Happily Ever After

Sweater, Elsamanda (thrifted); blouse, Ted Baker (thrifted); jeans, AG (thrifted); shoes, Kelsi Dagger (thrifted); bag, MbMJ
Sweater, Elsamanda (thrifted); blouse, Ted Baker (thrifted); jeans, AG (thrifted); shoes, Kelsi Dagger (thrifted); bag, MbMJ

And then there are days when I really can’t take much credit for my outfit. Like this one. I thrifted the sweater and the blouse at the same time, thinking I would gift the latter to my mom because it’s her size and it’s silk and long-sleeved (things I know she likes). Then, for the hell of it, I tried both on at the same time … and they looked good together. Really, really good. Like, “meant to be” good. I couldn’t crush their happily ever after, could I?

Don’t answer that.

close-up
close-up
action shot!
action shot!

What I did do was immediately take the blouse to the tailor. I decided to leave the size alone because I figured that the loose fit would be fine for casual wear (and worked with the vibe of the blouse), but I could NOT live with the smocked elastic hem. Why do designers — and Ted Baker is a repeat offender here — put those things on their otherwise perfectly nice clothes? Who loves those damn smocked hems? Nobody, that’s who. Needless to say, the blouse is 100% better for the alteration.

no more smocked hems!
no more smocked hems!

With so much colour on top, I added grey jeans and shoes to balance things out. A burgundy bag is basically a neutral as well. It works great with the dark green of the sweater and the shades of the floral print … but, then again, burgundy goes with pretty much everything. This is a slightly different take on weekend casual for me (I tend to wear structured coats, not sweaters, with my skinnies) but I loved how it came together. And it was perfect for the occasion — a grown-up birthday party. My boss’ birthday party, in fact. My husband and I haven’t gone to a “grown-ups only” event like this in years, so I’m pretty proud of myself for having aced the dress code (dressy top, jeans) without the benefit of recent experience. It’s almost like I’m a style blogger or something šŸ˜‰

style blogging
style blogging

Outfit Equation

blouse, DVF (thrifted); pants, Banana Republic (thrifted); shoes, Sam Edelman (thrifted); bag, Gucci (via consignment)
blouse, DVF (thrifted); pants, Banana Republic (thrifted); shoes, Sam Edelman (thrifted); bag, Gucci (via consignment)

Ever wonder how my outfits come together? Probably not, but today you’re going to hear about it anyway. I had planned to wear this blouse on this particular day (a Friday) in my Stylebook app, but the other details were not set in stone; lately, I find that I’m tweaking outfits at the last minute much more than before. Anyway, here was my thought process, in all of its dubious glory:

Hm, it’s Friday which means jeans. Except, shoot, I have a hearing. Better go with pants and a blazer. But hang on, the hearing is via teleconference. Nobody is going to see me. Non-matching separates? Black pants are a must, so definitely not a black blazer. Too much black is blegh. What blazer goes with everything? Ah yes, the greige one.

And so an outfit was born. In retrospect, I should have just gone back to jeans, but I liked how the black pants worked with the blouse, so I just plunged ahead. Being “over-dressed” on a Friday is not the worst thing. I did take off my blazer almost immediately though, so the over-dressing was of a very minor degree. And for the eagle eyed, yes that is a new (to me) pair of BR Sloan pants. Finding a black one in my size at the thrift store is always a small miracle and, in this case, consolation for not being able to find a back-up pair of my fave Aritzia trousers. I do think this particular version of the Sloans is different than my old (now retired) pair; the cut is more straight than skinny, which I find that I actually prefer these days as it looks a bit more polished. With that said, I do generally wish that brands would stop messing with the cuts of their staple clothing pieces because it rarely seems to result in an improvement over the original (this case excepted, assuming this version is the new Sloan not the old, old Sloan). Anyone else with me on this?

blazer, Theory (thrifted)
blazer, Theory (thrifted)
pattern detail
pattern detail

If you look closely, you will see the pin I used to make the blouse office-appropriate. It wasn’t super noticeable in real life, but little details like that bug me when I see them in photos. I think I am going to solve this particular problem by adding a stitch to the neckline using black thread; I expect it will be unnoticeable given the print and colour of the blouse, and it’s a minor enough alteration to attempt on my own. Fingers crossed.

