Changing Room Diaries: A Tale of Six Dresses

This should come as no surprise for long-term, or short-term, or really any kind of BCRL readers: clothes shopping is one of my hobbies. So I end up shopping for all the reasons people tell you not to shop: because I’m bored, or happy, or sad, or stressed out – especially the latter, especially lately. And so it happened that I found myself wandering the aisles of the downtown Winners on a Thursday afternoon, looking to shop off some stress.

Now, my hometown ladies know that the downtown Winners is not the best Winners in town by far (that would be the Gateway Boulevard location) or even the second best (that would be the Mayfield Common location), but it’s the best that the downtown core has to offer in terms of decent clearance rack hunting, and sometimes a girl just wants to find a bargain, you know? On this particular occasion, bargains were not to be had (I think Winners had its big end-of-season sale at the end of January, and there are very few stragglers left now), but I did spot some promising prospects on the dresses rack. Seeing as I was all by myself, and therefore accountable for no one else’s attention spans or hunger levels, I decided to head over to the changing rooms and try everything. Oh, the excitement!

And then, of course, share all my thoughts (and pictures) on Instagram because I need opinions, people!

In fact, I need your opinion as well. So let’s do this.

I tried on 6 dresses – none of which I needed to buy, some of which were definitely tempting. Here they all are … see if you can guess which were my favourites:

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Top row (l to r): Kate Spade; Ivanka Trump; RACHEL Rachel Roy
Bottom row (l to r): Kate Spade; Kate Spade Saturday; Beige by eci

Ok, ready to proceed?

My picks were a bit of a study in contrasts. I loved the architectural flair, and simplicity, of the grey RACHEL Rachel Roy dress, even though I was not entirely sold on the quality. Its main flaw, however, was the length – simply too short for work. Of course, the grandma florals-loving side of me (which might be quiet these days, but certainly not gone) adored the floral Beige by eci number. The fabric and print reminded me of the Clover Canyon dresses I had recently seen at Holt’s, though perhaps a touch more sedate. The silhouette was very Dolce & Gabbana, with the just-below-the-knee hemline, and general slinkiness. But it was a bit … loud. And a bit too bombshell-y for my everyday life.

Both dresses had appeal, and both had drawbacks. Indecisive as always, I ran back to my Insta peeps to ask for help deciding: should I buy? And if so, which one?

changing room diaries
a study in contrasts

The vote was split pretty evenly between the two dresses, with some enablers fellow indecisives suggesting both. (For the record, both Luka and my husband preferred the grey dress. This was oddly disconcerting to me, but I guess it’s a flash forward to all the future times those two will be ganging up on me.) So, tell me, which would have been your pick?

Floral or Minimalist?

Want to know which one I picked? Read on.

I did … not … buy the grey dress for two reasons. One, the too-short hemline. I actually went back and tried a larger size but, sadly, it made no appreciable difference, length-wise, and it was too large elsewhere. Two, the ruffle detail, while gorgeous when the dress is worn on its own, gets lost if you wear any sort of topper. The dress just ends up looking really plain and boring, and even a tad shapeless. This ruled it out for work purposes. As for special occasions, I felt that the dress was a little too dressy for my needs; most of my “special occasions” involve a semi-casual date with my husband, or a visit with friends. This dress begs for a nice cocktail party, and that is a rare occurrence in my life. Plus, I already have two light grey “special occasions” dresses (that are rarely worn), and I didn’t think that this one – lovely as it is – was worth adding to that list.

So, the floral dress. I loved so many things about it, not least of all the fact that it was really figure flattering. Had the floral print been even slightly less loud, I would have found a way to de-sexify it for the office. It would certainly be the kind of dress I could probably find occasion to wear in my off-hours … but not often enough to justify buying it, sadly. Even for $40.

So – surprise! – the answer is “neither”. I know, that was a trick question.

[Although I maaaaay periodically check in at Winners to see if the floral number goes on sale … so, to be continued, I guess …]

 

 

Weekend Pink

J. Crew Dutch floral sweatshirt
Sweatshirt, J. Crew; tee, J. Crew Factory; pants, AE; coat, Winners; boots, Josef Seibel; bag, MbMJ

Weekends have been a little rough over at Casa J over the last few weeks. The kids have been sick a lot, my grandmother was in the hospital for a bit, and I had to work, work, work. With everything going on, there wasn’t any time left for doing much except surviving. If left to my own devices, I tend to allow myself to wallow like you wouldn’t believe, so I’ve been working on staying focused on the things I need to do, and the people I need to help, rather than the negatives. With that said, I won’t lie: it was really nice to get a couple of hours “off” last weekend to spend alone with my husband. We went on a non-date date, and it was lovely.

