Month: May 2017

What I Read: Chick Lit Edition

I hate the term “chick lit”. I hate its dismissiveness, and I also hate that it works only too well in making me not want to read the things to which the label is affixed. I know that I need to work on that knee jerk reaction; in my mind, “chick lit” is stuff like the Shopaholic series (which I hated), and in reality, there is probably a huge variety of books which get labelled “chick lit” but which, nonetheless, I should not write off. Case in point: the Cazalet series by Elizabeth Jane Howard. I binge read all 5 volumes in less than a fortnight, and I quite enjoyed the experience. It was comfort reading at its best. I should mention that a few factors likely contributed to my enjoyment of it, and you should keep those in mind when deciding whether this might be a good recc for you. I am a sucker for the time period (1920-1950) and the genre (upper class family sagas). It reminded me of books like The Camomile Lawn and The Forsyte Saga. If you have read and enjoyed those, you will probably like these novels. There were parts I found a bit slow-going or dull, and characters I liked or cared about less, but it was easy enough to speed-read or skip those parts entirely, and pick up the plot later without any issues.

On a more personal note, the series reminded me of the Jalna books written by Mazo De La Roche. That’s probably not a name familiar to most of you, but she was a favourite writer of my grandmother’s long before we emigrated to Canada. I have fond memories of reading my grandmother’s translated Jalna books as a young teen, which detailed the lives of the Whiteoak family over the better part of a century. (There are over a dozen books in total, and you can still occasionally find them in thrift stores and the like. De La Roche was a hugely popular Canadian author back in the day, but she is hardly known nowadays. I did check Amazon, and it looks like there *was* a recent re-print of the series in about 2010.) I think my grandmother would have loved reading about the Cazalets, since stories about family dramas, secrets, and love affairs — nothing too graphic, but definitely “spicy” — were her favourite. My grandmother used to be a prolific reader, but she is 94 now, and in failing health; so there was a bitter sweetness in reading this series, and thinking of all the books to which she introduced me over the years.

Moving on to articles, can you handle yet another article about Millennials? This one posits that there are two types, those born before 1989 and those born after. As a 1980 baby, I will attest that growing up before the internet was a thing is a big part of my cultural context. I remember getting my first e-mail address when I started university in 1997, but I don’t think I actually started browsing the internet regularly until, literally, the 21st century. In fact, I was just reminiscing with a friend about how we used to register for classes back in those days by — wait for it — calling into the registration line (on our land lines, natch) and punching in the codes for the classes we wanted, praying that we hadn’t miscalculated the order (from most to least likely to fill out quickly). How far we’ve come since then! Of course, it feels like no time at all on my end, but in fact it’s been — gulp! — 20 years. I suddenly feel about as young as the cryptkeeper.

But speaking of technological advances, my binge-watching of John Oliver Last Week Tonight segments on YouTube sent me down an internet rabbit hole of articles about MLMs, which eventually led me to this older article on Racked from someone who tried selling Rodan + Fields. I will freely admit to being fascinated by MLMs, but what I found most interesting about this article was the author’s comments on why she felt uncomfortable with the idea of being a salesperson, a discomfort I share. I won’t lie; there have been times when I’ve felt tempted by some of the advertising pitches I’ve received through the blog, not to mention the lure of affiliate links. I’ve ultimately resisted them all, and most of the time I am perfectly content with that decision. I do occasionally fall into the trap of feeling somewhat inadequate for lack of a “side hustle”, but this article was a good reminder that being a “monetized influencer” would require me to take on an additional role (essentially, a salesperson) which probably isn’t a good fit for me. I wonder if that is a weird and outdated scruple in this day of pervasive social media marketing. If you are a blog reader, does it make a difference to you (in how you perceive the content of the blog or the blogger) if the blog is monetized? Do you feel like you’re being sold to, or is it just blog-reading business as usual? And if you have experiences being a “consultant” for an MLM, I would love to hear about that too!

