The Community Trading Post

BCRL readers have spoken! Many of you wrote to say that a buy/trade post sounded like a fun idea, so I’m launching this as a pilot program of sorts for a possible regular monthly feature. If there is enough interest (and positive feedback), I would be happy to host one going forward. So please don’t be shy – I want to hear from you, love it or hate it.

A couple of disclaimers and ground rules.

One, while I believe in the BCRL community, I do not know each of you personally, so I cannot vouch for any person or item. Please use your best discretion, both when buying and trading. While I think this idea has great potential, its success is premised on trust and the honour system – please be fair and respectful of others. If anyone becomes aware of concerns over another poster/reader’s actions, please let me know. I do not have time to police people, but I also don’t want anyone to be using my site to rip others off, so should something of that nature happen, I will shut down these posts immediately.

Also, if anyone has ideas about ways to make this a safer environment, please leave a comment.

Two, I would ask that people at least consider international shipping, provided the other party is willing to assume the costs. I say this as a Canadian who often feels shut out of trading sites where the members are predominantly from the US. Of course, I can’t and wouldn’t force anyone to do something they feel comfortable with, but I know there are BCRL readers all over North America (and the world), and I think it would be nice if everyone had the option to participate.

Three, please feel free to include links to specific items you are selling/seeking as long as they are not affiliate ones.

Four, please be clear about the specifics of what you are looking for and/or are offering, including payment, shipping, etc. Alternately, you can include an email address for inquiries, but please note that this would be visible to the public/anyone visiting the blog.

Ok, with all that out of the way, how about I get things started?

I have been looking for this Vanessa Virginia “Prateria” blouse for what feels like eons, with little success. It rarely pops up on eBay, and always for $$$. If anyone has it and is willing to part with it (to a Canadian), please leave a comment. I would be up for a trade or sale, depending on the asking price.

Vanessa Virginia blous
Vanessa Virginia blous

See you in the comments!

Edited to add: if you are interested in an item but don’t wish to leave your email address public (and the seller has not posted theirs), just comment “Interested” in response to the relevant post/comment and I will connect you with the seller via email privately. If there are multiple interested buyers, I will provide the list of email addresses to the buyer on a cchoronological (first come first served) basis.

Tweedy Midi

Blazer, Loft82 (consignment); sweater, J. Crew Factory; skirt, Tory Burch (thrifted); shoes, Jimmy Choo (thrifted); bag, MbMJ (via eBay)
Blazer, Loft82 (consignment); sweater, J. Crew Factory; skirt, Tory Burch (thrifted); shoes, Jimmy Choo (thrifted); bag, MbMJ (via eBay)

Back when I thrifted this Tory Burch skirt, some IG peeps expressed reservations; to be honest, I had some as well. Generally speaking, tweed doesn’t fit my current aesthetic. Moreover, A-line skirts are not really my thing. Still, I thought this skirt looked interesting enough to merit the $5 investment. There was Potential. That’s not a scientific assessment, by the way; most of the time, it’s just a gut feeling. Sometimes, my gut hits it out of the ballpark; sometimes, it’s way wide of the mark. I think we’re closer to a home run this time, no?

I just realized that I definitely don’t know enough about baseball to sustain this analogy any longer. Moving on.

tweed appeal
tweed appeal
pockets!
pockets!

Frankly, everything about this skirt is problematic; the tweed, the silhouette, the length. So much potential for things to go horribly wrong. And yet, I think this combo is not half bad. The streamlined blazer has a lot to do with it; it de-fusses the skirt. It’s one of my fave recent additions to my blazer collection, precisely because the style is modern yet classic. It works with architectural/minimalist outfits, but also with my more feminine/twee pieces.

When you break it down, this is a super simple, 3-piece outfit. It looks nice but not basic, which goes to show that sometimes, all you need is an interesting piece to liven things up.

fall neutrals
fall neutrals
burgundy pop
burgundy pop

What I Read & Watched: Confessions of a Fannibal

I can’t remember now why or how I decided to start watching Hannibal. I do know I mentioned my plan to my bestie, who endorsed it enthusiastically. Our tastes in entertainment don’t always line up (Exhibit A: she has seen IT four times, and I intend to see it precisely zero times), so it’s a nice bonus when we can talk about our current obsessions. I also don’t know why I didn’t watch Hannibal before. I think it aired after I stopped watching prime time TV. (That is not a value judgment, by the way, as much as a mom-life confession. GoT is my only weekly standing appointment, and luckily, it’s got a short run every year.) But it’s all good, because I was able to binge-watch all 3 seasons at double warp speed.

