What I Wore: April 12-25

Wild Thing

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You guys might be wondering why I’m still posting outfits like it’s the middle of winter and that’s because, well, it still is in my neck of the woods. We have had something like 170 consecutive days of below 0 Celsius weather since last October. It snowed 2 days after I took this photo. I am so DONE. Ahem. On the plus side, my coat game has never been stronger thanks to thrifting, so I’ll take every opportunity to bust out my pieces. This Zara leopard print number always gets a ton of compliments. I don’t generally like to wear leopard print, but this is a muted version (if there is such a thing) so I like it a lot. It’s a boxy cut, which helps somehow. When the Adventurer is feeling Sassy, this coat comes out to play. I paired it with the usual – chunky knit, my everyday Madewell boyfriend jeans. In this case, even the bag and boots are thrifted, which means I was wearing head-to-toe thrift to go … where else … thrifting.

That Weird Capelet Thing

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… is that I call this, um, weird capelet thing I’m wearing here. It’s a cropped cardigan version of a capelet. Parts of it look like they’ve been spray-painted gold. It’s weird and amazing. Since that was my starting point, I figured I may as well go for broke, so I added some more gold into the mix. Nobody wanted to buy this Madewell shimmer tee on the ThriftRats shop, so I decided to keep it for myself. I like the – wait for it – boxy cut though the material is a bit stiffer/rougher than I would like (even with the lining). I still think it’s a keeper because the aesthetics of it are intriguing. I would say this fits the Prince pretty well; there is a kind of knight-ish edge to this outfit. It’s that weird capelet thing, I’m telling you.

Culottes, Again

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I bought these culottes because they challenged me; I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with them, which normally would be a reason to NOT buy them except we live in a brave new world now, baby. And by “we” I mean “me”, and by “brave” I mean … well, “trying to be different and cool”. I’m all about the non-conventional, yo! Anywhoo, I did what they also say you shouldn’t do, which is pair voluminous culottes with a voluminous sweater. (Eileen Fisher, of course. I am fully committed to this Eileen phase of my life.) Did I look a bit like a potato sack? Maybe. I think this is an outfit that looks better in person/in motion, but it’s definitely not figure-flattering in any traditional sense, any way you look at it. And that’s okay! I really enjoyed it.

(It’s an Artist kind of outfit, I think, in case you were wondering.)

Style Avatars, Part Four: The Bohemian

For background/context, please read this post.

The Bohemian (casual/fancy)

Key words: bold, assertive, idiosyncratic, DGAF

Vibe: boho, quirky, comfortable, dramatic

Style notes: sack dresses, chunky knits, bold colours/prints, bold accessories

Favourite colours: all of them

I struggled the most with the name of this avatar (more so than even the Artist), and I am still not entirely satisfied with my choice. Old Lady Who Doesn’t Give a F***k doesn’t quite trip off the tongue, though it captures the spirit better. The “old” is most certainly not a pejorative here, and it’s intentional. First, we have discussed at length my stereotypically grandma-ish hobbies and interests. Second, I find that age is a bestower of confidence, especially for women; it’s the trade-off for all those dewy perks of youth. And there is nothing more powerful than a woman with experience, who is not afraid to stand her ground.

The Bohemian is my inner badass. She doesn’t care what people think; she doesn’t cater to the male gaze. She will wear whatever she damn well pleases. She is a little bit ornery, maybe, but also has a great sense of humour. Experience has made her more generous – to herself and others. Everyone should feel happy in their own skin!

My icon? The legendary Iris Apfel of course.

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And here is some of my inspo:

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And some past outfits that kinda fit here (it’s a work in progress):

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This concludes my series detailing my new perspective on personal style. I have been working within the parameters of my 4 characters for about a month now, and I am starting to see progress – in my closet, in how I feel in my clothes day-to-day, in my overall attitude. I feel like my wardrobe is much better aligned with my inner sense of my current self. I have re-discovered the joy of getting dressed, and feeling like I’m coming out of a rut I didn’t even know I was in.

