What I Read: This ‘n That

Ever since I finally finished the edits on A Temporary Engagement, I’ve been feeling “lazy”, which means that I’ve had time to do a fair bit of reading. At the tail end of last month, I got sucked down the rabbit hole that is the Vanity Fair online archives, polishing off the Crime Archives and the Dominick Dunne Archives in quick successions. Long-form VF articles, particularly those that focus on high-profile scandals or prominent society figures, are one of my reading “comfort foods”; I devour them the way other people do, say, romance novels. Following from that, I ordered and quickly read Dominick Dunne’s Fatal Charms & The Mansions of Limbo (chapters of which are available for free on the VF archives, so I wouldn’t necessarily recommend buying it) and The Two Mrs. Grenville (fun, gossipy read), as well as Truman Capote’s Answered Prayers (a more literary version of Dunne’s gossipy fiction). I was tempted to buy The Swans of Fifth Avenue, a novel based on the lives of Capote’s “swans” (Babe Paley et al), but the hardcover was kinda pricey, and I decided to hold out for a good biography instead. If anyone has recommendations, I’m all ears.

Here are a few more interesting articles I found online recently. As a well-read, non-native English speaker, I have a constant, mild fear of mispronouncing words I’ve never heard spoken. It was reassuring to read that I am not alone, even among those for whom English is the first language. Yay! Personally, I struggle a lot with words that are common in both my mother tongue and English (usually borrowed from French) because I can never be sure if my inflection is correct in whatever language I’m using (it can differ). Like, I will never use “banal” in conversation, even though I’ll happily toss it around when I write, because my pronunciation inevitably sounds wrong to my own ears. But, quite apart from that, English pronunciation is bananas — just saying. Cholmondeley = Chumley? I mean, really! Share your mispronounced words in the comments … if you dare.

I was also intrigued by this article about maximizers and satisficers. I think I’m 80% satisficer, and the balance maximizer; my husband is the opposite. Somehow, we get along without wanting to murder each other (most of the time). For the record, if you can scroll to the mini quiz embedded in the article, the questions where I score high (i.e. have maximizer tendencies) are 6,8, 11 and 12. Needless to say, I’m a satisficer when it comes to clothes. I also thought it was interesting that research suggests that people tend to move more to the “good enough is good enough” camp as they get older. I certainly follow that trend, but I wonder how much of that has to do with becoming a parent versus other life experiences (in my case, I think the answer is “everything”).

Speaking of psychological “types”, I also dug into Enneagram typology after reading a comment from a reader. I was familiar with the Meyer Briggs system, but had never heard of this. I tend to approach these things in much the same way as astrological signs — pseudo-science, but fun to read about and debate with friends. I have to say that, of all the ones I’ve looked into, the Enneagram system is the most bang-on. I also appreciate that it can be used as a tool for personal growth, rather than merely pigeonholing people into rigid categories. If you’ve looked into this before, I want to hear what you think about it!

Last but not least, a reader sent me a link to this thoughtful article about thrift store donations, written from the perspective of someone who relies upon thrift stores as a matter of necessity not choice. Even though I’m a committed thrift donor (in additional to thrift shopper), I appreciated the different perspective, and learned some new things — such as the importance of donating, not trashing, my old Tupperware.

Holiday Style

Dress, Joe Fresh; sweater, Eileen Fisher (thrifted); necklace, J. Crew Factory; shoes, Clarks; bag, YSL
Dress, Joe Fresh; sweater, Eileen Fisher (thrifted); necklace, J. Crew Factory; shoes, Clarks; bag, YSL

The title of the post is a misnomer insofar as it might lead you to expect a post about festive style. It is not. It’s a post about what I wore during my week off from work between Christmas and New Year, which time was blessedly short on super festive occasions. I’m not a Grinch, but I like my holidays a tad more low key. With a few exceptions, most of my outfits were along the lines of this supa casual look. In fact, I ended up wearing this particular combo *twice* over the holidays. Loose, relaxed, forgiving. I am very gung-ho about sampling the season’s culinary delights, after all.

I wore this grey Joe Fresh tube dress quite a lot earlier in the year, but less so recently. I blame that on the weather and the footwear dilemma. To wit, the dress doesn’t work with knee-high boots (I’ve tried, and they bulge weirdly under the dress) and I was reluctantly to try it with ankle boots, which are the only other option available at this time of year. It turns out, however, that it works fairly well with ankle boots, without making me look like a stump. Since it’s a good piece to layer under my many casual sweaters, this is an outfit formula I may need to revisit in the future.

blues & grey
blues & grey

Girls’ Night … And Day

Dress, Anthropologie (thrifted); sweater, Club Monaco; necklace, House of Harlow; shoes, Clarks; bag, YSL
Dress, Anthropologie (thrifted); sweater, Club Monaco; necklace, House of Harlow; shoes, Clarks; bag, YSL

As I mentioned last week, I had two of my dearest friends visiting from out of town recently, and our big plans revolved around a girls’ night in (with wine, Chinese food, and BBC dramas featuring hunky Brits) followed by a girls’ day out on the town. For the latter part of our adventures, I decided to wear my fave Anthro swing dress. It’s comfortable as pyjamas, forgiving as a potato sack, and infinitely cuter than both. No brainer, really. I added my trusty turtleneck underneath because the temps are still hovering around -10 Celsius, and there’s no easier way to layer up a summer dress. Luckily, our daytime adventures did not involve a lot of outdoors exercise. Surely, you are not surprised.

swinging style
swinging style
so roomy, so perfect ... for a noodle bowl lunch
so roomy, so perfect … for a noodle bowl lunch

My friends and I hit up the antique mall, which proved to be the most “strenuous” part of our day. We followed that up with lunch at Nomiya Noodle Bar in Oliver, which was fantastic. I *had* to try one of their ramen bowls, of course, but my instant favourite was the Takoyaki (fried dough balls with octopus — they had me at “fried dough”). My friends raved over the matcha green tea creme brulee, but I decided to help myself to another order of the Takoyaki instead. No regrets. And my dress was very understanding about it all.

We finished up our day with a screening of La La Land, which is THE ABSOLUTE BEST THING EVER AND YOU MUST SEE IT IMMEDIATELY. Ahem. Sorry to shout, but it really is wonderful. I hate musicals *and* jazz, and I’m generally not a fan of romantic movies. Or Ryan Gosling. Or Emma Stone. (I know, sacrilege!) But this movie tugged at my heart like a pro; I wouldn’t consider it a romance so much as an ode to youth and the sense of seemingly infinite possibility and wonder that we feel when we are young and full of dreams. The ending of the movie is bittersweet, as all life tends to be after a certain age. It reminded me of the discussion about ghost ships which we had on the blog a few weeks ago. If any of you have seen La La Land, I would love to hear your thoughts; I know the film has been criticized for its privilege, so I am particularly interested in your perspective on that issue.

all the prints, all the time
all the prints, all the time