Lastly, I thought it might be fun to try a little outfit “Price Is Right” exercise. Do you think you can guess how much this outfit (minus bag & jewelry) cost? I’ll make it easy, with multiple choice answers: (a) $31; (b) $57; (c) $96; (d) $124. I don’t have any prize to offer you except the satisfaction of being right.

not-so-casual Friday
not-so-casual Friday

State of the Wardrobe: Lifestyle Inflation & Clothes Spending

Let me start by admitting this: I am a bit of a nosy parker. I am fascinated by how other people live ā€“ the way they decorate their houses, the clothes they buy, their finances. The latter in particular is something of a taboo subject outside of Personal Finance blogs, so my nosiness on that score is infrequently satisfied. For that reason, I love online discussions like this Reddit sub-thread on income level and clothes spending. The wide range of responses is very interesting, as are the related comments that come up ā€“ such as, for example, on the topic of lifestyle inflation. They got me thinking about my own life ā€¦ and so this blog post was born.

I have absolutely no doubt that lifestyle inflation is a real thing; Iā€™ve got all the proof I need when I compare my life a decade ago to my current situation. Take my recent trip to Mexico as an example. Back in 2007, I went on an all-inclusive vacation to Cancun ā€“ and stayed at a 3 star hotel. Last month, the four of us stayed at a 5 star resort on the Mayan Riviera. Same general location, a not insignificant difference in amenities ā€¦ and cost. Iā€™ve been trying to decide whether lifestyle inflation has crept into my clothes spending as well. If I use the same time period for comparison purposes, I think the answer is unavoidably ā€œyesā€. But if I look at the last 3 years or so, the answer is less clear.

For perspective, here are some relevant stats. Since 2013, my personal income has increased by about 50%. During that time, my clothes spending (in absolute dollars) has remained surprisingly steady, varying by no more than 10-15% from year to year. (I did not track or keep a consistent record of my clothes spending before 2013.)Ā The average cost of the clothes I have purchased has steadily declined ā€“ from $40/item in 2013, to $16/item in 2016. Meanwhile, the average retail value of the clothes has increased ā€“ from $113/item in 2013 to $218/item in 2016. Those numbers represent, in a nutshell, the trend in my clothes spending: buying better (or at least more expensive) brands predominantly secondhand.

But what about lifestyle inflation?

In some ways, it hasnā€™t affected my clothes spending. After all, on average, I spend less per item now than 2-3 years ago even as my income has increased a fair bit. But that is not the full story. Averages are tricky things ā€¦ especially when you buy a lot of things, like I do. Masked among my many thrift scores are some ā€œbig ticketā€ purchases that, not that long ago, would have seemed pretty scary. The biggest upward creep in my spending comfort level definitely happened with bags. Spending $500 on a bag doesnā€™t faze me like it used; I donā€™t do it regularly, but itā€™s an easily conceivable notion. My ā€œknuckle bitingā€ threshold for bags is now probably north of $700. Shoes are another category where my thresholds have changed quite significantly. I used to baulk at spending more than $50 on a pair of shoes; now, while I routinely spend less, I am nevertheless mentally prepared to spend up to $200 on a brand I love (like Manolo Blahnik, Frye, etc.). Same thing with outerwear, thanks to my beloved MaxMara camel coat.

At the same time, thrifting has had its own impact on the progression of lifestyle inflation in my clothes spending. The best way I can describe that impact is this: thrifting has made it easier AND harder for me to spend $50 (or more) on a piece of clothing. On one hand, I find it harder now to justify spending more than $20 on anything, because that’s usually the upper limit of thrift prices regardless of the label. On the other hand, if I do find something truly special, spending $100 or even $200 on a single item seems, well, not unreasonableĀ given how little money my thrifting costs me (and considering that itĀ accounts for 90%+ of my shopping).Ā I think that, on balance, the influence of thrifting on my spending mentality is largely a positive thing. I constantly question the value of the things I’m tempted to buy, and am far less likely to be swayed by sale prices and promotions. It has made me more aware of things that are worth the (retail) splurge — boots, outerwear, and good sweaters for example (things that people tend to hold on to, rather than donate beforeĀ they wear out). Thrifting has also made me more comfortable with the idea that, sometimes, you just have to get the thing that sparks joy, price be damned.

Within reason, of course.

Now, tell me: have you noticed lifestyle inflation in your own life? How do you deal with it?