What I like about this approach is that it avoids the pitfalls of trying to define your style within certain pre-determined aesthetics. Like “preppy chic” or “boho” or “classic” or whatever. What does that mean? Those categories are so generic and amorphous. Meanwhile, really specific aesthetics (“corporate witch going on a space journey”, or whatever) are too constrictive and one-dimensional, at least to me. Style is dynamic and reactive; my avatars are the embodiment of that. Some days, the Prince might be feeling a bit dark; other days, he might feel sassy – leopard print pumps, anyone? But the spirit, the inner core is consistent and it establishes guidelines that are clear yet flexible. I can ask myself: would the Prince (or the Artist, or the Adventurer, or the Bohemian) wear this? And I instantly know. Sometimes, I wish I didn’t because it means having to leave behind cute pieces. But I have also been having fewer purchase regrets.

If you have been following along, I would love to hear your thoughts. Have you considered what your style characters or avatars might be? Are you interested in this kind of experiment? And if you have tried it or are trying it, how did/is it coming along?

Quick programming note: a new Community Trading Post will be going up on the blog on Friday, so if there are things you are looking to buy or sell, this will be a chance to get your stuff out there.

What I Read: Vacation Edition

My free time continues to be consumed by things other than reading, so despite my earlier promises, this will be a short-ish post once again. On my recent family vacation, I did manage to rip through an Anne Perry mystery (Death on Blackheath, so-so) as well as The Merry Spinster by Mallory (now Daniel Mallory) Ortberg. The latter is a re-envisioning of classic fairytales with a modern, feminist spin. I had some familiarity with Ortberg’s writing prior to reading the book, but all of the material was new to me; I’m not sure if it was previously published in any form online. I enjoyed the writing and found the narratives really compelling. In some cases, I realized that I wasn’t sufficiently familiar with the original story to appreciate the nuances and subtext of the retelling; with that said, some of the chapters were utterly captivating quite aside from all that. In particular, I am still haunted by “The Daughter Cells” (a take on the Little Mermaid) and “The Thankless Child” (Cinderella?), which were my favourite chapters/stories. By comparison, the titular “Merry Spinster” (Beauty and the Beast) was something of a letdown – but only by comparison. I am tempted to track down Ortberg’s Texts from Jane Eyre because I love his voice, and I’m intrigued by his perspective on old classic texts.

I ran out of reading material part-way through my vacation, so I ended up rummaging through our friends’ library for stuff to keep me going, which is how I ended up reading The Big Short and Salmon Fishing In the Yemen. I really enjoyed the former, even though I’m still not sure I understand what a CDO is, and how shorting works. I feel like I might need the Dummies’ Notes version for that, and while I was hopeful that the movie adaptation might help in that regard, it’s sadly not available on Netflix (Canada). The Big Short read like a really long-form Vanity Fair article – lots of human interest asides mixed in with the nitty-gritty financial stuff – which is my non-fiction sweet spot. I finished the book in a couple of days and enjoyed the ride, though, as I said, I’m not sure I am any wiser for it.

Salmon Fishing was just OK. I watched the movie version some time last year on a business trip to Calgary; as hokey as the ending of the movie might have been, I think I prefer it to the book ending. Part of my disappointment with the book came, in fact, from its divergence from the movie. I was expecting a simpler, more emotionally satisfying ending, and when it didn’t come, I was kinda mad at the book. That probably makes this an unfair review, so don’t listen to me. Moving on!

Towards the end of my trip, I belatedly realized that – lo! I had access to Netflix all along! So instead of looking for something else to read, I decided to find some stuff to watch. I ended up binging through the Iris Apfel documentary (LOVED IT), The Crown docu-series (interesting if one deploys judicious fast-forwarding through the boring bits), and Queer Eye. I finished the latter after I came back home, and it was a lot of fun. I never watched the original, so I have no point of comparison, but I liked all the new guys. It’s the kind of show that I enjoy as background noise when I’m working on my embroidery – it loses much of its charm on too close of a scrutiny, IMO. Like, the “conflict resolution” moments are kinda hokey, the home reno timelines are questionable (3 days? yeah, right!), and I’m not really sure what Antoni and Karamo do (except look adorable) … but then you’ve got Jonathan dropping bon mots all over the place, so you just go with the flow. I hope they bring it back for another season.