Lastly, this is not an article per se, but Lainey`s coverage of the MET Ball is worth checking out if you haven`t already. I don`t always agree with her (and Duana`s) red carpet fashion takes, but I enjoy their analyses. This year, I think my fave Met look was Claire Danes — I thought it was wearable but still gave a nod to the theme. I also (oddly? it`s definitely not something I would wear) enjoyed Kerri Russell`s look and I agree with Lainey that she and Matthew Rhys make a very intriguing couple.

Have a great weekend!

What I Wore: April 2017

I’m not typically a slacker (though that is certainly an aspiration) but April put the rest of the year (so far!) to shame. Work was much as usual, but my personal life — whoa. I started writing again, picking up the 30 page outline of Archer & Bell vol. 2 where I had left it off over a year ago. It was very exciting there for a few days … until I realized that the pace at which I’ve written in the past is probably not realistic at this time, with everything else that is going on in my life. I want (and need) writing to be fun, which means that I can’t (and won’t) hold myself to a rigid schedule. Hopefully, the book will see the light of day at some point. Speaking of other fun things, I also read a bunch of books and watched a ton of Netflix, and somehow still managed to keep up with life, which is some kind of miracle, and also the reason why I am constantly sleep deprived. No regrets; 10/10, would do it all again. And that is still not all. I also did some thrifting, got microblading (!!), and had my initial consultation for Lasik surgery, which is happening very very soon.

But let’s not forget why you’re here (I assume): the clothes.

one, two, three
one, two, three
four, five, six
four, five, six
seven, eight, nine
seven, eight, nine
ten, eleven, twelve
ten, eleven, twelve
thirteen, fourteen, fifteen
thirteen, fourteen, fifteen
sixteen, seventeen, eighteen
sixteen, seventeen, eighteen

I’ve been doing this blogging thing for a long time — my 7th blogging anniversary is just around the corner — so I can’t help but feel like I’m becoming more and more predictable, at least as far as my outfit formulas go. These are all combinations you’ve seen before, with a few new(ish) pieces mixed in. I think I ended up using more prints than in recent months; I’m not sure how I feel about that. On one hand, I tend to *feel* more comfortable in plainer outfits these days. On the other hand, I *like* looking at more colourful, print-heavy outfits. I’m still working on finding the right balance, one day at a time.

For fun, here’s a look at my April 2015 and April 2016 recaps.

Happily Ever After

Sweater, Elsamanda (thrifted); blouse, Ted Baker (thrifted); jeans, AG (thrifted); shoes, Kelsi Dagger (thrifted); bag, MbMJ
Sweater, Elsamanda (thrifted); blouse, Ted Baker (thrifted); jeans, AG (thrifted); shoes, Kelsi Dagger (thrifted); bag, MbMJ

And then there are days when I really can’t take much credit for my outfit. Like this one. I thrifted the sweater and the blouse at the same time, thinking I would gift the latter to my mom because it’s her size and it’s silk and long-sleeved (things I know she likes). Then, for the hell of it, I tried both on at the same time … and they looked good together. Really, really good. Like, “meant to be” good. I couldn’t crush their happily ever after, could I?

Don’t answer that.

close-up
close-up
action shot!
action shot!

What I did do was immediately take the blouse to the tailor. I decided to leave the size alone because I figured that the loose fit would be fine for casual wear (and worked with the vibe of the blouse), but I could NOT live with the smocked elastic hem. Why do designers — and Ted Baker is a repeat offender here — put those things on their otherwise perfectly nice clothes? Who loves those damn smocked hems? Nobody, that’s who. Needless to say, the blouse is 100% better for the alteration.

no more smocked hems!
no more smocked hems!

With so much colour on top, I added grey jeans and shoes to balance things out. A burgundy bag is basically a neutral as well. It works great with the dark green of the sweater and the shades of the floral print … but, then again, burgundy goes with pretty much everything. This is a slightly different take on weekend casual for me (I tend to wear structured coats, not sweaters, with my skinnies) but I loved how it came together. And it was perfect for the occasion — a grown-up birthday party. My boss’ birthday party, in fact. My husband and I haven’t gone to a “grown-ups only” event like this in years, so I’m pretty proud of myself for having aced the dress code (dressy top, jeans) without the benefit of recent experience. It’s almost like I’m a style blogger or something 😉

style blogging
style blogging