’t the point anyway; I don’t see thrifting as the answer to the problem of clothing over-production (which, btw, is driven by corporations’ profit motives rather than consumer demand). Thrifting can be, however, one answer to the problem of unwanted clothing. In other words, it doesn’t stop more clothes from being made, but it does keep existing clothes in circulation longer (and out of landfills). And that’s a good thing for those of us who love style.

What I Wore: November 2023, part one

Details: Ralph Lauren turtleneck & coat, Cotton Ginny belt, Modern Vice shoes (all secondhand), Banana Republic jeans (retail)

Thoughts: I had been meaning to wear this coat much earlier in the season, and various factors conspired against me. But when the opportunity finally came, I’m glad I went with an out-of-the-box pairing because I really like how well the striped turtleneck works here with the southwestern pattern of the coat. Surprisingly well, in fact. Southwestern patterns can sometimes feel a bit challenging to mix (I usually stick to solid colours) but this is a good reminder that they pair well with other geometric prints.

Details: Selected Femme sweater (retail), Escada blazer (thrift), Ralph Lauren skirt (swap), Chie Mihara shoes (thrift)

Thoughts: Remember my “villain colours”, green and purple? Here is a subtle version of that, with navy as a grounding neutral. It still feels badass, without any overt Joker vibes. Black wouldn’t have worked here; it would have “deadened” the other colours, which are relatively muted. Actually, I am wearing black shoes (because I don’t have any navy ones), but they are a relatively minor element here so my point still stands. Short skirt with long jacket is one of my tried-and-true outfit formulas; I enjoy these specific proportions a lot, provided that opaque tights are also involved. I think it’s because the tights helped to elongated the vertical line and, as someone with short legs, I appreciate that.

Details: Ralph Lauren turtleneck, Woolrich vest, Roolee dress, BR belt (all thrifted), Laredo boots (consignment)

Thoughts: Another successful pattern-mixing experiment, if I do say so myself. The vest and the dress were easy choices; in fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve worn them together before. I was initially stumped trying to select the 3rd piece; cream or black seemed too obvious and I wanted something more interesting. Finally, I thought to try the striped turtleneck, mostly because it has the same colours as the vest. And, lo and behold, it worked. Again. This turtleneck is proving to be a revelation.

Details: Toni T dickie, Everlane sweater, Gap jacket, Oak & Fort jeans (all thrifted), Coach bag (swap), Mia shoes (retail)

Thoughts: In some ways, this is a very simple outfit. We might even say it’s minimalist — for me, anyway. But I find it very satisfying despite its simplicity, and I think that’s because of the colour palette. Black and brown has been my favourite combo this season. Denim and a little pop of white add crispness.

Details: Talbots sweater, Malorie Urbanovich skirt (both thrifted), Stella & Dot necklace & bracelet (both Poshmark)

Thoughts: Another very autumnal outfit, and while it’s not my go-to colour palette at all, I enjoyed it a lot. It does get me thinking whether it’s time to part with this skirt, though. Objectively, it’s great. Great texture, great cut, nice details (I love the leather waistband and deep front pockets, plus it has a functional zipper all the way down the back). But the colour is not among my preferred shades of green; I think I look better in brighter, more jewel-toned greens. It might be why I haven’t worn this skirt very often in the last year or two. It’s hard to part with things I still like but not on me because … well, I still do like them. I may need to find this one a home with a friend I know will love it as much as I do.

Details: Mexx shirt, Ralph Lauren belt (both Poshmark), Twik pants (thrift), Chloe shoes (gift)

Thoughts: This outfit turned out to have a somewhat cowboy-esque flavour, and that wasn’t intentional. In retrospect, I should have picked a different belt to avoid that. This goes to show you how much impact a single accessory can have. But I’m not that mad about it., because I still like the outfit regardless. The shirt is the statement piece here, but don’t overlook those pants. They’re shaping up to be a real wardrobe staple. Watch this space and you will be seeing them quite a bit …