Toddler Chic

J. Crew dutch floral sweatshirt
Dress, Old Navy; sweatshirt, J. Crew; boots, Hunter; bag, MbMJ

A couple of days ago we had Ugly Chic, and now we have Toddler Chic. Up to about the knees, this is a regular sort of outfit; from the knees down, this is pure Teddy: brightly coloured tights and (non-matching) rubber boots. It’s what happens when the weather can’t decide what season it wants to be, and I get tired of wearing jeggings to the grocery store.

J. Crew dutch floral sweatshirt
rainboots? eh, why not

So, this is a cute combo except that the chambray dress has really bunchy sleeves, and I haven’t yet found the solution to avoiding the “mutton arms” look. Part of me wants to cut off the sleeves to help the layerability (not a word, don’t care) factor, but the other part questions whether that might be a cut-your-nose-to-spite-your-face situation. We usually look for sleeves in dresses, no? For what it’s worth, roll-tab sleeves are the worst of the lot, so if any sleeves deserve the chop, it’s these ones. Still, the weather being its unpredictable self in Edmonton, who knows when a sleeve – any sleeve – will come in (wait for it) handy.

Har har.

My puns are worse than a toddler’s, that’s for sure.

J. Crew dutch floral sweatshirt
knee pop!

Buying on eBay, Part 3

This is the last post in my eBay series, and I thought it would be a good idea to touch on a few safety tips. When I started buying on eBay again (after a brief foray in the late 2000s followed by a long hiatus), I was very gun-shy; I’d heard a million terrible stories, and was worried about getting ripped off. I started by only buying vintage costume jewelry (low cost, low risk), and slowly branching out to clothes and other accessories as I started feeling more comfortable. Since then, I’ve bought a couple of pricey items, and a few dozen low cost ones, and I’ve had pretty good experiences across the board. More on that in a second. Let’s talk some very general tips.

 

Always Follow the Rules

 

My understanding is that eBay now has some pretty buyer-friendly rules in place that serve to mitigate a lot of the risks that buyers might encounter. I have no firsthand experience with them, because (thankfully) I’ve never had to invoke them, but it goes without saying that you must follow the rules if you want to take advantage of the protections eBay offers. I’ve never been asked by a seller to do something that contravened eBay rules, but if you are – don’t do it! And, by the same token, don’t ask sellers to do anything illegal (like lie on customs forms, apparently a common request).

 

Do Your Homework

 

Seller’s Feedback

 

I always take a quick look at a prospective seller’s feedback before I place a bid; if the item is expensive, I take a very close look. Sometimes negative feedback will reveal unreasonable buyer nitpicks; more often than not, however, it will reveal actual red flags – and the same applies to “neutral” feedback. For example, one or two buyers out of hundreds complaining about an item not being exactly as described may not necessarily mean that the seller is shady; some people don’t pay sufficiently close attention to item descriptions and photos, or have unrealistic expectations (especially for used items). On the other hand, one or two buyers out of, say, a dozen complaining about the same thing could be a different story. Personally, I have never bought anything from a seller that had a less than 98% rating (or anything less than 100% if they had fewer than a few hundred transactions in their history).

 

Item Listing

 

I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to read the listing carefully, and look at all photos closely. The only times I’ve been somewhat disappointed with my purchases is when I didn’t do this, and just “hoped for the best” based on a cursory review. Sometimes descriptions are in small font, but will contain disclosure of minor or major imperfections, which may not always be highlighted in the photos.

 

Counterfeit Avoidance

 

The main thing you need to know is that everything – and I mean everything – can and has been counterfeited. This is one reason why, for example, I don’t buy make-up or perfume on eBay. There are resources that will help you in identifying fakes (in every category), but it can take time to develop an eye for the right signs, so invest your efforts where it makes the most sense for you. Personally, I rely on eBay a lot for my designer bag habit, so I have developed a process for vetting the bags I’m interested in. [That could probably take up a post or three of its own, so I won’t get into the details. I think I’ve written about it before, but if anyone is interested, I could work on updating the info.]

 

Ultimately, this is one area where eBay is supposed to be protecting buyers, so if you do unwittingly end up with a fake, you should be able to get your money back. My personal stance is that, rather than incur the upfront cost and then have to deal with the hassle of getting your money back, it makes more sense to invest a bit of time in avoiding the problem altogether.

 

Ask Questions

 

Don’t be afraid to ask questions of the seller, including requesting more photos of the item (or photos of the actual item if the listing only provides stock photos). The latter, in particular, can be crucial tools in any authentication process you might need to undertake (see above). Provided your request is reasonable and politely worded, there is no reason for the seller to ignore you or refuse to answer your question/request. If that does happen, it’s a definite red flag.

