The Community Trading Post

Hey, look: time for another community trading post. I noticed there hasn’t been as much activity on these posts as in the past (though, to be fair, the blog as a whole is quieter in terms of traffic than before) so I am going to invite your feedback again on whether these should stick around or not. Another alternative, would be to use these as a forum for just random discussion in the comments – with me, or among yourselves. If you have questions, rants, whatever – this could be a chance to unload. Let me know what you think!

For now, a reminder of the disclaimers/ground rules for Community Trading:

One, while I believe in the BCRL community, I do not know each of you personally, so I cannot vouch for any person or item. Please use your best discretion, both when buying and trading. While I think this idea has great potential, its success is premised on trust and the honour system – please be fair and respectful of others. If anyone becomes aware of concerns over another poster/reader’s actions, please let me know. I do not have time to police people, but I also don’t want anyone to be using my site to rip others off, so should something of that nature happen, I will shut down these posts immediately.

Two, I would ask that people at least consider international shipping, provided the other party is willing to assume the costs. I say this as a Canadian who often feels shut out of trading sites where the members are predominantly from the US. Of course, I can’t and wouldn’t force anyone to do something they feel comfortable with, but I know there are BCRL readers all over North America (and the world), and I think it would be nice if everyone had the option to participate.

Three, please feel free to include links to specific items you are selling/seeking as long as they are not affiliate ones.

Four, please be clear about the specifics of what you are looking for and/or are offering, including payment, shipping, etc. Alternately, you can include an email address for inquiries, but please note that this would be visible to the public/anyone visiting the blog.

See you in the comments!

Spring Clothing Swap, Year 11

Clothing swaps have been a constant in my life for a long time (as the title of this post suggests), and while I still enjoy hosting them, this year I was not able to devote as much time to my preparations as in the past. I had no theme picked out in advance, and I scrambled to get everything ready at the last minute. Life, man – it gets in the way of all the fun stuff. Anyway, I threw together a bunch of décor things I had around the house, bought some flowers and a bunch of cheeses at Costco, and called it a day. It’s never a wholly terrible party if there’s cheese, amirite? (I didn’t JUST serve cheese, but let’s be honest, it was the highlight.)

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Besides, people don’t come to this sort of gathering for the food or the décor – they come for the clothes. And there were plenty of clothes to go around. This was just my batch:

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The tower of shoes:

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These photos are embarrassing when you consider how much of my own stuff I have been selling lately, but let me take this opportunity to make the same pledge I make (and break) every year: this is the last time I will have so much stuff to contribute to the swap. But, really, this is the year that promise will stick. I have a good feeling. Maybe.

As always, a good time and lots of laughs were had all around. There were tons of goodies, and it’s safe to say that no one went home empty-handed. Here are some of the clothes that were there for the taking:

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I tried really hard to get these Frye boots on but it was no-go. Sad trombone. They found a good home, don’t worry.

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My bestie got this awesome cape that matched her glasses.

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My friend K got a bunch of gorgeous dresses including this slinky number.

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My friend T found tons of colourful pieces to complement her bold style including this Ted Baker floral number that I (reluctantly) let go.

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The lovely S (IG uincolour) found some real gems like these Anthro pieces that actually look great together.

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Cassie (The Minuteglass) rocked this Moulinette Soeurs dress (and her pixie – jealous!)

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Jenn (Life Preloved) was delighted with this Mackage jacket (and a To did For Tadashi Shoji sequin mini among other things including, ahem, a certain pair of boots).

My friends L and O — who somehow managed to avoid my photographic efforts – did not go home empty handed either. Miraculously, each of us found things that seemed like they had been meant for us all along.

Speaking of which, here’s a list of the stuff I took home – stay tuned for photos coming to a blog near you soon:

– DVF “Aurora” wool sheath dress
– Talula “shrunken Exeter” purple blazer (this is my fave style in a gorgeous colour)
– Zoa grey tie-waist shirt
– Vanessa Virginia teal cardigan
– Rebecca Minkoff green bag (yes!)
– Fluevog monkstrap pumps (yes!!)
– Tara Jarmon silk pleat pants
– Colorpop lipsticks

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Have I convinced you yet that a clothing swap is a most fun and excellent idea? I hope so … and if you have already tried one yourself, tell me all about it.

What I Wore: March 1-11, 2018

Belted Floral

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This dress always photographs so well. And this (relatively) recently purchased Aritzia belt is a perfect complement to it. And then the coat, well, it’s the cherry on top of the sundae, you know? As photogenic as this outfit is, it’s not quuuuuiiiite my style. Is “too polished” a permissible quibble in this context? Probably not, coming from somehow in my line of work but … oh well. On this blog, I am all about radical honesty or whatnot. I did enjoy wearing this outfit, though, insomuch as it’s hard to feel unhappy in an outfit that makes you look nice.

Rediscovered Jacket

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Man, I used to love this jacket back in the day! I bought it in 2014, and wore it on my first day back to work after mat leave with my daughter. I will not forget that day; I was still carrying some extra weight, and was struggling with not fitting into many of my old professional clothes, but this jacket made me feel like a million bucks, which in turn made my return to work all the more comfortable – I felt ready to tackle the sky. As it turns out, it’s probably fair to say that period of my life was a turning point in my professional career. Anyway, recently dug this jacket out of my overflow closet and realized that it fits again. (Has my upper body Hulked up without me noticing? It’s a mystery but oh, well.) Again, I don’t think it’s perfectly aligned with my current style preferences, but I couldn’t bring myself to part with it permanently before giving it another spin (or two).

Ballerina Chic

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I initially thought I would flip this Anthro-brand sweater, but then I tried it on and decided to keep it for a while. Looking at it again, I am having second thoughts. Don’t get me wrong; it’s a lovely sweater but I think the style will be difficult to match up with other pieces in my wardrobe in a way that adheres to my preferred aesthetic. To be honest, I’m not sure that, apart from this outfit, there are any other viable options. Which is not to say that it would work tremendously well in someone else’s closet. I should probably stop now, since I’m completely talking myself out of keeping this sweater. Anyway, the brand name is Ballerina and that seems apropos – there is a definite ballerina chic flavor to it.

To follow up on my post from last week, I think these outfits are a good illustration of my current style struggle. I love these outfits, but they also kinda feel like they belong on another woman. I may, in fact, have been that woman, two years ago. There are still a lot of pieces in my closet that properly belong to that woman; many of them are pieces I am having a hard time letting go. So far, my compromise has been to try to mesh them with my present aesthetic, but in most cases, I feel like I’m fighting against the very things that makes those clothes special in the first place. In the long run, I will need to come up with another strategy. More to come …