And I wore my joy-sparking pink coat because, well … see description.

J. Crew Dutch floral sweatshirt
sunneeeeee!

Admittedly, I didn’t get very good photos of this outfit (it was cold and time my husband’s patience was limited), but you get the general idea. After wearing this floral sweatshirt non-stop for while last year, I kinda forgot about it – I don’t even know how. Rediscovering it now (with joy, needless to say) made me remember that I had toyed with the idea of getting the pants version of this Dutch floral print. I need you guys to talk me out of it, because eBay beckons … and we all know how that ends.

J. Crew Dutch floral sweatshirt
in the pink

What I Wore: February Work Capsule

February was an Terrible Awful No Good Month for me in pretty much every respect. I don’t even want to get into the gory details because I’m trying to forget it ever happened. The only exception? My outfits – they were pretty good, you guys. Here’s a little confession from me to you: I rarely look back on any one of my monthly archives without cringing at least a little bit. Sometimes things don’t photograph well, to be sure, but more often than not, some outfits just don’t execute as well as one expects. But not this month! I would say that I’d rate almost every one of my outfits as a solid effort. [Side note: I have a hard time handing out superlatives, especially to myself. “Solid” is high praise as far as that goes, so please don’t think I’m humble-bragging or being stupidly self-deprecating or whatever. Deal?] The irony of which outfits did not make that rank will not escape you, once we get down to the details. But, first: I wore 27 pieces for 18 outfits, which is probably a new minimalist low. And I don’t mean “low” in the positive sense.

Now, whenever I plan these monthly “capsules”, I do tend to plan on wearing the same 5-6 “statement” pieces every week; there just happens to be more variability in the number of “completer” pieces that I end up using, and I find that I have little desire to push myself to pare down my selection. There are times when I already feel like I’m wearing the same things over and over – in an obviously repetitive way – and while no one at work has commented on it (or, I expect, noticed it), I just don’t feel inclined to take chances for the sake of some abstract goal. Well, I don’t know. Maybe I will; I’ll let you know in March. #fickle

If you want to read another take on capsule dressing, you must check out Nicole’s post on her accidental capsule.

work wardrobe capsule; office capsule
one, two, three
work wardrobe capsule; office capsule
four, five, six
work wardrobe capsule; office capsule; capsule wardrobe for work
seven, eight, nine
work wardrobe capsule; office capsule; capsule dressing
ten, eleven, twelve
office wardrobe capsule; work capsule; capsule dressing
thirteen, fourteen, fifteen
office wardrobe capsule; work capsule; capsule  dressing
sixteen, seventeen, eighteen

Ok, so my favourite piece this month was clearly my 3.1 Phillip Lim dress. Duh, you probably knew that. Narrowing down my outfit faves was hard, though. Like I said, I liked most of them a lot. It was easier to pick the ones I liked the least, and hold on to your hats, peeps: that would #7, 10 and 14. Holy unexpected turn of events, amirite?

I have to admit, I’ve never been a huge fan of the floral print of this dress, but it really stands out (negatively) from the rest of my capsule this month. I’ll also admit that my first instinct, upon reviewing all the photos together, was to get rid of the dress. I’m all about only holding on to things I love these days, and, clearly, I don’t love-love this dress. It was only $12, so it’s not a huge loss. [Although, in case you were wondering, the current cost-per-wear is a whopping $3. That’s bad, you guys.] But I love the style and fit of the dress, and it is super comfortable. That (combined with the cost-per-wear situation) is making me seriously question the whole purging idea. So, I’m torn. On one hand: letting go of so-so pieces is good, as is the idea of not paying for purchasing mistakes over and over (once out of pocket, and thereafter by guilt-tripping over them). On the other hand: it’s a perfectly nice, serviceable dress. I know it sounds ridiculous, but this dilemma is bugging me. As always, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.

And now, say it with me: ahhhhh, spring is coming!!!! [At least on paper.]