Needless to say, I loved it … but there is a lot to unpack in that verdict.

First of all, and this requires no caveats, the performances are – one and all – top notch. I mean, this is a show where Laurence Fishburne and Gillian Anderson both play what are, technically, secondary characters. I have been a Mads Mikkelsen fan girl for a long time, and yes, this is one instance where I’m gonna pull the “I saw him first” card. Because I saw him in movies like Pusher and After the Wedding back in the days when Edmonton cinephiles still got DVDs from the Movie Studio off Whyte. He is a phenomenal Hannibal Lecter … though, to be fair, he is never not phenomenal, and that includes the ultimate cheesefest that is King Arthur. More on that later. Now, if we go back far enough in time, I also used to have a Hugh Dancy problem at one time. He’s a cute, dark-haired Brit: it’s kind of a given. I have not thought about Hugh Dancy in years, but I was very impressed by his Will Graham, arguably the second banana/straight man on the show, which is never an easy role to pull off, I imagine. I may, ahem, possibly have a Hugh Dancy problem again.

Second, and maybe this does require a caveat … this is an intellectually challenging show. Yes, it is a lot of other things as well – Grand Guignol gets thrown around a lot by critics – but it is, fundamentally, a show about people talking to each other about things that are happening inside their own heads. It is not a “monster of the week” series in the vein of Criminal Minds (which I used to watch and love), especially not after the first few episodes. Initially, I thought that’s what I was getting, and it took some adjustment on my part to accept that the show was marching to the beat of its own, incredibly peculiar, drum. I have never seen a show like this one, ever, and I think it defies easy categorization.

I can confirm what all the reviews have typically said about it. It’s gory, but the violence is highly stylized, which lends itself to a certain amount of detachment on the part of the viewer; it is a world removed from, say, Game of Thrones. (On that note, there is also a distinct lack of sexual violence/brutality on the show.) The plot lines become more and more outlandish as the show goes on; the show frequently doesn’t have a firm grip on linear narrative – or, looking at it another way, is largely free from it. As someone who is a very linear thinker, I found this frustrating at times, until I gave up on trying to impose my expectations on the show, and just … well, accepted it as a sort of fever dream. A beautiful fever dream meditation on things like the self, self-perception and deceit, love, good and evil, the list goes on.

For me, this worked – and I loved it. It got me thinking and self-analyzing, often by what I call “tangential inspiration”; a bit of dialogue or scene would get me thinking about one thing, and from there my mind would hopscotch to a bunch of other things. It was, oddly enough, therapeutic in a way.

I have a lot of thoughts on the Will-Hannibal relationship, which is the heart (or blood?) of the series, but I will spare you the longer dissertation. Trust that it’s another reason to watch the show. Mads and Hugh have mad (zing!) chemistry together, and I was kinda embarrassed to realize really late in the game that Hannibal was not their first project together. I say embarrassed because King Arthur was my TOTAL CHEESEFEST MOVIE JAM BACK IN THE DAY AND I CAN’T BELIEVE I FORGOT ABOUT IT. Ahem, sorry about the shouting, I just got excited there for a moment reliving my memories. I have watched it way more times than any adult probably should, and having recently re-watched it a few more times still, I can confirm that it is way cheesier than I remembered it. It also features a metric tonne of attractive people, which is a very important metric in my books.

That includes Mads and his preternatural cheekbones …

Then and Now
Then and Now

… and Hugh, who apparently shares the Paul Rudd Aging Gene:

then and now?
then and now?

On that note, which is probably the high one of this post, let’s move on to a couple of quick articles. A new study says that people can guess whether someone is rich or poor from the way they look. I am skeptical, but okay.

I was a huge fan of Alain de Botton’s Essays in Love back in my early 20s, and was delighted to discover (somewhat belatedly) his more recent writings on marriage. This article, titled “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person”, along with this podcast transcript on similar topics, are both fantastic reads.

Happy Friday!