 

I’ve generally asked questions of the sellers in 2 specific situations, frequently with great results. One, if the listing states that the seller “may not ship to [insert your location]”, I will contact them to ask if they would consider shipping to Canada. I think that wording indicates that the seller has checked off the “no international shipping” option, but many will still be happy to ship to Canada – at least if I ask nicely. In that case, always get a firm quote on shipping costs upfront, before you actually place a bid or otherwise commit to buy.

 

I have also sometimes asked sellers if they would consider adding a Buy It Now (BIN) option to their auction listings. As I’ve mentioned before, I find auctions stressful, and if I really want a (rare, hard to find) item, I’m willing to pay a little premium just to avoid the whole waiting-and-bidding game. Some sellers will be happy to do it – generally, in cases where you are the only person “watching” the item, even after it’s been listed for a while – while others would rather take their chances with the auction format. As I said, I wouldn’t bother trying this if the item is “hot” and is being watched by a dozen people, because the seller will have little incentive to do a BIN, at least at a reasonable price. And if you don’t get a BIN, don’t despair. I once contacted a seller to ask for a BIN, got shot down, and ended up placing the sole, winning bid on the auction – for a much lower price than what I had been willing to pay for the BIN option.

 

 

Trust Your Gut

 

In the end, always go with your gut. If the price seems a little too good to be true, or if anything about the listing or the seller seems “off” (even if you can’t quite put your finger on the reason), walk away. Nothing on eBay is a one-off, gone forever if you miss out on it the first time. Whatever it is that you’re looking for, you’ll find it again – and your peace of mind is more important than a (questionable) killer deal.

Weekend Shortlist

Currently Wishful Thinking About: A New Dressing Table

fancy French dressing table
fancy French dressing table

I have been wanting a proper, ladylike dressing table for years and, guys, it’s finally going to happen. We are re-doing our bedroom at the moment (I’m using the royal “we” since I am doing about 0.5% of the work), and one of the (many) awesome results of that will be room for the white, neoclassical dressing table of my dreams. Too bad I can’t say the same about the budget. So, I’ll be consoling myself with this version instead:

IKEA Hemnes dressing table
IKEA Hemnes dressing table

Currently Loving: Equipment Butterfly Print Blouse

Equipment Butterfly Print Blouse
Equipment Butterfly Print Blouse

I saw this at Holt Renfrew a while back, but didn’t feel like shelling out $150+ (on sale!) for a sleeveless blouse. But the print! Butterfly prints (like florals, and bird prints) are my Achilles’ heel. I went back to check on the price situation and, of course, the blouse was long gone. I’m going to keep an eye out for this one at Winners over the next 2-3 months, and hope the retail gods are kind.

Currently Hunting: Topshop Slim Curve Blazer

Topshop Slim Curve blazer
Topshop Slim Curve blazer

I spotted my co-worker wearing this blazer, and she looked phenomenal in it so … me wanty. Me wanty a lot. I don’t currently have a light coloured blazer in my closet, and I like the modern cut and colour of this one. Naturally, it is out of stock at The Bay. EBay to the rescue? To be continued …

Currently Reading: This ‘n That

I’m still reading my way through Italian Days, and waiting on a big Amazon order – so, nothing new on the book front. I have recently(ish) discovered some awesome blogs, so I thought I’d share those with you instead.

Xin’s posts at Invincible Summer are always insightful, thought-provoking, and well written, whether on style, consumerist culture and minimalism, personal finance, or figuring out the post-university world.

Alissa at The Adored Life is the definition of, well, adorable, and her style is cute and relatable at the same time.

And if you’re not already reading My Three Angles, you need to start, immediately. I’m not going to spoil one of the best satire blogs on the Internet by telling you more about it, but believe me when I say that you need it in your (blog-reading) life.

Currently Obsessing Over: Commander Snow and the Return of Jaqen H’ghar

Photo via HBO / Game of Thrones
Photo via HBO / Game of Thrones

I am beyond excited to watch these two story lines unfold, because I love their equivalent arcs in the book. I never really got into Arya’s story until she went to Braavos and began her apprenticeship with the Faceless Men; the addition of Jaqen H’ghar to the mix is brilliant. It will be interesting to see how fast this arc runs on the show, since Dance of Dragons ended before we got to the payoff – we may get it sooner than later. Similarly, I am almost certain that the show will outpace the books on the Wall/Castle Black front given that Jon has already been elected Commander, and they’ve dispensed with a bunch of subplots. So, unless they reeeeeally drag things out, we will see what happens after …

>>>>SPOILER<<<<

>>>>YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED<<<<

>>>>THIS IS YOUR LAST CHANCE<<<<

… Jon’s Ides of March moment. I have my ideas – GoT book readers, how about you?